New beginning. Dating thread 41

[lubeybooby]

Dating chit chat here :)

Yep. Albeit in 1983 and a couple of hundred miles away.

scrazy I think your right, I told him I don't think I'll have a babysitter and he said well if you get one we will go out Thursday. If not I'll take you out another time

I like the idea of being taken out, is it bad for me to go out in dates etc even if I dont think it will turn into a relationship?

Mrw never took me out an when he did he acted like it was a massive deal. Even the thought of this guy wanting to take me out on valentines day after only being with him twice makes me smile

The other thing was that the other day when we slept together I felt wobbly and thought oh no, that can't be much of a turn on, but he obviously doesnt seem bothered by that!

Any tips to make me feel more confident naked?

Moving - no, no, no, no, no and no - it's never bad to enjoy going out without a relationship. You deserve some fun, never think otherwise.

Oh Libby be kind to yourself tonight - hot bath, rum and ginger (both of which I've got on the go tonight) or whatever it takes to get you through it. It's really disappointing when you've psyched yourself up for seeing someone and then plans change, especially when it's not that easy to make them in the first place, and especially when you're feeling low.

I wonder if it'd be worth phoning up the school and asking the SENCO to phone you at lunchtime or after school for a quick chat so maybe s/he can give you some advice to tide you over for half term? The holidays must seem a bit daunting at the moment and it's hard to find the strength to keep on sometimes. Is there any family that could look after your ds for a day or an afternoon to give you a break and time to recharge the batteries?

Hope you can arrange something with Mr C soon. Chin up, sweetheart.

Libby Don't doing anything hasty. Sleep on it if you can. I am going to put Mr R&R out of mind for now. Let him figure it out.

Managed the hospital, kept the smile on.

You are all bloody wonderful

No Moving - enjoy going out on some dates, have fun and a good time. As for the wobbly bits, bugger 'em. He's really not going to notice or care.

joyless the first night we slept together he admitted that he told my brother before that he liked me and thought I was attractive, he also said he would never have said anything to me as he thought I would never be interested in him.

So I don't think he was really really into me or even thought about me a lot, but I do think he is being very sweet towards me and I don't think he is generally that sweet with girls. But obviously that's only going on the information I get from my brother

and a big hug, 48.

Good for you, 48. Concentrate on what you have to for the moment, the rest will all sort itself out. Big hug to you.

kin thanks I do want to go out and enjoy being treated nicely for a change, mr w didn't treat me well or mrrich!

But this guy who seems very rough round the edges seems to be sweeter then any of them so far!

weatern I am bothered by the wobbly bits though and it's not so much the being naked bit, but if we are in certain positions and he holds me in a certain way I feel like a big massive jelly belly

Moving, go for it. Life's too short to turn down opportunities for fun.

moving sounds to me like he likes the full package .. Wobbles and all!!

48 fake it till you make it .. How is your mum?? X

Thanks everyone for the support and advice. I'm still feeling down but am going for an early night (DS woke for the day at 4.45 this morning!) and am hoping things may look slightly brighter tomorrow.

OWW, thanks once again. LM is very lucky to have someone as caring as you. You're right, the holidays are daunting, especially as it's extremely hard to keep DS occupied (he doesn't like toys, or much else really!) Sadly there's no family to help out (apart from his dad who has him once a week) so I'll be coping on my own during the holidays.

48, well done for coping ok at the hospital - you have such a lot to deal with right now. Sorry that things are difficult with Mr R&R - thinking of you and hoping that you can sort it out (if you want to of course) as he's sounded great up until now. I'm wondering if, like in my case, something quite minor he's done might seem far worse than it is because of all the other stress in your life (though I may be totally wrong).

Thanks again to everyone - I know this isn't the right place to post for support regarding my DS, but I couldn't think of anyone in RL I could talk to, and am really grateful for this thread.

Snape - what is stopping you? I'm really trying to live in the moment more and stop worrying about what is past, and can't be changed, or what is in the future, and probably will never happen. "I know people whose idea of fun/Is throwing stones in the river in the afternoon sun/Oh let me be as free as them" or however it goes, well that's going to be me, that is.

:-) we've just had a raunchy text conversation about last night. I'm aware ME/CFS can sometimes go alongside fibromyalgia....and I wouldn't want to cause him any pain through the POWAH of my VAGINAH so we're due to have a boring old fully clothed sex chat on Friday. Which gives me the opportunity to broach the STD thing... When i intend to be full of mojitos.

Bit of a hmmmmm here - what do you think? So, I've been seeing LM a while, met his mum, met his dcs, all good. Not met his friends yet, he doesn't go out much, but he has a very good female friend he's known for twenty odd years, sees her as his sister and he's been helping her move house and with some other stuff. I've chatted to her on FB a couple of times, got chatting today as she posted asking for advice on estate agents, somehow got on to talking about our past, sadly have a lot in common re abusive men, so quite deep stuff but all good. Then she asks how I know LM - okay, I thought, so he's not said we met online. So I said something vague, then said I'd been seeing him since September, and she goes "Seeing him as in you're more than friends?" so I said yes, that's right. Now it's all gone very quiet, no reply for well over an hour whereas we'd been chatting away most of the evening.

So, I'm left wondering why I'm a big secret here ...

Does he have fibromyalgia, Snape ?

OWW - erm.... that is a bit weird Have you messaged her again and asked her why?

Snape - when you finally have to have the convo, we will all be in your pocket. Not your LadyPocket, obviously.

I'm not sure some ( got to make sure I get that in ) men share details in quite that way, even with really good friends OWW. No idea why they don't, I think it often doesn't occur to them.

Of course this may just be the traditional northern types what I'm used to, quite possibly the southern blerks are all Sex and the City over a skinny latte and a biscotti.

SS I thought of messaging back but didn't know what to say really.

I know all about her though! And she knows nowt about me.

Nora - hardcore northern here ...

libby I am not sure he has got a fucking clue he has done anything wrong.

ok we think Reynauds disease. I'd check out the fibro situ Snape....still avoiding washing up. Gonna go to the cinema to watch The Sessions and Django tommorow, I reckon.