Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

[lubeybooby]

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

yes, course i do.
its not me at all.

still shit though. Im more upset at myself for being taken in... People say its not good to be cynical, but i cant see, when this sort of things happen, how you cant be.

i did read it. lol. did not cheer me up at all, since i have had about 6x more dates that that poster has had.....

Tragedies - you had to be part of the original comment on the last thead. Of course, in real life, I am distinctly average looking and with a distinctly average but not overweight body. However, should I resume online dating, I will of course suddenly become four years younger, three inches taller, 50% better looking and 50% more buff to follow the trend of 'most' of my fellow men. And none of the women on here ever run down the looks of anyone they see while online dating, do they?

scatty the phoning when out thing definitely makes me think he is attached .. And the fact he is putting you off where he lives etc .. Firefighters are notorious for cheating as they have a lot of free time ( my stbx is one) ..

Right today is action day for me .. I am sick of living in limbo at my mum's ( it's coming up for 6 months!!) while I wait for stbx to agree to fucking 50% split so I'm going to bite the bullet and rent while I take his sorry arse to the cleaners

I have said this before so sorry.

I once said to Mr FU 'you are either a cunt in life or your not. I sleep easy'

Honestly do not worry about some twats behaviour. If you have behaved well. Hold your head high and move on.

grinchie and lubey we are going for a drink this week. I am keen. Stupidly so. We know a lot of the same people so I have been able to check his story and its all true. I really fancy him!! We have been texting a lot. I need to calm down!!! The more I find out the more I like!!! This is soooooooo bad!!

Voice That is partly what I dislike about OD the whole snap shot thing. I may have not given Mr R&R or Mr OZ a chance in the OD world. In a RL meeting you have no expectations, there is either a spark or there isn't.

48 - absolutely, and it is so easy to start an exchange of messages and think "ooh, this is fabulous" and get all excited only to be hit like a bucket of cold water when you finally meet. Which is why, I guess, a chat on the phone early on or meeting relatively quickly is the best option, before you invest too much.

48, yes, i know. i think im just going to wallow...... i know i didnt do anything wrong and its clear he had no intentions of meeting up, what with what happened friday and then again sunday.

Buts fucks sake, i dont know why i cant just catch a break with this.

Nomore That is brilliant. So lucky to be able to check him out. Enjoy

Watch - know how you feel, which is why I took a break having failed to catch a break. Take solace in that it seems to me that OD doesn't often work for us special people

In fact, bearing in mind how many people I know who have used OD and how many of them got anything that lasted longer than 2 months out of it, the success rate seems to be tiny. In fact, so tiny I wonder why so many people stick with it. As the old adage goes, if you keep trying the same thing and it doesn't work, why keep trying the same thing?

ive had a break. lol. this was my coming back after a break!!!

my last online date was sept. I dated him for a month, dumped him, didnt care to date at all. ( there was a tiny overlap between him and another guy i was seeing for 5 months)

Nope, it doesnt work, ive said the same thing.... tiny, tiny number of people meet someone quickly ( or have terribly low standards and just go with anyone whos shows interest) everyone else seems to get a barrage of shit, eveidenced by the fact that we are on dating thread 36!!!!

Im just disapointed, i did really fancy him, thought we had lots in common, he seemed nice when he was in fact a tosser. Disapointing all round.

I have just arranged to see Mr R&R tonight.

Honestly I wonder how long two people our age can keep this pace up

Disappointment goes with the territory. Part of the problem is that we see a few people who at least get plenty of dates even if they don't lead to other things and it's all too easy to start wondering what's wrong with us? Why can't we get that? What's that person got that we haven't?

A knockback in RL doesn't seem to effect people in anything like that way.

OD is like Argos. You skim through a catalogue and think "I'll have that" and too often find that you should have gone to a better shop or the more expensive item!

I get lots of dates. Too many. I knock the majority back. Could have a date a day if iwanted too. They would all be losers though and not for me.

This guy was off a paid site too. Not even argos!!!

Anyway. Hes just text.. seeing if im free today and he will come round. Lol. I am so very tempted to say yes and give him the wrong address....

Voice A large bale of hay is £35 around here. You are an expensive item

Watch - sounds like something I would do. Do it.

48 - What's the price of an average sized bale of hay? I'd not describe myself as large. Well, not in some aspects

Oh urgh watch. he's moved into presumptuous and slimy mode now then. I would just ignore til he gives up and goes away.

Quite aside from his utter twatness yesterday, it really annoys me in proper dating (as opposed to fwb) when someone makes such little effort as suggesting 'coming round' - just fuck right off eh?

What I would want if I were proper dating is for someone to say 'I know an excellent place for coffee/lunch/dinner, I'd love to take you there/buy you cake, let me know if you can make it'

I have been known to send such texts myself as well (if I'm getting the same effort in return that is) as receiving the odd few and it's just thoughtful and nice.

'coming round' says 'I'm a lazy loser and just want a shag, but if I did happen to ever be your boyfriend, you'll get a teatowel and some wilted garage flowers on your birthday, if I even remember'

especially when you haven't even met yet.

sorry, rantette over :o

I used to call those types 'mehn' instead of men.

Voice Small £4.50. Shame they don't make average. I like average

48 - oh am definitely not small, very definitely not.

Indeed lubey, indeed.

watch - a date a day if you wanted? Jesus, I'd have been ecstatic to have had a date every other month. I must be seriously hideous....

Hey guys, I've been lurking here for a while, I hope you don't mind me posting. I was just after your thoughts. I've been on my own for 4yrs or so and met a lovely guy in RL and we've been seeing each other for a couple of months. It's been great, quite intense. I now feel he's backing away slightly, not in such regular contact etc. Should I just leave things be and see what happens? I think I'm insecure a bit because of how my marriage ended(exDH had affair after 18 yr marriage blah blah) any thoughts?

Voice, I bet you're not hideous at all! It's just that there are just as many women arseholes on OD as there are men!

Watch... are you tempted? Please don't, I have a really strong feeling that Chilli boy is a prick now I agree with Lubey (again!), what's with the 'coming round' shit? That would (a) deffo indicate that he only wants a fuck, and (b) make me think that I wasn't even worth taking out for a coffee! Prick.

IwantaVW - I think after 4 months, if it has been very intense, it's not uncommon for things to cool down a little into a more regular routine. I wouldn't necessarily worry about it at the moment. I'd still regard 4 months as relatively early days.

Sweet - no, sob, I am hideous. It's true. Sniff. I can't hide it any more. It's time I just faced the fact. Damn it, why isn't there a crying smiley!?