Here we go again. Dating thread 42

[VoiceofUnreason]

Evening all. As you were.

Velvet I know you and C don't phone, but maybe you could then at least you'll have an answer? The first time LM phoned me he texted first to ask if it was okay, which was a good thing to do. Could you text C and say that you'll call him tonight at 8 or whatever? Then you could just say you're sorting out your plans for the weekend and ask if you're doing something this Friday or next.

I don't think the not communicating thing means he doesn't like you - like you say, he is very, very into you when he sees you which is what counts

My darlings...mucho apologies...I gave bunk info last night about the eye bag situation.

Apparently what is needed is a Hydradermie Lift Yeux. This provides:
Drainage
Muscle stimulation
Modeling Massage

£65 for hour and a half.

I am having those when the manager gets back from her hols.....it is THAT complew (yeah right). As you were huns....

complex

mercury yep, you'd think I was the most stubborn person alive with that horoscope line-up whereas I'm actually very easy going. There are very few things over which I am intransigent and I always do my best to understand the other point of view even if I don't agree with it.

As to "making" people do something they don't want to or isn't normal, no I'd not react well to being told what to do either. What I say is "I like it when ..." or something of that ilk. When asked what I want in a relationship, I do specify that regular and respectful communication is critical. I'm sure that's put some people off ... no problem, they weren't for me. From my perspective, its not about making demands, its just about being honest about what works for you and what doesn't and doing so in a pleasant manner. I am equally open to someone who does the same to me. For example an ex didn't like using the phone, he preferred online chat. As he spent far longer "talking" to me that way, I never complained but I did find it odd ... particularly when he converted easily to phone conversations once we stopped dating and became just friends

Velvet I agree, he likes you, no doubt about it ... maybe he's just lacking in social skills?

Juliette that young man is seriously letting the side down (the toy boy side that is). Tsk ...

Oh btw, anyone who is open to the toy boy thing, take a look at www.toyboywarehouse.com They do charge but have lots of free evenings, days, weekends etc which allow most people to make contact if not in a hurry. They also do have short-term plans (you can be a member for just a week absurdly cheaply). Also, most of the people on there aren't stupid, they don't look like potatoes and there's very little of the lol and hun-ing ...

velvet some people just don't communicate very well over devices. I went out with post-DCs dads for something like six years and we spoke on the phone ONCE!

I think Cuthbert likes you too :-)

Currently playing 'words with friends' w/nameless. His first word was 'fecal' please don't let him be trying to tell me something..

Joyless, that website looks like fun with potential..

it looks alot more civilized than the sites I used, but I get plenty of offers from younger men so why would I pay?
Since I'm only really looking for sex I'd feel like I was paying to get sex and that's just not going to fly!

are men on paid sites are any less likely to pull the 'shag & run' manoeuver

Meeting Mr Irish at 7.45! I am petrified. Help me channel my inner calm pleeeeeeaase

hang in there, grit your teeth/do some deep breathing/jog on the spot..the moment of truth is ONLY 45 minutes away and will soon be behind you:o

are you petrified of anything in particular?

ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm you'll be okommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.x

Calm, Nomore... you'll be fine! Good luck :o

Take a nice deep slow breath, Nomore, hold it and then breathe out slowly and gently, repeat a couple of times. You'll be fine, go for it !

oooh yuck I do know that feeling though ...it is a bit like going for an interview isnt it?

Soothing vibes! Soooooooooooooothe!!!

Love you guys!! In taxi doing my breathing!!

Good luck Nomore!

good luck Nomore, hope it goes well :)

I am trying not to look at my phone, as still waiting for a text. This is a bit rubbish actually.

for nomore

for velvet

Actually velv I'm feeling a bit narked on your behalf. I think you should make plans to do something else this weekend. even if thatis sitting at home in pyjamas watching telly does he tend to be a bit last minute? Have you ever had to say, 'no, sorry i can't do such and such and offer an alternative'? Because I'd start to be inclined to say 'well, we didn't have firm plans, so I'm afraid i'm going to do something terribly thrilling with George Clooney'

Snape, no need to be narked. I am a bit sad, and somewhat peeved, and I think that's enough emotion invested in the outcome!

To be fair to C, he's only last minute about the specific arrangements, but in terms of agreeing a day etc, that's normally agreed a good few days/week ahead. Which means I probably won't see him this Friday and therefore not for at least another 9 days, because Fridays are pretty much the only day we can see each other

Velvet this really is a bit rubbish . It's not very considerate. Did you think about phoning at all then at least you're not hanging on waiting? I'd expect arrangements for a Friday to be made Wednesday at the latest, or maybe with your dcs being older it's different if there's not a babysitter to arrange.

48 thinking of you today and wondering how things are with you and your mum. Hope you're feeling a bit better.

Also, I have got some stuff arranged so that I dont spend all weekend moping like a wet lettuce in the likely event I either a) hear nothing from him or b) he can't do Friday.

So I'm out with friends tomorrow night, might let one of the blokes that are messaging me take me for a drink on Saturday, and on Sunday I am meeting the friend who has asked me to be her bridesmaid, to deal with some wedmin. Wedding is not til next year but she likes to be organised

Western, I've already texted so I won't ring him, it's up to him to reply. I expect he will eventually.

Sounds like you have a good weekend planned Velvet (apart from the wedding stuff. Aaargh). Which bloke are you going to pick to be Mr Saturday??