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Dating chat thread 46

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lubeybooby · 14/03/2013 13:37

all dating related chit chat here!

off we go

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lubeybooby · 16/03/2013 13:09

oh good lord my poor eyes. Just got a cock pic, have added it to the options group, obvs.

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KinNora · 16/03/2013 13:14

Waiting for the bus home. Verdict - don't bother buying a hat.

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lubeybooby · 16/03/2013 13:15

Oh Kin, I was just on my way to the milliners as well.

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JulietteMontague · 16/03/2013 13:23

Kin that's just one down, two to go...

KinNora · 16/03/2013 13:23

'Fraid so Lubes. Big tip for future Nora dating applicants - don't tell me about your problems with anxiety 15 minutes into a date - I look as though I care because I have that kind of face, really I don't, you're there solely to amuse me.

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lubeybooby · 16/03/2013 13:24

Just received from stevomcnevo1

Hi
Do you like bondage?

Is it me or is his pic as well as message... creepy

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Snapespeare · 16/03/2013 13:26

velvet 'intelligent, humorous, resilient' gayest you thatis. In spades with jackie Collins rolled in. I hope you're ok today. I'm getting increasing annoyed with Cuthbert. I think you deserve the moon and stars. I hate seeing you wait around for this guy. I know you really like him, but I think you deserve much better and I know he broke your 2nd date curse, but he makes me go grrrrr!

juliette well done for weight loss! I can feel weigh creeping back on again...I'll need to do a cople of weeks of very low carbs to get me back on the straight and narrow. Love that description of you as v glam and striding around taking lovers as suits you. I do like that idea of how we 'see' each other

lubes sorry about flake. Ugh. I guess there will always be a fair amount of all-mouth-no-trousers men who bail. I can categorically state that it is always them andnever us you. Love the description of your DD on the phone to her young man. :D my DD has a lovely BF, who thinks the world of her, she would never stand any shit from him or anyone else. I think we're all bringing up amazingly strong young women.

WFF :D at David Attenborough.

Wave at the rest of you lovely lot.

I'm going to stop posting about nameless. It's just disgustingly soppy at the moment (I love the flowery stuff me... And the filth as well. I'm bilingual) and I'm aware that while you all share in my absolute delight at having snagged a good 'un... It can get a bit saccharine. I'll post if anything horrendous or absolutely amazing happens, but unless it does, can we all just assume that I am walking around with a smile that would blow out the Blackpool illuminations, consider myself astonished to be in the same room as him, especially if items of clothing are being removed and am generally just really very happy. I'm even tolerant of his use of marmite on toast. I think it's love.

I'll still post, obviously, if I may. I'd miss you all, like I miss a lot of folk who now lurk because they're happily coupled.

Movingforward123 · 16/03/2013 13:28

snape glad it's all going so well GrinI wish I could meet someone like that! Did you find him online?

Ok so with regards to the brothers friend I still havnt called him and he hasn't called or text me either Hmm

All week I've thought not going to bother calling him as he clearly isnt that bothered about me. And today I'm fed up and thinking about calling him! As he would probably come and take me out if I did.

Also I havnt has any action for about a month and it's affecting my mood Hmm

And just to add to problems dds dad has been around a lot an I really really want to sleep with him!

I still can't walk and I'm still at my mums and I'm fed up!

Any suggestions? Should I call brothers friend? Should I sleep with dds dad? As the sex is amazing which I havnt had for over two years!

JulietteMontague · 16/03/2013 13:29

Lubey that's his blue steel. The placing of the pitbull dog is rather odd too.

VelvetSpoon · 16/03/2013 13:29

Lubey no hes weird.

And his living room needs a bloody good tidy up and declutter

Grin
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lubeybooby · 16/03/2013 13:33

Snape you absolutely must still post. We desperately need happy people who this malarkey worked for Shock it's just brilliant. And post whatever you like, I love it, but then I'm not the type really, being an old romantic deep down :o

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VelvetSpoon · 16/03/2013 13:34

Snape I am really happy for you :) Almost as happy as I would be for myself if anything as great ever happened to me.

I'm willing to wait around for C for a bit. I honestly don't think he's a player, or seeing other people, or just stringing me along (I might be wrong, I only think I know everything!), and that it won't always be like this. But we'll see. There's no rush. And I do get (and C should realise this!) a lot of attention from other men at the moment. Mostly potatoes admittedly Grin

VelvetSpoon · 16/03/2013 13:35

Oh, and keep posting.

I might be a bit Envy but I can keep that in check!

