Red flag or grossly insensitive or what!!!

[Flabber]

Just spent the night with new man, first night, this morning he said you know you are pretty now but you would be amazing if you lost some weight?

I was dumbstruck, he then said so you gonna lose some weight then

I'm a 14

Very upset I will be honest

Sorry-at the start of my relationship x

Just caught up. well done OP! Cogito I just burst out laughing at your book title

On the bus

DUMP HIM

If he asks again text back telling him you're doing what he suggested and losing some weight ie, him. Prick.

Well done!

If you had lost weight he would only have found another supposed defect that you were expected to improve.

Well done. You're lucky he showed his true colours early doors. Many don't.

Well done for dumping this abusive mysogynistic fucking arsehole. Now pour yourself a nice glass and toast the fact that you have made the right decision. And hes in his 40s? Needs to fucking grow up.

Yay! I'm so glad.

My mum always if it's right he will be REALLY mad about you and there will be NO confusion!

I am actually overweight and no one has ever made a comment like that to me - and there have a few ;)

Here's to a fabulous gorgeous man next

So glad you have given him his marching orders.

How far away does he live? I hope he does not turn up to talk you out of it. From the sound of him I wouldn't put it past him.

My mum always SAID (oops sorry)

Well done OP! You have done the right thing. Not sure how 'to the point' your comment was, I am kind of hoping it was a bit cruel :) 'cos he would deserve that.

Oh I love MN! I so so so wish I had the benefit of MN during my dating days :)

If I won the lottery I think I would like to take out huge adverts in all the major cities for MN!

(yes! I have had some wine :) lol but I dont care :))

But on a very serious note, I do believe that MN is a lifeline for so many, it has been for me!

14 ?

Phew that was a lucky escape! What a awful man.

He's dancing around waving whole STRINGS of red flags enough to equip a Morris troupe. Glad you got rid of him.

If he does try to contact you again, send him one more text informing him that you will be reporting him to the police for harassment if he doesn't leave you alone. And if he doesn't leave you alone report him. A man who tries to override a woman like this is often a date rapist or at least will have a history of complaints having been made against him for harassment and abuse, even if he's never been convicted of anything.

Well done but, as others have said, I think it'll take more than one text to shake this one off. If he's already regarding you as a project and thinks the only kind of woman that would dump him would be a drunk one , he may be persistent. Very important not to engage.

I may have missed the info but was he a lot older than you?

Yes he was quite a bit older actually!

God I would kill to be a size 14! Don't do anything OP, apart from dump the fuck-weasel from a great height and kick him into touch!

He's an arsehole. For comparison for a healthy relationship, since I met DH, I've gone from a really nice slim comfortable 14 (I'm 5'9"), to a 16/18. Not once has he told me to lose weight, he's only ever said that he "likes my cuddly bits" when the subject crops up.

Get rid, this wanker will only become more controlling and offensive.

That fits.

What. A. Cunt. Geez.

You dodged a bullet there, OP! Congratulations

Yes I agree.

Just switched on phone to find 2 text messages listing out what my problems are??? Both start you know what your problem is...and list my defects?

Just ignore, ignore... He's going to have a very bitter and lonely life.

Or what SGB said, and tell him you'll contact the police re harrassment if he keeps contacting you.

Ha! Bullet well and truly dodged.

What a fruitcake. Oh, sorry, I meant god's gift to womankind, silly me

Hope he gets his little willy caught in his flies and has to go to A & E to have it surgically removed if they can find it

Don't quite know why I am so on your behalf, OP, but I am!