New beginning. Dating thread 41

[lubeybooby]

Dating chit chat here :)

Actually the honey trap was before my time on the thread, I'd heard about it but didn't read back for the details.

I think Lolgirls life story is too complicated for it to be a fake, and if it did turn out to be the Artist I'd sit and have a drink with her, make it clear nothing was going to happen, then go home alone.

I hated just having to ignore her texts when she was upset by me finishing it, she wasn't a bad person, just far far too needy and she wanted something I wasn't prepared to give (i.e. children and for me to live with her, meeting my DC within weeks, all of my free time etc) I didn't like hurting the Safrican either when I broke things off with her, but also didn't like being dumped by the Historian without a word of explanation till months later. I'm not sure whether the Artist has enough closure and getting in touch would just bring up old wounds.

NoMore - go for the job. As it stands they're already saying 'no' because they don't know about you. You're giving them the chance to say 'yes'

Left work early. Wasn't getting any where with it.

Scrazy I wish I could get a one way ticket to Oz.

Kirsty If he rings I will tell him. I am not texting. I hate bloody texts. Good luck with the flat.

Going to the hospital tonight. So must get my act together.

Sorry for all the woe is me.

Blimey, lots to catch up on and those feckers at Waitrose didn't have any cherry Jaffa Cakes.

Nomore, go on, apply for the job, you never know.

Snape and OWW, so pleased that you both are finally experiencing a little happiness.

Bant, weird but then I'm a city girl - villages scare me.

48, why on earth would you apologise about saying you're having a rough time ? I reckon you can complain about whatever you feel like on here, you'll get plenty of empathy and handholding ( and Soreen )

I'm waving to all of you but my low blood sugar caused by a deficit of novelty-flavoured Jaffa cakes means that I'll need a rest straight afterwards.

I am on the verge of a [wet fish] no word today. I've probably exhausted him by merit of my best pants.

nomore utterly and absolutely apply for the job. Job applications are always good experience in and of themselves and any failure on the part of the employer to give you the job is just that - their failure to recognise your brilliance, not you failing to impress them the same should be thought of Internet dating.

48 you know you'll get your act together for hospital, for the simple reason that you always do. Doesn't mean that I and the rest of the thread don't understand and empathise with how much it costs you to do so - emotionally speaking. You know we all think you're bloody wonderful, don't you? As for Mr R&R, well ... its shite timing that you'd just decided to make yourself vulnerable to him just before he transgressed. I agree with you about text but hope that you will talk to him and get it sorted. Of all the relationships that I've seen spoken of on this thread, the one you have with him is the one that makes me feel But, in the end, its whatever is right for you and you will receive nothing but support and understanding for your decision.

NoMore apply! Believe ... we do.

Kirsty blimey, more Coffee ... and fingers crossed for the flat hunting.

Scrazy I see why you were asking now and yes, that is something I know I have to beware of - but so far, so good.

mercury I think its damn fool luck myself. I couldn't have organised it if I tried! They'll both probably meet someone else, fall in lurve and leave me high 'n dry if past experience is anything to go by.

Nora bugger Waitrose not having your cake/biscuit of choice ... hope you got something else to ensure blood sugar stability in the interim.

Snape I think we should assume you've exhausted him and there will be no word for at least 24-48 hours. Otherwise we may need to have words with you about your over-use of restraint ...

Hey everyone, so like I said last week I slept with my brothers best friend and felt bad about it, I've now slept with him a second time and the sex is good.

He's been really sweet and just asked me to go out for valentines I don't know what to say, the option are:

1. try to get a babysitter
2. dont see him and say maybe meet up on the weekend
3. invite him round when dd is in bed

I'm not sure where I see this going with this guy and dont want to lead him on, do you think I should just see how things go? Or tell him that I'm not sure if it would ever go anywhere? Help

To echo what joyless said... I always think of you as one of 'us'. Meaning really sodding strong, not necessarily because of any personality traits or any woo jumbo jumbo... But because you do have a lot on your plate and you deal with everything. That's not to say that it isn't exhausting and there aren't days where there's that feeling of 'but why do I have to be the strong one all the time...' and it looks effortless to people who don't 'get' it... but a lot of us do, so I think you're bloody wonderful as well. :)

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Just see how things go. :) if you're not sure, theres really only one way to find out...

