Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

[lubeybooby]

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

some bugger doesn't text and I'm all over the place isnt that what all this dating stuff boils down to:o
dont we all spend our free time with spreadsheets and graphs analyzing how long he took to reply, how many kisses, who texted first etc etc

I'm sure it's not just me!

Actually if I could be absolutely arsed I could give a catweazle/teeth context, but I can't actually be fucked right now as I in the darkened room cuddling the gin.

Are Baileys and chocolate chip cookies allowed in the darkened room?

hophophop sounds like its deleted ...

Be interesting to know what he says. He may say he was going to anyway, but be aware of body language in case he's not being entirely truthful. Stupid bloody thing to lie about, but there are those who simply cannot bear to look uncool ... daft buggers.

Only thing to check for is the "overly keen" red flag ... but I'm sure you know that. Oh & POF does turn out the odd good one. My friend is marrying hers and I have a sweet, respectful, just kinky enough, regular FWB

Gin! Who gave Snape the gin?? Does this mean she's already finished the rum?

Oh sorry ... its your birthday, tonic & lime with that m'dear?

that would be like the ' dire date ' context would it?

i am not the only one who hasnt fancied somone and posted as such. you all know it. Most of you have done it. pretending that you worded it in some way that made it magical and special and dressed it up as something else, does not change it.

i shall now add to make light of what i have just said

hurrah!

I left some rum. Gin felt appropriate. I shall shortly stumble around the thread yelling 'LEAVE IT IT AIN'T WURTH IT!!!'

I'm definitely on the look out for red flags, part of me thinks that he isn't completely genuine, but no evidence really for that at the moment. He said that he hadn't been on a date for 2 years, and I don't really believe him because he came across as a bit too confident for that to ring true, also he's much better looking than me, to the point that other people sitting by us were probably thinking 'why's he here with her'. Yes to the overly keen red flag. He sent a text message the next day saying something like 'why can't I stop thinking about you'. But again, possibly a red flag, possibly not?

Sorry ladies and gents but.....Baileys is reviling (no offence Yoga)....

watch do you want me to respond to that last comment? I can clarify things if you like or I can just shut up

NO!!! gods sake no.

That wouls be my idea of a heinous buffer ....lots of tinned ladies fingers washed down with copious amounts of Baileys gaaaaaaaag....

buffet

Hi all

I need a little perspective on this. 4th date with man. We went for dinner and drinks and I invited him back to mine. We nearly had Coffee I like his company, I like him physically. He says he really fancies me....but....here it is.
Small things.
He told me last night he smokes. I already knew as I could smell it. But he only told me last night. I don't mind tbh but I was a bit as to why wait.
It seems like he antagonises me and sees it as a joke.
He asked if I'd like to do this again and I said yes, does he and he said no. Then he started laughing and said yes.
Weird things don't add up. He has bought a car in an auction and told me it was a Green renault. This was before we met. We met and I noticed it was a green renault. About a week later he said his car had to be scrapped and he had been had. However he is still driving the same green car. .
He told me after Xmas he had gone into the 21st C and got a smartphone. A Samsung and had got rid of his old Phone. He said he was on a contact. Last night his phone was the old phone he got rid of.
I know these are small things but . He also told me that although he and his wife divorced 5 years ago he continued to sleep with her until about 4 months ago out of convenience. She is still a big part of his life.
It's not worth it is it?

as an aside, there is a picture on my profile of a cross eyed tiger trying to catch a snowball.

No bant, best avoided, have a Tartex and oatcake petite four

Bant welcome back, as a mostly lurker I do like your contributions to the thread.

Bunnyhop never had it happen to me - although I did have one guy tell me his account would be deleted by the time of our date, he wasn't resubscribing and I was his last shot. But if it bothers you I'd just ask him in a lighthearted way. Personally I'm not at all comfortable with someone being too full on way too early, but some people are just more open. All these women who claim to have "known" instantly can't have all shacked up with red flag touting weirdos.

Scatty, christ no. Run a fucking mile and quick!!!!

Scatty he sounds very odd. No idea what he's trying to do, but strange and unsettling. I don't think I'd be able to trust this man.

Middy - do you think it sounds a bit like something's not right?

Scatty - I'm a smoker and haven't smoked or mentioned it on dates, because I feel a bit embarrassed about it! The other stuff sounds odd.

scatty it's fine that his wife is still a part of his life, presuming they have children and are amicable. The red flag is the 'convenience' of shagging her until 4 months ago, even though they officially split up five years ago. That's the red flag. The other bits don't quite add up (car= fantasist) but the strange (ex) wife relationship is... Strange.