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Dating thread 44

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lubeybooby · 01/03/2013 09:46

Here we go - all dating chat here!

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Snapespeare · 04/03/2013 19:55

(Not me, life? Oh no!)

Grin
48howdidthathappen · 04/03/2013 20:15

My mum is coming home Friday if all goes according to plan Smile

WarmFuzzyFun · 04/03/2013 20:18

Hi Guys and Gals!

It has taken me sometime to catch up. Have just caught up! I took some time off Mumsnet, Match and POF to just detox.

Will post on thread 45 if I don't get left behind by the pace of events.

X

VelvetSpoon · 04/03/2013 20:21

I haven't been off having a life because mine is boring as shit I have however been busy doing 'stuff', so today I:

wrote a 45 page powerpoint thingy at work;
when I got home did 2 loads of washing and cooked a proper dinner with veg rather than eating toast and chocolate
booked tickets to Ladies Day at the local rugby club Grin
and
helped my friends DH with some legal stuff (for which they are excessively grateful and keep trying to pay me though I can't and won't accept)

All of which is nothing but a million and one different attempts to try and distract me from the fact I've heard nothing (as predicted) from C.

Ah well, tomorrow's another day etc....

OhWesternWind · 04/03/2013 20:21

Brilliant news 48

KinNora · 04/03/2013 20:27

That's fantastic news, 48, I'm really pleased for you.

Things continuing apace, Snape

OWW, glad it went ok, he sounds like he's crapping himself at the thought of losing you.

Hello everyone else.

I've had to resort to the draft email to prevent myself emailing Spud, yes, I'm that fed up.

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lubeybooby · 04/03/2013 20:35

Yay, daters! here you are. Very glad you're not all having a life. :o

Snape, that sounds amazingly brilliant. I reckon go for it, he does seem really lovely and you two seem to be sooo good together. I am still very :o for you!

48 aww lovely news

Velvet, my god woman you're wearing me out just reading that. I'm just the same if distracting myself from stupid phones/texts etc too. If fact that's probably the only time I get anything significant done.

I decluttered the kitchen today and have answered what feels like ten thousand mostly stupid and unnecessary work emails. My eyes are bloodshot and trying to close on me. ZZzzzzzz

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lubeybooby · 04/03/2013 20:36

Kin how are the plans going to seduce that fella (I forget the name sorry complete brain fart moment)

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lubeybooby · 04/03/2013 20:37

Mr Software? is that it? hmmm

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KinNora · 04/03/2013 20:42

The plans to seduce Mr Software are on a back burner at the moment, can't quite build up the enthusiasm.

Snapespeare · 04/03/2013 20:46

48 so pleased your mum is coming home! Really happy for you all and hope everything goes swimmingly.

velvet I wish he would text you. I wish I wish!!!

MirandaWest · 04/03/2013 21:02

That's great news 48 :)

I did some work this morning and then mystery shopping and then got children and went to swimming lessons and came back and XH came to look after children and I went and ran brownies. Now back and half way through putting them to bed and then I need to do mystery shopping reports. And I need to find out how Mr Nices first day at new job went.

And then go to bed too late as usual Hmm

AndLibbyMakesThree · 04/03/2013 21:39

48 great news about your mum.

Snape things with Nameless sound just lovely.

Velvet I wish Cuthbert would respond to your texts more quickly.

Mr C met DS for the first time this weekend. It seemed to go amazingly well.

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lubeybooby · 04/03/2013 22:04

I wish he would too.

I seem to have a cuthbert copy in Mr iPhone, who still hasn't replied to 'when?'

I really don't get why he can't just reply 'not for a while, crazy busy, really sorry' though or something like that. (Mr iPhone that is)

le sigh.

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VoiceofUnreason · 04/03/2013 22:12

48 - fab news!!

