This is going to be long
MrCm - first messaged me on my IE profile, we spoke for almost a year on and off. He always initiated contact. His mum had heart attack early Jan, this seemed to spur him into action and we had a coffee. He said he needed a friend and felt very lonely. Coffee was lovely. He is attractive and nice to talk to. At the end of the coffee, he said I thought I was lovely, he was attracted to me and will meet up again soon.
Three days later, I had a gremlin in my house, he popped over and we had a coffee and snogging
The following week, he continued to text but each one got shorter. At the end of the week, I asked him if he was pulling back and he said he wasn't sure if he was ready for anything. His marriage ended four years ago and he hasn't had female interaction bar a few snogs in that time. I believe him, I think. So I deleted his number and told him if he felt ready to contact me. I also told him if he wasn't up for casual, I would be up for dating as I really liked him
Five days later I wake up to a text. We chit chat for a few days. Then he has his kids for the week so I didn't contact him in that time as I didn't want to intrude. We had a brief convo on POF on tues and his tone had something weird about it again. I wished him a happy valentines and heard nothing.
So, thurs evening - feeling glum about being single on VD again - I text him a bit of a rant. I said manners cost nothing and is one of the things I value above all else, honesty being the other one. I asked him why he bothered contacting me after I deleted him, if he was going to ignore me and that I was deleting his number again as I was confused by him
Text came back immediately, he was sorry, kids leaving upset him and I was right, he was rude. I said I was sorry that he was upset and I understand how hard it is being NRP. He came back with thank you for caring, not many people do. In 5 texts, he said thank you 5 times, so the manners chat seemed to work
Next morning - him: good morning, how's u followed by few texts of chat, this morning same thing. He's out tonight so I said have a good one - nothing since
Now, do I continue bothering? He hasn't offered another date but also doesn't seem willing to stop the contact and each time I have told him it's not worth it, he has come back and changed some of the things I have said have annoyed me
My problem is I really, really like him. I would love to get to know him properly as we have lots in common, I felt we clicked and I fancy the arse off him. I am totally confused. Would you persevere and wait until he was ready to meet? I feel like I should but am also tearing hair out and think it would be easier to just delete and forget
Sorry, very long