Dating thread 44

[lubeybooby]

Here we go - all dating chat here!

Snape :o

OWW just want to let you know that you'll be in my thoughts today. Make sure you're kind and gentle with yourself, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. and a big hug.

Juliette, I'm sorry about your dad.

Velvet and Scrazy I reckon your parents would have been very proud of the women you've turned into.

Snape that poor lad is going to need some Lucozade.

Snape Yay! to lots and lots

Hope you are ok OWW

Have been talking to a lovely man on Match.com but he's gone very quiet since I answered his question about my kids' ages (6, 2, 9mths).

I think he's run a mile!

Thinking of you, OWW.

Juliette, I can only speak for myself, but I really don't mind you reflecting here if it helps. If it doesn't help, and you'd rather undo what you've typed, then that's fair enough, of course, but I'd hate for anyone to think that they couldn't share what they were thinking.

Thinking of you OWW and lovely picture of your dad on Facebook :)

Hope Snape got some sleep last night

Thank you everyone. Am vaguely okay not really Ashamed to say I've phoned LM.

Juliette, just what Flipper said. I think of this thread as a group of friends and hope we're the same for you whether it's dating stuff or something else.

Juliette I agree with flipper. [hug]

OWW what has he had to say for himself? Are you ok?

McBuckers awww, well his loss if so

Juliette, I agree entirely with flipper and western. I do think of this as a place to share our thoughts, whether dating/relationship related or not. Hope you are ok today.

Western, thinking of you. Saw your dad's photo, he looks like a lovely, kind man. I hope LM is able to put his own crap aside, step up amd support you today.

Well it looks like MN tardiness has intervened, I did request deletion last night but they are still there. I'm really touched by your kindness, thank you. I'm not sure if the posts will vanish at some point when MN realise. Anyway, the power of small kindnesses has worked, maybe it's the permission to grieve but I'm sitting here crying for him for the first time since he died (good thing) . Maybe I'll start my own thread now or maybe this was just enough to start the process for me.

Western I hope you are ok lovely (hugs).

Juliette xx

He was nice, sent a text about my dad after the phone call and said he'll ring later. Spoke to one of the boys. His friend (yes, that one) is over as she's putting her late dad's house on the market and the house is near LM but about 200 miles from where she lives. Hmmm. But it looks like she officially knows about me now anyway ... All these visits have been to do with her dad's house so I will just see how it goes from now on.

Lots of things to think and talk about with all this, but not today. Feeling horribly let down still but I'm just not in the right frame of mind to keep up with the radio silence etc today. Crumbs, I know. I hate myself for doing this but I'm just feeling too low to deal with it all now.

Hugs to you Juliette.

Western, do what you need to in order to get through today.

Thinking of you and juliette xx

My friend who is getting married is driving me to distraction. I may have to start a sep thread about it, I feel bad about ranting over such trivial shit here with all the stuff everyone else is going through!

Echo what everyone has said up thread, Juliette, this should be a place where you can say whatever is bothering you, dating or otherwise. I think everyone does sincerely care and want to provide whatever support we can.

OWW, just do whatever you need to do x

Velvet, is she behaving like some kind of dreadful tyrant ?

Trivial shit is important too Velvet (if that's not too oxymoronic).

Mr Nice is helping his XW today as she moves into new place and old stuff of hers is in his garage. Suspect it will be a day of frustrations as he texted before to say she has loads of stuff and can't get into new house until 2:30 and then will need to go and get the things from his house....

He and I were in bed this morning when Jehovah's witnesses knocked at the door. We ignored them. They knocked again. A bit later he was leaving and I was about to go for a run and they appeared at the car. We pointed out we were not interested and that we had not opened the doir to them before. Am starting to wonder if I should have answered the door naked as that might have driven them away quicker

Sorry that was all about me .

OWW please don't hate yourself - today you need to do whatever is OK for you.

Wonder if Snape has emerged yet....

OWW, I'm thinking of you today. Don't feel bad about contacting LM - the important thing is to get through today, and if speaking to LM has made that even a tiny bit less painful, it sounds as if it was the right thing to do.

Juliette, I agree with what everyone else has said. I've found this thread supportive and caring for both dating and non-dating stuff.

only just emerged! he bought me a tooth brush! choose your hats ladies! was lovely evening & morning. we are not 'in a relationship, but we are 'dating' whatever that means....& are making plans for easter. he's asked about meeting the DCs, he doesnt regard this as a 'big deal' I do, would need to be a bit more certain of where things are heading first. anyway, he's lovely & has no qualms about menstrual blood at all...

OWW hope you are doing ok today & sending best, positive thoughts
x

OWW lots of love to you, bless you. I have a lot in mind to say about him again but today is not the time or place so please remind me to post when you're feeling a bit better. [hug]

Velvet go on do a thread... AIBU loves a bridezilla!

Snape :o

He's kidding himself re: the relationship. If he's getting the urge to meet your kids and buying you personal hygiene items, that's rather boyfriendish! especially meeting DC's

Ok trivial wedding nonsense coming up...

Wedding is in 18 months time. I am bridesmaid (oldest bloody bridesmaid in the world, but hey...). Everything has to be done NOW. Can I choose what dress I want asap? I can have any style except it has to be from a particular shop (who only do 3 styles, 2 of which I wouldn't wear. And fuck knows what size I will be in 18 months. But it has to be bought asap. What shoes will I be wearing? Can I make sure they're not too high...

Then we get onto logistics - she needs to know how I'm getting there and where I'm staying. Again, ASAP. Wedding is just over an hour by car, 2.5 hours by train as have to go via London, on tube etc (plus a long taxi ride as in the arse end of nowhere). I'll have to go by train. With 2 arsey teens and all wedding stuff. And then home again post wedding, same journey. Plus taxis to and from venue etc. And stay 2 nights because she needs me from 9am on morning of wedding. Nearest hotel is £100 per night, and they only have doubles. So that's 2 rooms, for 2 nights...but its not just the cost, it's everything.

It is makimg my head spin. Everyone else has people to give them lifts, or help with stuff. I am being pathetic and whiny about it but I am in a bad mood anyway today and all this is just making me worse!

Sorry :(

I forgot
..he makes a humming tardis noise when he sleeps. I bagged myself a tardis!

I promise my wedding will be small and simple in comparison (hahahahaha!) (velv it sounds like a nightmare!)

Oh velvet that would twist my melon too. She's being insane doing all this 18 sodding months in advance. Especially the dresses and stuff.

When I got married I planned the whole thing in three months flat from engagement to 'I do'

I hope she is at least buying the dress and shoes and she should be paying for your hotel too as you are vital and she 'needs' you. She's being bloody cheeky as hell, bridezillaish and a bit mad, tbh.

Argh she sounds totally bridezilla. There is no need for her to know all those details now at all. She's getting married in Summer 2014? I can see she needs to book somewhere now possibly but doesn't need to know what anyone including her is wearing yet and as for wanting to know your travel plans that is ridiculous.

Snape am nice and :) for you. Would agree with you on meeting DC being a bit of a bigger thing though althiugh I guess it depends on how he is presented so to speak.

Am on worlds slowest bus. Would have been better to walk (slight exaggeration but not that far off).