Movingforward as it's early on with him I would try to get a babysitter first and if no joy then meet up at the weekend.

Depending how old your DD is then maybe option 3 if she's a good sleeper and young enough not to really notice or care about an extra person around if she did wake up (unless she knows him already?)

BUT

I wouldn't want to set a precedent for just coming over to yours for a shag, and end up just doing that all the time (unless thats what you want)

Snape you have definitely exhausted him. I will get the fish ready just in case but he was done in and you didn't hear much after your snogathon date before so i expect this will be the same.

Moving is the reason you're unsure because of that whole "he's my brother's best friend and I'm off-limits" thing you raised on the last thread, or do you actually have doubts about him? If the former, then bugger your brother ... OK, not actually but you know what I mean. Just date him and find out how you feel.

I think its lovely that he's invited you out on VDay and you should go and enjoy being wooed by a sexy nice man

moving .. What joy said ^

(Making gooey chocolate and cherry cookies - that is the fault of you lot tempting me last night )

Lost my mind in a play centre this afternoon

lubey my dd already knows him, and when I was seeing mrworkaholic he always and round when dd was in bed and it was fine.

joyless I just don't think he's my type for a long term boyfriend! But fine to chill with now.

And yes it was very sweet of him!

Sorry I meant not my type for a boyfriend

Moving, I would think that he sees you as a blooming new romance if he has asked you out on VDay, so if you really don't want the level of involvement then sort something out for the weekend. I wouldn't start off with him coming round in case you realise you do want more and he gets in the habit of just coming round.

ike we need to know more ... Oh & thank you for making me look at the financial aspect of long distance thingy. I hate the idea that money would be the deciding factor in any relationship prospect, but the reality is that we do both have to consider it as neither of us is exactly rolling in the stuff. Reality check received, thanks m'dear.

Moving good to hear your brother doesn't need buggering ignoring I understand why you'd be worried about leading him on in the circs, do you feel he's always had a thing for you what with his always being around? I guess if you're worried about it, that's something to talk to him about. Would you feel easier in yourself if you postponed seeing him till the weekend and so avoided the whole "romanticness" of VDay? If so, I'd go with the no babysitter option (I don't imagine its hard to believe they're as rare as hen's teeth this close to) and see him on the weekend instead. Whichever option, have fun

Ah I took so long in the typing, I see that Scrazy has said it ^ briefer and better

If LOLgirl is in a plot with the Artist, what do we think they're plotting to do? To set up some kind of honey trap and be planning a Misery-esque end seems so unhinged keeps mouth firmly shut as realises it is The Artist we're dealing with here that I'm inclinded to believe it's a coincidence. Certainly very few of my friends let along mere Facebook friends know enough about dates I go on to recognise if they were heading for an overlap. Although I suspect the Artist did plaster your face all over their village like that Sex and the City scene. But you can only go with your gut and I think this thread has shown that third hand gut doesn't always work.

One of my colleagues cracked a Bridget Jones gag at me today. I deployed a lot of my fabled strength not to murder him.

the lingua franca on the dating site today appears to be pidgin english, as in:

'hope u keeping warm in this frezzing weather
im a chekey chapey who enjoys a laugh and nos how to treat a lady '

would you adam and eve it?? :o

Harummmph.

Sent him photo of a thing with his name on it with 'look! It's like you're famous!'
Nameless: Well, i do my best. ;-)
Me: you certainly do!

Nameless: Mwah!

He can't expect a response to 'mwah!' Can he? There isn't actually a response to that, is there?

Oh. Text. We are now discussing bootleg American vinyl behind the iron curtain during the Cold War.

Come on nameless! Date 4! Let's GO!

I honestly don't thinki LOLgirl and the Artist are plotting to abduct Bant and tie him to a chair and stick chips up his nose

..... and if I'm wrong, then surely they wouldn't be FB friends, when that would be so easy to discover, surely they would distance themselves.

FWIW and from what Bant said, the Artist is a full-on, all or nothing type of person, just the type who meets someone once as a brief acquaintance and then the next thing you know you have a friend request in your in-box - possiby a more likely scenario. I would go along and see what happens, and if it feels appropriate and the chat comes around to where she lives, then you could casually drop into conversation that you had an brief but intense relationship with someone who lives there and see if the conversation opens up .......... if she says that's funny my best friend went out with a knob who lives near you, it's going to have to be an out through the toilet window job