The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Kicking The Wine Witch Into Touch!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're a group of posters who have been on a journey to here, there and everywhere when it comes to alcohol and the abusing of it.

Some of us drink, some of us don't at all and some of us are trying to get there, really trying to just stop the cycle, break the habit and calm everything down. Some of us are desperate to not be 'that' person anymore.

One Day At A Time or ODAAT.

So what have you got to lose? Weight? Saggy, puffy eyes each morning? False friends? The risk of cancers and other fatal illnesses......... why not join us?

We have a resident MonsterCat, Wolf called Seth and Squid called Barry (best not to ask about Barry! )

And, if you want to see where we've been so far, the links below will show you. The first ever thread is the best by far, because the OP is just like you. And me.

FIRST EVER THREAD

PREVIOUS THREAD

Aw purple honey huge hugs for you ((( ))) You are not pathetic, your struggling with loads on your plate. Your bringing up 3 children on your own, no mean feat! Your worried about money, having to do a stupid course that's stressful. It's January, it's cold, dark, grey miserable!
But you can do this, you are and have been! Things will get better.
Imagine how much worse all the crap would feel if you had a pounding sore head too
You are a lovely strong kind babe who is just struggling xx

purple, i have a feeling that i know what you are feeling like right now, you poor little love, please try and put the drink down, i know only too well that it will not help you deal with all the fucking crap you feel like you cant deal with! actually you know, you can deal with all the stuff you listed because at the end of the day you are too intelligent to know that it wont all just go and do its self!, all that will happen is that you will have to deal with all but with a hangover to-boot!! why fucking bother? go and pour it away, get an early night and let tomorrow take care of itself!!

tonight i am having early tea, bath and then bed, im mentally finished and physically exhausted, sleep is the best thing for me right now!

Purple I was wondering how you were earlier today as you hadn't posted
It all seems so much to deal with but do just one of those things and then the others will follow, much easier to eat the elephant in little bites as they say. I'm off to AA Wimmins group - so I'll log in later to see how you are.
Why not follow JWNs example and have a bath and early night.

hey purple have this......
Well Richard didnt show yesterday. Sent mum a text to say he wasnt well. I am angry as mum has been unwell but hauled herself into town in the sheeting rain to meet him and then he didnt show. Other than rehab I dont think there is anything else we can suggest, and I dont know if he would go anyway. he is supposed to come over on Friday to see his counsellor - we will see.
mia love the cake. I feel very much as you do, lapsed pretty badly on the diet and exercise front, and the "fasting" was a disaster. Need my period to start and get gone so i can start again. am bloated and irritable.
mouse I didnt win the Nemo in the raffle so i emailed the woman and said why I had hoped to win it and asked where she had bought it so I could get one and she emailed back that "I think Nemo might just have a cousin. Watch this space.....". I'm all excited that she's going to send one!

Hi lovelies,

I'm knackered and just checking in really.

purple I don't think you want that drink, I think you want a rest (by now you may think I need a shove off a cliff, and I probably do) but you have more going on than most people could comfortably manage and you need to rest.
Can you have a bath or go to bed early? What would happen if you just went and sat on your own in the bedroom with a good book or quietly resting?

That course sounds stressful. Is it any good or a load of bollox? If it's bolloxs then spend the day dreaming and writing shopping lists- got me through loads of rubbish that 'technique'.

Best wishes to you purple

Purple you are not being pathetic! You have so much on, hold on to yourself, my sweetheart, and try to do "the drill", brush teeth, pj's on, and try to sleep. Crikey knows it's hard!
I have had two phone calls from the DC's tonight, one ill (with strep throat), and one without money!! His allowance already exceeds my monthly income!!!!!
I feel very much tonight, that I should have been a moneymaker, rather than a homemaker .
Dh out (again) tonight, and so I am reading my Jodi Piccoult book, all about same sex marriages, and how difficult it is to have children, it was only written in 2011. My Best friend is a lesbian, and why is that so hard even now?
She wuld love to adopt, but, no go, on any counts, so not right in the scheme of things.
sorry, off my soapbox now!
xxxx T xxxx

And, (I know i shouldn't start sentences like this!) I just miss my children so much, am going to have a big mug of peppermint tea, and a sob.
I am a bit mizzo tonight.
love to all
xxxxx

thurso sometimes I think I should have been one or the other and not tried, and been unsuccesful at both. Ignores bank balance, leaky toilet and mould in DS bedroom.
I shouldnt complain, we have a roof over our heads and food in the cupboard. Should be counting my blessings really.

ma I know, I do count my blessings, and I think, I do think about other things, probably as a displacement, as you know!
But, tonight, I just feel a major failure in all kinds of things, and I just wish I was better, or different!
sorry to come on to the thred and be a bit down, I didn't realise how much I had missed my true feelings!
T xxxx

going for ra shower

that should have said " going for a shower, before Dh is in, and wants to talk!"

Sorry some of the babes are feeling so down tonight x Hope everyone manages to kick the ww's butt. Night for now bb xx

Hi babes, so sorry purple things are so rubbish, truth is life without wine can be relentless and difficult and life as a mum is all give and no take, wine has been our only take but it's not made any of us happy or we wouldn't be here, take our love and support cos we have it and you need it tonight!!! I'm sending you a super hug, ma and thurso one for you guys too. Life is hard. That's the top and bottom of it, I'm feeling it too x x x

thurso I so relate to what you said!! I always wish I was
Better or different, I seem to find life harder than everyone around me, house, kids, marriage. Does everyone know a secret I don't? It all seems like a lot of hard work to me but I'm surrounded by slim, intelligent competent mums who make it look easy with their shiny houses and handsome men that DIY. I always feel like the odd one out, the ungrateful one even, sorry thinking out loud.....

Gosh we are all a bit blue tonight aren't we? I've gone to bed with....slimming world magazine! I never dreamed it would come to this

Fucks sake. sorry to barge in and not say hello, but i;ve just been slagged off on another thread where i was joining in and being, as far as I could see, light hearted as was everyone else. Been told i was taking the piss and being offensive. i feel like just fucking off mumsnet sometimes because half the time you just can't or daren't say a sodding word. I'm probably being super sensitive as have had a shit week, month, year, life! scream I just won't bother anymore.

Sorry.

Ooh which thread?

MA!!!!!!!!!!!!! - you are ace, you are sooooo ace for doing that. Oh I have happy tears on my face! Thank you a million billion trillion as DD used to say for your kindness. xxxx

Purple - just mwah and ((((HUG))))

And to you all, thank you for keeping me going tonight. Nemo had a wobble at bedtime so I kept refreshing and reading here and it stopped me going for a glass of red with DH. I didn't want it, I felt I needed it to take the edge off.

Not so.

Night night lovely Babes, I hope you all rest well. xx

emin this is the only thread I've ever been on, are the other ones horrible?
I do think tha\t you'll find here people who are truthful, honest, and don't want to have soapbox (except for me, sometimes!).
Ma going to bed with "Good housekeeping!" you really don't want to know the night I've had with Dh! Aaargh!!!
sleep tight Babes
xxxxx

Think I've got over it now, some others are being nice now Just get all upset when people be horrid

thurso roll the magazine up and whack him good and hard in the nether regions with it. That should shut him up.

purple 20 days is fantastic, really well done - especially as you're doing that course and everything. maybe you need an early night and be kind to yourself?

emin I knew what you meant and lots of others waded in. Misunderstandings and happen in RL; it's a wonder it doesn't happen here more.