Dating thread no 45

[JulietteMontague]

Online and real life dating chat, all welcome

ike I checked him out, not my type but he does have a very beautiful face. Could the wedding ring not be just an old picture from when he was married? I may be being very naïve, my men choosing skills are a bit wonky at the moment. I think we're fishing from the same pond as well.

All quiet on the men front which is good.

Did we establish that Ike's beautiful man is a fake profile?

If it looks to good to be true it probably is. There are plenty of men being conned by beautiful models on the internet, the silly billy's.

No it doesn't look fake, but he's wearing a wedding ring in one of the pictures.

OWW whoohoooo! so pleased for you, both the way it's going with LM and the fact that you've been so brave is saying what you wanted.

Snape hope you are feeling a bit better by now, drink does this to me too. Is Nameless going to get checked today? Maybe it's that hanging around in the back of your mind too.

Bill was in a doctors waiting room with previous post, was just blurting options not trying to rearrange your life

Bill - my sympathies mate, it sounds like you're being completely reasonable.

There are several options people have outlined, if there was a way of having one weekend to yourself but you start late every second Monday morning so you can drop the kids at school or something - I think it's a lovely thing to do when i get the chance to do it (or to pick them up) - it depends how flexible your job is. Or getting your parents involved if they're nearby - even for babysitting at yours. I hate the thought of getting babysitters to look after my DC when I have them, so I only generally get one or two nights a month to myself in the UK, if that. But if babysitters are an option for evenings then at least you can see friends on weekends.

If your parents can have the DC for a weekend, or one night of it, then that also gives you a day to yourself.

I find it difficult wrestling with my conscience when I only have my girls every other weekend and holidays and yet need some time free - I get free time in Hungary but never in England to catch up with friends, do shopping, that stuff. Everythings always a compromise.

But you are not a bad dad. Sounds like your ex is taking advantage of the situation.

sorry to hi-jack the thread, not dating related at all, but I had a job interview last wednesday for a full-time job - needs must and full-time it has to be now! It went really well (I thought) but I forgot to ask when I would hear back from them.

There is no agency involved, so I have emailed this morning, thanking them for their time and asking what the interview process is, when a decision will be made? But as yet, haven't heard back. What do you think is the typical timescale to hear something after an interview? I'm thinking it's not looking so hopeful. Which is a shame, as it is perfect for me and I would love to get the job!

Lulu I think it can be really variable as to when you hear back, from the same afternoon to a couple of weeks later. One interview I went for waited three weeks to send me a letter inviting me back for a second interview. So I don't think you need to despair yet.

Bant have you heard anything from your last date? Sorry, not with it today, can't remember what she was called, but the talkative trousers-on one.

Thanks again. Good advice and options, and don't worry about "trying to take over my life" juliette . I've chatted toy parents and their comment that rung true was that they wanted to help me out but just seemed to be helping her out. And like bant, when they're with me I feel bad about getting a babysitter.

Right.... Interesting conversation coming up with the ex then.

Lulu what OWW said. If it is govt agency, nhs or similar it could be weeks as they have to satisfy certain recruitment criteria. I think you did fine to send the email, I hope you get some good news soon.

Jan ...and what a shallow pond it is! Bill do the convo or maybe put the proposal in writing/text if you think you are facing instant dismissal but with the proviso that you want to talk about the arrangement properly. I auggest you say it IS happening ...otherwise it may be waved away by the sounds of it.

Bill time to put yourself and DC first and that also means your resources (time, parents, money whatever) go towards helping you and DC. Do not get gilt tripped, I would also take time to work out exactly what you would like for your and DC and stand firm. You are not being unreasonable here, it was not an accident you 'heard' you were.

I also echo Bant on trying to see if you can take DC into school yourself sometimes, I rarely got to do this and when I did I loved it and felt more involved. It is amazing how much you get from it in terms of meeting other parents in passing, play date set ups, other parents phone numbers etc and of course you get to meet teachers and DC's school friends.

Hi OWW - yes, we emailed each other a few times yesterday, we're trying to find a time we're both free to meet up again before she heads back to the US for a long weekend, and I head back to England for the same. Probably Wednesday night. MedStudent.

So - she's nice. Interesting, educated, very very talkative. She's right-wing, which I don't like, but I'm okay with people being of a different persuasion as long as they're not shit with it. She's attractive. She reminds me a bit of the Safrican though - very intense. She kind of surprised me when we kissed because she bit my lip. Hard. A lot. And was really quite aggressive - not nasty, just grabbing my hands, putting them where she wanted them to be, that kind of stuff. Which is nice sometimes, but it was a bit strong for a first date - it gives the impression she'll always be like that, and I like a mix of gentle and aggressive depending on the mood.

I've got another date tonight, first one with Buffy. I wouldn't arrange it now I'm planning date 2 with MedStudent but I'd already arranged it so I'll go. Her photos look okay, and I'll generally date someone who doesn't look actually unattractive as a photo is just that. She looks interesting and quirky and nice, but I wasn't falling in love with the pictures. In person, she could have a cute way of tossing her hair back, or a lovely laugh, or something like that. It's just a beer with someone who sounds interesting and is fluent in English, which is a change (well, she's fluent in American anyway) - and a 90% match on OKC, which may mean something or not. MedStudent was 82%.

tricky about the kids, I remember once refusing (purely out of spite) to have mine when they were scheduled to be with him.
They were very young at the time.

It was lucky I was such an unhelpful bitch because that night their bedroom ceiling fell down, all of it, all at once at 1am.
Massive chunks of plaster everywhere (it was an old converted flat) including their pillow.
It would have been VERY nasty if they'd been asleep in their beds.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the weather improves here or my plans for tonight will be ruined

I fuckin hate having my lip bit unless I have invited it! Annoying!Have we got another Ms Amazeballs of something?? However it's sounding fun Bant!

Serendipidous the Merc....not spite then...nore a mother's intuition! Remind me what are you doing tonight?

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ffs that.....

Bant if a woman bites your lip hard, wouldn't you be a bit worried about her biting ever more delicate parts? Also, maybe I'm missing something but if a man bit my lip hard (I would expect someone to do anything like that gently initially to see if I was into it) I would be seriously wtf. Same goes for (the many) men who grab my hand and shove it on their crotch. Fine after a while if that is what does it for both but on first meeting, is this just me?

bloke that I like very much is supposed to be coming round for 'slap & tickle' (as opposed to 'bite & grab' :o )
but not if the roads are bad

I am wishing you a speedy thaw Merc! No Jules totally with you on that one hundred percent...I would feel like puching that person Hard!

I wouldn't feel happy at having my lip bitten tbh although may have been known to do a little biting slightly further on in a relationship.

It takes flights a while to get to California.....and there's a lot of sea in the way.

Morning thread! I am lying in bed in NYC .. We went out to Cuban bar last night and we ended up chatting and salsa dancing and snogging a couple of twenty ish year old Cubans ..

I have finished it for good with Mr Cheeky and I am going to sign up for OKC when I get back .. Got lots of pics from this weekend to use on my profile

thank you thank you Ike, just a touch of rain would do it:)

I dont recall ever kissing a biter, perhaps I need to get out and snog more people

a gentle lip bite once you know someone is quite nice, a shark attack is not!

Hmm yes Bant biting and rough stuff is strictly by invitation only. I'd hate it if a man did that the first time and would feel quite worried about where it would go in the future if someone was like that from the off. It can be very exciting but only with someone you know well and trust, not with a stranger on date number one.

Good luck for tonight!