New beginning. Dating thread 41

[lubeybooby]

Dating chit chat here :)

wetfish a whole new meaning

Toasted Banana Soreen drenched in Nutella is one of my favourite things ever
Cut it long ways so it stands up in the toaster.
True comfort food , makes me when Im abit

Mercury it would be petty, but ..... a possible reply could be

Yeah, can't bear frezzing weaver, much betta when its sonny, lol!!!
glad to here you nos how to treat a ladyee - can I bee chekey two and suggest you get a friggin spell check?!

lulu.

Shit. I think I broke the [grun]. It was one too many

[gron]

[gren]

Sorry.

Yes play centres ...I've lost track of how many hours of my life have drained away watching small children beat each other up and throw themseves off cargo nets....but whatever.... managed to spend £20 today doing exactly that. Whose having pancakes???

Joyless I am very good at putting a spanner in the works of romance, I am afraid, and you are very welcome. Finance is unfortunately a bit of an issue if you have to do alot of train travel to sustain the relationship.

After yesterday's discussion , I am having a block of marzipan for tea. It's marzipancake day!!!!!

My kids have to their dad's for pancakes ...happy to leave him with that task. Going to see a mate to find out why her fingers have turned black all of a sudden...enjoy your batter/marzipan/Soreen feasts everyone.

gone

I need some info about match.com and was told I might find it on this thread! I want to stop my ex from viewing my profile (he is on match too) if I blacklist him, will this stop my profile appearing in his search results and he won't be able to view my profile?

Going to see a mate to find out why her fingers have turned black all of a sudden

Usually that's gangrene. Has she just come back from climbing Mt. Everest ?

Yeah Flo I think she's worried. We live in a hilly region but not that altitudinous

I'm not sure I can cope with seeing Mr C any more. I'm having such a hard time with DS at the moment (he's autistic and I'm coping really badly with his behaviour recently). I'm not sure what to do - wondering if the fairest thing would be to end it, or if that's just my self-destructive side wanting to make things even worse.

Libby Really sorry to hear you're having a hard time with your ds. Has his behaviour got worse recently? I'm wondering if it might be worth going back to his support team to see if they've any suggestions, but you've probably done that already. It can be so difficult at times like this when you're on your own.

I know myself that when I'm feeling under pressure from other areas of my life I get a bit of a downer on LM and start thinking all sorts of (usually untrue) negative things and wondering if I should end it with him. I know I do this now, so I can try and talk myself out of it. Maybe you're the same in a way? I think you might regret it if you finished with him. Does he know what a hard time you're having? Maybe having a chat with him and letting him know that you need a bit of space/support/whatever as you're having a difficult time would be the first step - see how that goes and I bet he'll step up and it can make all the difference feeling that there's someone there in your corner.

Fuckit. Asked him for date 4. Am strident woman of bewilderment.

Go, Snape, go!

libby

I think you are being overly kind. We all have difficult, complicated compromising lives. As long as he knows the score it's kind of his decision whether he wants to be involved with you... You can't make that decision for him.

Yay Snape more power to your elbow (and other parts).

OWW, thanks so much for another lovely reply. Usually I can kind-of cope, but this evening I'm just sitting here crying my eyes out. I've made an appointment with my son's SENCO for advice, but that's not happening until after half-term.

I think part of the reason I'm feeling so down is that I was going to talk to Mr C tonight, but his plans changed and he's now gone out. Obviously I wouldn't expect him to stay at home so he could talk to me and not see his friends - that would be ridiculous. But I really think it would've helped to talk to him tonight. It's hard enough not being able to see each other often because of the DC situation, but when there's no time to talk either it makes things even harder.

I think I react in a similar way to you (getting a downer on him when other stuff is going wrong). But at the same time, I'm so exhausted by DS I don't know if I have anything left to give.

A belated happy birthday, by the way, and I'm so glad you had such a lovely evening - you deserve it.

Snape, perhaps it's me being selfish and thinking it would be easier (for me) if I ended it rather than waiting for him to.

So glad things are going well with Nameless - reading your updates yesterday was one of the few things that's made me smile recently!

Snape, you are the Queen of Strident Insouciance and long may you reign.

Libby, sorry you're having a rough time with your ds, as OWW says, sometimes problems in one area of your life cast a huge shadow and make it difficult to see anything positive in other areas, if your relationship with Mr C is usually good and gives you enjoyable adult company, it seems a shame to end it.

It transpires that new OD man went out with one of my exh's exes. I think Fate is trying to make me completely lose my marbles, I'm well freaked out.

Libby I'm with Nora. If MrC's company is good then it might be good to go out with him again.
Either way un MN (((hug))).

Good for you Snape.

Ew Nora ew, ew, ew.

Libby... In a way I think it is a lovely lovely quality, when you think you're not enough, or complicated or awkward...or whatever it is we feel. :)

I think... I sabotage a lot. What is stopping me from kicking my feet through the autumn leaves on walking on ice or just enjoying something for what it is and just liking being with someone?

If you like him when he's there and you're the best-you when you're there with him, then all is well.

4th date on Friday.

[worn out grin]

Have warned him I am going to my very best his. favourite local pub to drink mojitos before see him. So I will be a bit squiffy. I suspect he thinks that's a blow job. I think it's the STD chat...