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Dating thread no 45

999 replies

JulietteMontague · 08/03/2013 21:59

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

OP posts:
OhWesternWind · 09/03/2013 18:25

What happened at the party Bant? You've been very quiet on that score!!

Good luck, hope she's a good'un.

MirandaWest · 09/03/2013 18:41

Have fun Bant :)

WarmFuzzyFun · 09/03/2013 18:47

Phew! Have caught up at last. Like chasing a ball of string downhill.

Well hello my internet friends!Smile

So much going on on this forty-fifth thread, I am thrilled for you all who are enjoying the attentions of someone who is most of all suitable SU Grin

I am stacking up some dates for the forthcoming weeks, a special thank you to the three (yes three) posters who responded to my request for help Thanks. I am so grateful.

Okay let me tell you a little crafty plan that has emerged...

I am on POF, so I have 2 very different profiles (marketing ploy 101): one with pics and says looking for dating/relationship, the other without pics says intimate encounter (IE).

Anyways, my IE profile (no pics) was very very popular (over 400 messages). Some of the SU guys who responded have on their profile wanting dating/relationship. So what I have decided to do is to contact them via my dating/relationship profile as a 'I saw your profile, liked it etc...' type message and see what happens.

So far success! Two of the men who contacted my IE profile (no pics) have responded favourably to my dating/relationship profile (pics)...although there is probably holes in my logic/strategy...c'est la vie, it is all fun and games.

Original poster
JulietteMontague · 09/03/2013 18:48

Bant enjoy.

Ike defo innocent face as always

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lulubellaboozle · 09/03/2013 19:14

Thank you all, I don't like it, but I won't tell him not to go or make him choose. I have told him it makes me uncomfortable and suggests he come here afterwards so we can spend Sunday evening together. I have also suggested that going forward he thinks about trying to reduce the reliance and phone calls from her about nothing, so that it is amicable and related to DD. He seems fine with it all, but big thank you because this could have been the start of one of my melt downs. I have actually met her already and she is nice enough not a patch on me but she asked him after of she could meet my kids and I said no, there is no reason too. I have enough of my own friends I don't need her in my life.

EternalRose · 09/03/2013 19:30

Lulu, why on earth would she ask him to meet your kids, strange woman! Confused

Movingforward123 · 09/03/2013 20:05

Hey everyone. I was just about to call brothers friend and chickened out! It's Saturday night. What If he's busy? Or out with someone else? I'm wondering if I should call him in the week instead! Or I'm leaning towards texting again and wimping out lol

OhWesternWind · 09/03/2013 20:28

Just call him ...

Snapespeare · 09/03/2013 20:35

Nooooooooooooh! On a Saturday night you are an international woman of mystery, far too busy and important to bother withe such flotsam,

Sunday afternoon, maybe.

You already texted him, didn't you?!

Poppysquad · 09/03/2013 20:40

Hi all. I can't keep up with everything thats going on here. I do try.

Well a very pleasant evening with SD on Friday. Walk down to the pub, a meal and bottle of red wine and a walk back. Chatted easily with him. We do get on well. No sex, not even any real snogging, but he does tell me I am lovely and I love the way he reaches out for my hand when we walk anywhere together. I just want to be wanted.

I need to give things a bit longer dont I ? I am still concerned...

OhWesternWind · 09/03/2013 20:46

If you still have concerns Poppy I think you're doing exactly the right thing with taking your time. There's no rush at all. Make sure you're happy with how things are going before you take things further. What have you told him about staying over next week?

Snapespeare · 09/03/2013 20:48

Bugger. Drank wine. Might have responded to a text from nameless with a ps that I'm 'smitten' with him.

Expect disaster...

Poppysquad · 09/03/2013 21:03

Hi OWW. I have sort of avoided the question at the moment. I have actually arranged to go out straight from work with a girlfriend on Monday, a long standing arrangement.

I am seeing him tomorrow though, hopefully for a walk, weather permitting. I will talk to him about it then.

I do really like him lots but worry about being hurt by him turning around and saying that he doesn't want to be with me again.

OhWesternWind · 09/03/2013 21:08

Well, the arrangement to go out on Monday kills two birds with one stone - you'll have a great time plus a genuine reason for not spending the night.

Maybe you should tell him you want to take it slowly as you are worried about a repeat performance off him, and see what he says.

Poppysquad · 09/03/2013 21:20

I agree OWW, I just have this huge fear of falling into a one way relationship. We do seem able to talk about most things, so hopefully that bodes well.

Movingforward123 · 09/03/2013 21:34

Snape i agree too busy to call him on a Saturday Wink

And no I didn't text him! I was waiting for wise advice from you all Grin

48howdidthathappen · 09/03/2013 21:39

Nameless is lovely snape

I told Mr R&R about Mr OZ last night. I don't know if Mr OZ will get in touch at the end of the month as I didn't write back in the end. Too much going on.
But if he does, I would love to see him. I needed to tell Mr R&R as I wouldn't do anything behind his back. He asked some questions about mine and Mr OZs 'relationship. I was completely open. He understands I think.

My mum isn't coming home until Friday now. Grrr!

lubeytoobooby · 09/03/2013 22:02

hey hey

I am very drubk and enjoying my hotel room all to myself :o just eaten the whole welcome gift of cakestrawberries and blueberries. burp.

had a v goo d evening drinking and drinkig and currying

EternalRose · 09/03/2013 22:26

Ha Lubey, you sound like you are having a wonderful time.

Just noticed your new nickname too Grin

Bant · 09/03/2013 22:30

Right. Loo update. She talks a lot. I mean, a LOT.

Not as attractive as her pics, but then nor am I probably. She's funny. And talkative. I'm not sure yet. Several beers down, she's becoming very attractive. And funnier.

Update when I get home. Possibly.

lubeytoobooby · 09/03/2013 22:34

I nearly invited a colleague back but decided I'd rather take my make up off and pig out, so that what I'm doing.

Date tomorrow evening. hurrah

ike1 · 09/03/2013 23:05

Sounds lush lubes enjoy...

ike1 · 09/03/2013 23:17

Hey babe do u no u got the most sexyest eyes in the world u enjoying ur weekend sexy girl I want a kiss of ur beautiful lips and kis ur body lol xx I'd give u anything ur stunning xx I would love 2 take u out xx

How can I refuse such a romantic and beautifully written offer (Shakespeare listen up)...now I know why I cant be arsed to open most of the messages...oh well at least it was more than one line...fair dos

mercury7 · 09/03/2013 23:35

ha ha..inyour dreams shit-for-brains eh Ike

ike1 · 09/03/2013 23:38

Well I know Merc....he could have at least run it through the spellcheck before pressing send...lazy git!! You feelin more cheerful tonight?

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