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what to do?

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 02:00

Dp invited some bloke i don't even know to sleep.My house is tiny.His roaming about upstairs.His making wierd noises.one minute i can hear him move about then his snoring.My dd is very shy,so if she wakes to go toilet and see a man she doesn't know in there she will be terrified so now i have to keep awake.No doubt theres puke all over the bathroom as i can hear the bath being banged against every now and then

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CordeliaChase · 05/03/2013 02:06

Is this guy drunk? Just go and bang on the door and ask if everything is ok. Better still, kick your dp out of bed so he can check. This guy is your dps responsibility so he has to sort it.

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 02:10

his gone downstairs now.His been up here for ages.I don't feel comfortable about some i don't know roaming my house on the night with my kids in it.

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 02:15

If i thought my snoring pig of dp wouldn't shout at me i would wake him.He will be getting a telling later though when my kids are out of the house.I think his moved this bloke in.Hooe i'm wrong

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 02:20

I think drunk yes.They strolled in about 11.30.My dp never lets himself in though.He bangs on the door and wakes me up.Thanks twat

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Littleturkish · 05/03/2013 02:55

KTBO -kick the bastard out- in your case, bastards plural.

Where is he meant to be sleeping?

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 03:05

on my sofa.Great isnt it.His supposed to be gone by 6.I can't see it myself as his been passing out and making groaning noises

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 03:07

He said this person has no where to stay and he will talk to his mates and see if they will put him up tommorow i.e today thats what makes me think his moved him in

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Monty27 · 05/03/2013 03:09

OMG, I don't have a dp or dh now, but in those days when I had yound dc's i'd have been ringing a cab for anyone wandering around my house unsupervised.

I may well have put exh in it too.

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 03:17

He put me on spot he asked me if his friend if he could stay knowing full well id shy away from saying no.Had he asked me by taking me in another room I'd have said no sorry you know what i told you last time i don't want people i don't know in my house on a night with my kids here.It's not safe for my kids when were are asleep etc

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CordeliaChase · 05/03/2013 03:18

Don't put up with it! Tell your 'd' p that the next time he wants to move some random stranger into your house, you need some warning so you can pack your bags and take yourself and the kids out the way.

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 03:23

I'm glad people arnt saying i have to put up with it because it's his house too.I honestly don't mind if kids aint here or having his mates around during the day or whatever but this takes the piss.The last bloke he invited around came with a mate my dp didn't even know ffs i didn't know until the next day the other bloke was even here.

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 03:28

Oh yeah he failed to mention the other bloke.Just that his friend was sleeping over and he would go 1st thing in the morning.Did he heck.He went about 1pm

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Monty27 · 05/03/2013 03:31

Wouldn't be having it myself.

Hope you get some rest.

TisILeclerc · 05/03/2013 05:21

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Morloth · 05/03/2013 05:29

Seriously? This has happened more than once and now you think he has moved someone in?

NO.

Just NO.

No-one puts my kids at risk, not even their dad.

Say NO.

And if he doesn't like it he can fuck off as well.

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 07:07

well his still here.Have had to my kids brekkie upstairs whilst my dp snores like a pig

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 07:08

He was supposed to be gone by 6 for work

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karatekimmi · 05/03/2013 07:15

Why are you putting up with this? Go and wake the guy up downstairs and ask does he want a taxi booking or is he walking?

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 07:16

My mistake his gone.Thought i saw his head it was a cushion Grin Made my ds come in withe.His defanetly gone but the question is will he be back

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 07:17

*with me

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TisILeclerc · 05/03/2013 07:38

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 07:54

This is the same person who used to allow his son to bring one night stands to our home when we had a baby in the house.I wonder if he would have been alright if it was a daighter bringing random men home

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Morloth · 05/03/2013 08:38

So what are you going to do about it?

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 09:00

I will have ago obviously but it goes through one ear and out of the other.Just wished i had the confidence just to say no people.I'm going to have to practice aint i? What should i say if he comes tonight?If i say sorry not on a school night then thats leaves the weekend.

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RubixCube · 05/03/2013 09:02

If i dissapear.It's because i've zonked out on the sofa,not ignoring people

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