CastroIsDead · 04/03/2013 22:18

my date went well he's absolutely bloody gorgeous and lovely and wants to see me tomorrow night. yay

OhWesternWind · 04/03/2013 22:24

(Some) men, huh.

Please advise on latest in LM saga. I know what you're going to say ... Honestly, I'm wondering if I can be bothered. Severe drama queen alert.

Bit of texting tonight, but no kisses on the texts, answers a bit short, so I said I was going then thought no, not having this, I'll phone him. So I asked him what was up, got a whole spiel about how fucked up he is, what hard work he is, how he is beating himself up and racked with guilt over how he has treated me, how can he make it up to me, feels so bad for messing me about etc etc. all silly nonsense. I said if I can move on from it then he can, best thing to do us learn from your mistakes instead of beating yourself up. Anyway it all got a bit silly, kind of my life's a total mess stuff. Said I just wanted to enjoy myself with him, have a good laugh, go to bed, not all this angst. Also said i didn't want to meet him on Wednesday but I'm going to after all but I have just about had enough of all this. I said I wanted to see how things go after he's got the shop open and has straightened himself out.

Feel quite down, really don't want to get into all this complicated nonsense. It is all silly crap. Don't really want to finish it, either but I can't be doing with this.

OhWesternWind · 04/03/2013 22:25

Tell us more Castro!

VoiceofUnreason · 04/03/2013 22:36

OWW - I would probably say what you think I am going to say. So I won't say it!!!! But I'm still with Lubey. I don't see the point in you hanging in there any more. I'd call it a day BUT that doesn't preclude you from trying again if and when he gets his life in order if he made the effort and you wanted it. Bother, I said it after all! Smile

splishsplosh · 04/03/2013 22:37

OWW - I could be being unfair but it does seem like he has made this all about him - so even though he let YOU down, it seems like he is mainly worrying about how that has left HIM feeling - and almost as if it is your job to reassure him, and make him feel better about what went on. Whereas what you'd hope he'd do is say, you're right, I behaved badly and let you down, I'm really sorry and I won't make the same mistake again...

I'm sorry you're having to deal with all this

CastroIsDead · 04/03/2013 22:42

oww i don't know the whole situation but it sounds like hard work hope you get it sorted
short date he was tired from work but conversation flowed ok and he touched me a few times. just lovely. wants to see a film tomorrow so hopefully he will touch me abit more in the dark Blush

Flipper924 · 04/03/2013 22:48

OWW, splish just said exactly what I was thinking. I know you care about each other a great deal, but there seems to be an awful lot of neediness on both sides. Which could, of course, mean that you're perfect for each other, but I'm worried that you are so keen to please, that you are prepared to overlook a smidgen too much?

I'm super impressed at you calling him, though. This could be a start to much more effective communication!

48, that's good news. Hope it all goes well for her. Are you more confident about it now?

Flipper924 · 04/03/2013 22:49

Ooh, castro, another date tomorrow? Very speedy!

CastroIsDead · 04/03/2013 22:54

yes hopefully. he is only around for a few weeks so seems like speedy is the way to go? im having negative thoughts, bad habit of mine but he said he wants to see me again and suggested pictures so that means he wants to see me again right?

VelvetSpoon · 04/03/2013 23:00

Western, I am not at all in a position to give advice given how things are with me and C* but I do rather think LM is behaving like a bit of a dick tbh - whether intentionally or not. Rather than just saying 'bloody hell Western, I'm sorry I've been such a fuck up - how can I make this up to you? ' (even if the answer from you was simply don't do it again!) it feels like he's just being oh poor me about it making it all into a big drama about him and fishing for sympathy from you.

Now this could all be to do with the 1001 other things he's got going on, and it might not be the real him at all. I suppose all that would start to worry me is whether every time he is under any stress, he is going to behave (even to a much lesser extent) like this, and if that was a possibility, whether it was something I could potentially put up with...

(*still no text. It does baffle me, because I know he likes me, a lot. Just weird)

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