Dating thread 44

[lubeybooby]

Here we go - all dating chat here!

Just had another immediate reply saying he can't wait. Okaaaayyyy....

I have replied 'yes you can :-P'

Lubey another one who is too much like hard work . . .

Blimey ....its all 'feast' or 'famine' with him Lubes....

He replied again with a :-P

just setting the tone for the pisstaking when I see him...

lovingfreedom I was saving the chat for when I saw you.. As you did warn me there would be more drops in the constant rollercoaster

OWW mr cheeky doesn't want me fussing around .. He says he wants to sort things out himself .. Says he is in love with me and wants to sort things out and for me not to be involved or to see him when he is at rock bottom .. And then he will be back

Happy Birthday Voice! Hope you have a smashing day!

oww depression is such a cruel, cruel thing, isn't it. you never quite know where you are - you want to help, but there isn't really anything that can be done, especially as in your case where he doesn't seem to want to admit the severity of his condition or to seek medical intervention. I absolutely get that it's so hard to contemplate starting again and that the DCs are fond or his DCs and it all seems a bit HUGE so it's easier to do nothing? so I see why you are leaving it to let the dust settle a bit.

ike no. absolutely not. best lines do not = a few syllables in response. he'll need to do better than that.

lubey :) at :-p

Happy birthday voice!

Kirsty enjoy NYC :) it is on my list of places to go one day (it's a long list...!)

Lubey a reply at last, hurrah! no such luck here

sometimes, when you dont get a reply it can be because the other person didnt get the text..unless you get delivery reports on your phone...mind you they're not always accurate!

Happy Birthday Voice I believe there will be a giant lemon roly poly later?

Ike normally I ignore the middle of the night men but I'd see what happens with another message

Me, chatting to two hard work gsm men, both of whom may turn out to be a bit pedestrian. I told one of them I only give my number out after meeting, he then said happy to meet but can't meet until after a certain date two weeks away. .

Voice, Happy Birthday, and please you are not old.

Ike, I found when I was looking on POF that that was generally a standard type response when I messaged good looking men.

OWW, I would be getting tired of it all by now to be honest. Nothing wrong with browsing on the sites now but give yourself a bit more time before you start actively seeking a date.

Lubey, he sounds hard work as well, see how the next date goes though.

Oh just read back and I sound so pessimistic, sorry.

I started to learn to run in January. I have just texted trainer to ask if I can go outside for a run outside in session today. I havent done that since school and I am beyond terrified. This is a huge thing for me, it will be ok yes?

Of course it will Juliette, I used to love running before i did my back in - go for it

Scrazy, he is but I have many irons in the fire so to speak so I'm not all that bothered. We'll see how the date goes... he was never this bad before so maybe it's a blip...

Running is good (well goodish - when I'm doing it I'm not necessarily totally loving it but I keep going ). Did 5 miles this morning which is the furthest I have done in a long time. Want to do 10k in under an hour). There's lots of people running that I seem to see now I'm doing it again and all shapes and sizes and speeds.

I still find running torturous, but not terrifying, you can always alternate walking/jogging/running, intervals possibly have more benefits than keeping a constant pace (?)
what are you terrified about Juliette?

OWW Sorry things aren't going too well. LM does seem a bit 'woe is me'. If he wont get help not alot you can do. I know I would of completely fucked it up with Mr R&R if I didn't sort myself out.

Kirsty Have a great trip. Hope you can work it out with Mr Cheeky.

Lubey Go get him!

Flipper I do feel more positive about my mum coming home. She is miserable in hospital. Gonna be a case of 'suck it and see'.

One of my friends started running 2 years ago. She was a size 18 and could only run for a minute before stopping.

She started off doing couch to 5k and kep going...she is now a size 10 and runs 10-15 miles every weekend (plus shorter distances in the week).

Am going to give it a go myself if I ever get rid of this cough. Will be another thing to distract me from lack of texts...!

Apparently he is staying at his sisters and her kids woke him up...doesnt seem to be a conversationalist...so sod im...bored....beautiful day out there...gonna grab some rays see ya later.x

Couch to 5k is excellent and the feeling of achievement is wonderful :)

Oh Velvet this situation is no good for you ...

Started a thread about LM on the main relationships board and every single reply has told me to chuck him. Don't know if that's what I wanted to hear or not ...

Hope the run goes well Juliette!

OWW I read your thread, just wanted to say that I think summing it up like that seems like a very good idea, on this thread things meander so much that it's hard to keep track of everyones situations.

I hope the thread helps you to decide what to do etc:)

Couch to 5k is indeed brilliant. I know many people who have had a great time and got much much fitter doing it. I just wish i could go back to it... I need at least 10lb off to sort my back out first then I'll be well away on the old treadmill (won't be doing outdoor til much fitter as outside terrain is so much harder)

OWW I read your other thread as well - you write very clearly and I can see why the replies are the way they are. I think overall only you can decide what you are getting out and putting into the relationship and overall how it makes you feel. Being a grown up can sometimes be a bit rubbish.

I have to go out and retrieve a Malory Towers book from XHs car (don't ask) and mystery shop pharmacies pretending I have a headache and a sore back. My life is very varied

Mercury, I'm terrified of falling over, doing my back in again, not being able to do it, crying, being the kid at the back who was only allowed to run round the edge of the fields whilst the others went out .

You are right, we will do intervals, he'll be with me. Yikes, he said yes and I have to leave now. It will be fine, it will be fine

Encouraging words that some of you have done this.

Definitely intervals, Juliette, it's a beautiful day for most of the country I think, you'll love it once you get going

Western, I'm actually not too worried (by my standards) re C, he will be in contact by the end of the week I'm sure. I would be slightly happier if I knew when I was seeing hin next but never mind.

Re your thread, I have read it, and agree you have set it all out very clearly. ATEOTD though as miranda quite rightly says, the only one who knows what its really like on the inside of a relationship and can make a decision is you. Take into account what others say of course, but they're only on the outside looking in. That said, being able to view a situation disapassionately from the outside can be very valuable.