Red flag or grossly insensitive or what!!!

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Just spent the night with new man, first night, this morning he said you know you are pretty now but you would be amazing if you lost some weight?

I was dumbstruck, he then said so you gonna lose some weight then

I'm a 14

Very upset I will be honest

Aha, I see he's continued to contact you, he's so predicable. YY to what solid said. 'Stop contacting me now or I will report you to the police for harrassment.' He's an emotionally abusive twat.

LOL!!! Oh you've got Mr Silver Fox rattled. A woman?!!!! Rejectingme?!!! How very dare she??!!! That's how control freaks operate.... all nicey, nicey when you're not challenging their condescending remarks and backhanded complimentsbut, the minute you speak up for yourself and refuse to take it any more, they get nasty.

Narrow escape.

Just got another one...he said he refuses to discuss anything by text and will catch up with me when I have had time to reflect

He's still not taking you seriously is he? On no account 'catch up' because all you'll get is a bigger list of your faults and how he's the one to fix them....

Knob

Time to inform him never to contact you again or you will report him. Just 'Stop contacting me now or I will report you to the police for harrassing me.' Then do it!

Because what SGB says is true: this person does not respect NO when it comes from a woman.

errrrrrr. dump the dickhead, tell him to fuck right off, cheeky bastard!!

Text back

There is nothing more to reflect on and i have made my decision. Your comments about my size were rude do not contact me again.

Then ignore and don't speak to him again.

It's amazing how many middle aged men think they are God's gift and see an Adonis when they look in the mirror. It's a shame so many women lack their self belief!

Lucky escape OP.

Do you really need to ask? You know how he's made you feel.

Tell him, I'll lose some weight, once you've gone that'll be some dead weight shifted.

He's a nasty cunt, isn't he.

I haven't answered any of them.

I don't see how its gone from me saying enough to being told what my problems are?! and no other bloke would put up with it? Typical woman causing problems and thats a quote.

Its quite bizarre, thank god for mums net.

This tosser man is scary creepy. DO NOT catch up

Don't mention his comments at all! They will only fuel his fire. This person is an abusive twat who does not understand the word NO when it comes from a female.

'Stop contacting me now or I will report you for harrassment. Go away.'

Eurrgh, what a vile piece of work he is. And how awful to think that he has probably made countless women feel the same way over the years. I'm so angry for you too, OP, and laughed out loud at SureFineWhatever's post. Having a hard time not plotting revenge on your behalf. Stay strong!

"no other bloke would put up with it"

So he's been doing you a favour up to now, has he? Putting up with all of your 'problems'? You should be grateful? Wow... surprised he can still move his thumbs to text when he's so far up his own arse. :)

Seriously... you can learn a lot from this experience and be alert to similar techniques in future boyfriends. Think back to when you first met, how he approached you, what you found attractive at the time. And then set that against what you've found out since. Ask yourself why you let him say things like stripy skirts aren't flattering. Promise yourself that, if anyone does something similar in future, you'll have a put-down for them rather than letting it go...

Final text if you need to:

this is not working for me. No reflection needed. Please don't contact me agin

You might find this article interesting. See if it rings any bells.

I hope you've told him that there is nothing to discuss and to stop contacting you or you will consider it harassment and contact the police. This man is a mysoginistic bastard. You need to stay strong.

Omg, you've just had the luckiest escape I've heard about for a long time. Well done.

Yy. Tell him there's nowt to discuss and to stop contacting you or you'll involve the police.

Don't explain why, he doesn't deserve that and also those comments were designed to hurt so don't give him the satisfaction of that.

He really is a prize fucktard.

Fuck me, have you had a lucky escape!!

Good on you OP, bloody good on you!

A list of your defects, a refusal to accept that you want to end things, and a general attitude of disliking women...it all adds up to him being a controlling, abusive waste of space. His sense of entitlement is ringing loud and clear! It can't be him at fault, so therefore it MUST be you. You silly woman...don't you know a good thing when you see it? He's going to fix you and sort out all those defects.

Fucking hell. Shout your relief to the skies my friend! Do NOT engage with him whatsoever.

Oh dear. His renovation project got away!

I'd honestly send one last text threatening police action if he doesn't leave you alone. Don't block his number, keep his texts incase things escalate. He sounds a nasty piece of work.

Oh christ!

Well done OP

Stop reading his messages now - please just delete soon as they come through without opening them. It will just be more abuse intended to wear you down.