Hi ladies. Hoping some of you might still remember me 
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Apologies for a long absence, things have gone very dark and I'm feeling a bit lost. FW-spaghetti head style. I've skim read recent posts and will go back to read the thread properly as there's a few names now I don't recognise.
When I last posted FW had just accepted a new job closer to home - the argument I was predicting r.e. the car happened just as I said it would. I managed to persuade him that despite the obvious cost, having a second car would be beneficial as our runaround wouldn't cope with the daily commute but would be fine for the days I need it. This worked well, I think he likes the idea of how having both a new and second family car will look to other people. On the downside he starts his job in just over a week but can't find 'the' car. I've been firm and told him if he doesn't find a car in time he needs to get the train until he does, but that caused another argument and I know he'll only take the current car if he wants to regardless of how it causes problems for me.
His little niggles, comments, behaviours etc are now firmly back to what they were pre-couples counselling. Last weekend, for example, we had my sister and her boyfriend over to stay. FW decided he wanted to go look at a car and persuaded her bf to go along too, then as they went mentioned they 'might go for a swift pint afterwards'. Leaving sister and me to entertain DD. 4 hours later we get a phonecall saying they were staying in the pub to watch the football and would bring back dinner later (not asking what we wanted). My sister was furious as I'd earlier suggested that she and me go out for a change that evening and she'd said no as she wanted this to be a weekend 'for us all'. She told me how she feels FW doesn't like her, which is true. 
2 hours after that they rang us (drunk) to ask us what takeaway we wanted. They both arrived with more booze, sister and me were grumpy with our respective partners. Her bf (who is lovely but easily-led) apologised profusely to her, sorted out her dinner for her and had brought her home a drink. My FW, on the other hand, when he saw I was annoyed, left my dinner in the kitchen, took his upstairs, ate it and went to bed without another word. When I asked him if he was coming down he said no 'due to my behaviour' and that he 'wants a divorce'. I spent the rest of the evening crying in the kitchen, trying to be quiet so sis and bf didn't hear me.
Of course, the next day he was attentive (but without an apology) and has been 'good' since, which means nothing.
He's been out a lot recently, burning money on booze while I'm still sat in debt. There is no way out for me. My free sessions with my counsellor at work have now finished so there's no support anymore. But he's not been physically aggressive for a while so that is a bonus.
That was a mammoth post, sorry. Will catch up on things later.