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Dating chit chat here :)

48 what's wrong?

For FWB 3 is the magic number

Mr R&R has fucked me off, unintentionally I might add. I think he has realised. I cannot be arsed with any of it at the moment. So maintaining radio silence. It might be childish, but I don't bloody care.

I want my mum. I want my son back from Oz. I want my ex to hold my hand.

Oh Bant that does actually sound a bit suspicious. I was surprised at the time that The Artist disappeared with so little fuss . . . I'd be tempted to cancel but like you say that's such a shame if it's all innocent and they are just neighbours. But I can imagine all sorts of scenarios with The Artist appearing once you've been lured to the pub. Maybe my imagination is a little overheated, though.

48 Hope you are okay. Is this just a general wobble or has something happened? If it's a wobble, try and stay with it, you're doing great although I know how hard it is to let people in especially when there's a lot of other stuff going on at the same time. How are things with your mum at the moment?

Sorry 48 cross post. What's Mr R&R done - is it serious? Maybe it's best to lie low for a couple of days, let things settle a bit and see how you feel.

Not sure how to say this without sounding patronising, but you're having such a rubbish time of it at the moment and coping amazingly well. Something always has to give in situations like this and it looks like it's Mr R&R. I'm the same, have wobbles about LM affected by all the other crap going on in my life. When is your boy home?

We're all here for you if that helps at all. I know it's not the same as someone actually being there, but any time you want to talk or let off steam we're here.

48 the thing with Mr R&R will just pass just ride it out and if radio silence is all you can manage right now, so be it.

Of course you want your Mum, your son and comfort from your ex. You have been through massive changes in your life and have been so strong for your Mum it must be all catching up with you. Is there anyone else you can turn to for comfort, tempting though it is to ask your ex in the long term it could bring an added complication and you don't need that as well. Meanwhile, holding your hand tightly.

Bit of advice please. Was texting mr Irish for few days and thought we were getting round to meeting up. This is our Convo. My friend said it reads like I have told him I'm not interested. What do you think?

Mr irish: i've just cleaned them again for you and I'm freezing as its snowing again!!!!!!!!! I still have same hair style I've just cut it short on the sides. So what do you have planned for the week / wk end to come ? Xx

Me: I am sick of the bloody snow!!! No plans for this week but out on fri and sat xx

I never heard anything back from him. He was online last night. What should I do. Would quite like a date but not with a loser. He said he is completely new to od.

48 would you like some cheesecake and a cuppa?

To him no. To me at any other time, no. To me at the moment, it shows he has no real understanding. I don't fucking need it or him.

My son wont be back for nearly 3 years. I miss him so much.

Gotta get back to work in a mo.

Thanks.

NoMore - it doesn't sound short and terse, it's just one of those things, you've got to always leave them with a reason to answer, open ended questions and all that. So after 'no plans for this week but out on fri and sat' you could end with 'how about you?'

But, having said that, if he wants to reply, he'll reply. You weren't off with him, or rude, or dismissive. He's probably just busy or talking to other people too. Such is OD.

NoMore - and if he is new to OD, as he says he is, I do think it can take some getting used to, it can all feel different and one-step removed from RL

Do you think I should send a little how are you type message tonight or leave him be? Arghhhh I am a divvy!!

No more, there wasn't anything wrong with what you said. He will reply if wants.

48, can you arrange to visit you son at all?

no more I think it sounds fine. youve said you're busy at the weekend, thats not a brush-off. thats a woman in demand with a busy social schedule who isnt sitting at home de-fleaing her mangy cats and glaring at her phone.

48 nothing really advice/wisdom wise to impart, just understanding & kind thoughts. although doing nothing and taking time to breathe is also doing something. I hope you're feeling better soon.

& sorry about your son. me & DD were parted while she was doing her GCSEs & it was hellish. I saw her every couple of months or so, I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you.

bant I'd meet LOLgirl (on the basis that 'LOLgirl' sounds like a crap superhero) but watch out for rophynol & gaffer tape. have you seen 'misery'?

Bant's life is too exciting, it was 'Hostel' last week it's 'Misery' this week

Right so I won't text him. I am not cut out for rejection. It really gets to me. Feel like it is all I have experienced for the last year and a half!

Just about to apply for a job that I really want but having second thoughts now because the big fat NO will hit me hard!!!!

Just marking my spot .. off on another overnighter with Mr Cheeky tomorrow night ...hopefully I will get a place of my own soon - all these nights in hotels are costing us both a fortune!!

Kirsty is he behaving himself (outside the hotel room!)?

Have you got a plan to be able to get your own place? Fingers crossed it will happen soon for you.

OWW He has been extra lovely both in and out of the bedroom .. I am quite happy for the moment

I am going to see a flat (to rent until STBXH agrees to 50/50 split!!!) tonight but I think it may be too small for all of my stuff .. all of the bigger ones are in horrible areas .. not even anything a bit dearer is nicer!

Sorry Nomore I missed your post.

Rejection's hard, it's a real bugger. And that is a big problem with OD as most of the contacts won't lead to a chat, most of the chats won't lead to a date, most of the dates won't lead to a relationship/whatever you're after. It's easy to say don't take it personally, but really that is all you can do. Mr Irish doesn't know the real you, he can't after a few chats. And it's probably not even that he's rejecting you, more likely there's something else gong on in his life. If you feel better not doing it or taking a break, just do that and come back to things if and when you feel like it.

BUT do go for it with the job application! Don't assume it's a big fat no. It's going to be a big fat YES!!!

48 Tell him why you are pissed off

snape here's another couple

bant I would tread with caution - remember snape's honey trap!

and OWW LM sounds really lovely

Hi to those I've missed

Ha Kirsty seems like the break has done him good! Good luck with the flat hunting - hope the one tonight is okay or at least livable in temporarily until you can sort things out with your ex. Could you leave a bit of stuff at your mum's?