JulietteMontague · 16/03/2013 13:36

Moving No, no and no (for any buts). Why call up a man who hasn't been in touch and DDs Dad is your ex for a reason. You are stuck indoors which won't be helping your mood either, you probably wouldn't consider either of them otherwise.

JulietteMontague · 16/03/2013 13:36

Snape as long as you promise to stay around, I would miss you if you didn't.

JulietteMontague · 16/03/2013 13:45

Snape and your happiness is all good, it's lovely and very similar to what I would like and I don't want anything less and why I'm still single so I like hearing about it. Spurge away if you feel the need.

I am now meeting gsm1 this week for coffee, probably Tuesday. GSm2 is likely to be next weekend. POF ones seem to have vanished.

Snapespeare · 16/03/2013 13:45

moving nabbed him off of OKC. I'd banged some appreciative stars on his profile (god knows what I was thinking, he was 12 years younger than me, incredibly and some and frankly a bit out of m league. He sent me a short note saying thanks and generally being very amusing (I'd forgotten I'd starred him) we had a coffee a couple of weeks after that.. I really liked him, but also need that he didn't like me, because generally people I don't like don't like me, or see me as 'hot friend' or have a lot of issues... I've also reasoned that there is no chance of any future in it, as I'm a 45 year old single parent to three surly teenagers and he's 33 and has CFS. But I'm not concerned about longevity as right now I'm brilliantly happy, I can't look at him without wanting to touch him. He's amazing.

I will shut up now. I said I'd stop bleating on about him.

No. Don't shag your ex. No no no no no no. They're an ex for a reason. Don't contact Neighbour chap either. Get yourself on IE.

ike1 · 16/03/2013 13:45

Now Kin ...get that IE account going tonight!

Snapespeare · 16/03/2013 13:51

Sorry moving not neighbour- chap (why do I think that?) I mean brothers friend. Sorry you're still not able to get home... Did someone mention maybe trying to get home w/o DD for a Couple of days for a rest from your mum?

KinNora · 16/03/2013 13:58

Snape you have to keep posting, it gives me hope that somewhere there's a Nameless with my name written all over him.
I was toying with saying you are the thread's Jim Bowen - 'here's what you could have won' as you gesture toward a speedboat but that's not a particularly accurate analogy as I feel very happy for you rather than cursing the missed opportunity to park a big, shiny craft in my front garden.

ohmyrainydays · 16/03/2013 14:06

I've had to name change because of a nosey ex. Last week i learnt to stay away from men who aren't deep and how to decorate my especially feminine garden.

Why is it some men think that even though you ignore them sending more messages is the thing to do?

Does anyone have problems with text sex with men they haven't met yet? The bloke I'm meeting next week for coffee wanted to do it last night but i just couldn't. He was very lovely about it but it just felt all wrong. Am i a weirdo?

I'm also talking to someone who asks loads and loads of questions and i feel a bit like him being interviewed. It's putting me off a bit.

Movingforward123 · 16/03/2013 14:23

Snape - it all sounds great and I hope you keep posting too Grin and the age difference doesn't mean it can't last!

Well with going home alone I wouldn't leave my dd here without me as she won't sleep alone and I wouldn't want her to sleep with my mum and her partner in their bed. So if I go so does dd Wink

My mum has been great but I feel like I hate relying on anyone. Actually being dependant on anyone including my own mum is a nightmare for me. No wonder I'm still single and not in a settled and living relationship!

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KinNora · 16/03/2013 14:26

So, proper date report now.

( background is Weird Coincidence Man is originally from my home city, went to the same school as exh and we knew the same people in the 80s ).

I'd never been to the coffee bar I suggested as a venue, turned up and it was tiny, hideously busy and the seating was my bête noire, the bar stool. I'm too short for bar stools. Anyway he turned up late as he thought we'd said 11.30.
He looked very familiar, worryingly I think I may have snogged him in my teenage years.

He persisted in wittering on about his anxiety and the stress levels of his job - hmmm mmmm, understanding head on side, ' that's no way to live' when what I always think about in these circumstances is throwing in some examples from my job - take that, ya big Jessie ! .

There couldn't have been less of a spark if he'd been Jim Davidson.

One positive thing I've learned through OD though, is that I'm not actually as shy and socially shite as I think I am, I appear to be able to talk to strangers in a reasonably engaging way - huzzah !

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lubeybooby · 16/03/2013 14:51

I've been spoilt by the PoF IE Glasgow experience.

Reactivated earlier for a more local nosey and oh dear god it's just awful. AWFUL. I have one possible, ticks all the boxes and though he wants to meet he's just lacking a bit of oomph, enthusiasm, or something. So therefore it's really not inspiring and I CBA.

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