Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

[lubeybooby]

Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

stick a comma in there between someone and that ^

Hi, just popping in again to see what's what. Never seem to manage to keep up with these threads very well.

This is gonna sounds like a total non problem, but does anyone else get fed up of only being offered sex and nowt else ??

In the 7yrs ive been single, if i'd had a £ for everytime someone has wanted some no strings fun, i'd be rolling in it.

Original - I never had one woman message me and offer me sex and nothing else while I was OD. I wasn't necessarily looking for that, but would have been nice to have the option!

This is more people in rl than online tbh. Old school friends, work mates.

One minute I feel flattered by it and then next i'm thinking 'why is that all they want, whats wrong with me'.

nsa isnt sounding too bad at the moment... i guess it's who is doing the offering.

I know lubey it just felt really weird to see him in person. I've been quite angry of late and waiting to embrace the stage of ambivilence I'm hoping for...

TheOriginal - no, never happens in RL to me either. Damn it. Except once. But she was so paralytically pissed she had no idea what she was doing and I made her a lot of hot coffee and left!

Oddly enough, was talking about this at the weekend - one of my female friends had been 'propositioned' for a no strings shag by an old friend and wanted to know if this was common. The other three single females all said "never happens to me" and there's no way they'd deny it if it had, they're quite open about things, even in front of a bloke.

Snapespeare, I haven't turned all of them down however this can create problems too.

Maybe it is just me that gets this then. In which case why ?? lol

Haha! Nutcracker its the sex that interests me the most I am the one that doesn't want to out for meals etc. Just wanna crack on with the fun!
Saying that I do need friendship and laughter in the mix

I get propositioned in rl but only by marrieds.

Even the bloke that dropped off my cat (married couple had to re-home as their baby daughter had athsma)

I had no make up on and was wearing a fleece and jeans when he brought the cat round. I had been speaking to his wife to arrange this but he took my number 'so he could check if the cat settled in ok' and then proceeded to bombard me with over friendly texts.

I kept to just reporting about the cat and eventually he stopped being just over friendly or subtle and offered to come round one night with a bottle of wine. I was and

another old school friend suddenly announced that he and his wife were swingers and he wanted some nsa fun. I asked if his wife was actually aware he thought they were swingers. He went away.

I really live in the wrong place and move in the wrong circles, clearly.

Voiceofunreason. I don't move in any circle really as I rarely go out.

Ok, the option of sex is nice, and i'd be moaning if I wasn't getting offered any I suppose, but it's just a bit weird.

Current offerings are, the original fwb, who I do occasionally see but shouldn't because he is a shit and i feel too much for him, and the bloke who I was in a very short relationship with last year. Relationship was crap but the sex is fab

Oh and I was offered a threesome last week but a couple i have known for years.

Maybe I should start charging. Could do with the money

Nut cracker, I would knock the FWB on the head, if you have feelings for him. Move on from the crap relationship last year and go for the threesome, if it's only sex you want. Much less messy and no feelings involved .

Oh and just yesterday I got offered a threesome with a married couple. I completely forgot as it is just so not on my radar and not happening.

Old fwb of mine from about 4.5 years ago, then he met and married an American woman really speedily.. so they must have been married about 4 years now.

Have him on twitter just because there's never really been any reason to get rid

Anyway he started off asking me for advice about it because apparently she wants to try it... then propositioned.

Nutcracker I agree with Scrazy, ditch the shit.

The one that the relationship was crap with sounds ok though as it's good sex but no risk of being hurt seeing as you already tried the relationship thing.

I have tried so many times to ditch the shitty fwb, and I did for a while, but I always end up giving in.

Mind you, he isn't as good in bed as the other fwb, so that might help me phase him out lol.

I was very flattered by the threesome offer, but declined.

I can confirm what Voice said about vile messages. I had the snip years ago when I was in a LTR which subsequently broke down. I had a profile for about 3 months a couple of years ago and got quite a few messages questioning my motives, insisting I'd just fuck and run. I ended up deleting my profile as it was just too much hassle.

I've unhidden my POF profile. I have managed to have a conversation on POF. Not much, but more than one line.

Also in the news, another message on POF consisting of more than one line. I'll have both of them, I'm getting my coat.

Evening everyone

pinkpeanuts I've looked at your profile. Your photo is gorgeous and your profile is great, I know that doesn't help you.
As suggestions maybe you could write a little more in your profile? Ask them a question too which gives them something to talk about when you message each other.
Clearly, you are gorgeous and I like your profile pic but as a suggestion maybe try the pic with you in a coat as your profile pic so men looking have to click on your profile to see more?
Just suggesting.

Nicholas and voice I've known I don't want any more children since I was in my late 20s.
I'm sorry about your experiences but it's all part of the numbers game, isn't it? You will be perfect for someone.

velvet, good :)

Snape - sorry :(

Voice - grim.

Ive a date for tomorrow, with the chainsaw weilding one, mr country persuits. I shall be doing my best ' country posh' Hes offered, should it go well, for me to go with him saturday to the last phesant shoot of the season. Ive declined due to dds birthday party and my inability to aim or shoot a gun. Im not expecting sparks, but we are having coffee on a boat, so... :)

Interestingly lots on young girls at work were talking about pof today, lots have just joined, they are all stunning, and young and thin. They were complaining about pervs and rude messages and weirdos. Seems its no better whatever your age.

ALSO, in a lovely ego boost, a lady thought i was fresh out of uni and 21. Un-be-lieveable. Work friend ( who is 24) thought i was 24 last week. My ego is now re boosted :)

I have only ever received one message online that could be described as smutty. People assured me OD was full of perverts trawling for sex but it has not materialised. There were a couple of dates where I would gladly have had a FWB develop but it was not to be. I find that men either go for the all or nothing approach with me; it's famine or earnest outpourings of love. I know this is probably a good thing, but it leads to long dry spells and just occasionally I would like to meet someone who thought I was a complete idiot but was overcome with lust.

I am frustrated, was having great email chat with three people all of whom have gone quiet on me before an actual meet up was suggested. I am now obviously imagining that they have all beaten the OD odds and are happily shagging "the one" right now.

Hello, sorry to barge back in with total disregard for what's going on in everyone else's life but...fuck fuck fuckity fuck fuck.

Since i don't have Snape's awesome willpower I have never managed to delete Mr60 as a Facebook friend. Contact has been a bare minimum over the last few months tho he did send me a very brief 'good luck with the new job' a few weeks ago. Last week a friend from home asked for hotel recommendations near where Mr60 lives so I sent him a very brief, non-chatty FB message asking if he had any suggestions. I know he saw the message on Saturday and as he hadn't bothered to reply I was actually on the verge of unfriending him. Tonight I get a message back saying "Why don't you give me a call and we can chat?". Which brings me back to my original point which was fuck fuck fuckity fuck fuck.

So am now overthinking things. It probably means nothing - he just wants a friendly chat, will ask about my job, recommend a hotel for my friend and we will both go on our way. Right? He's not going to ask to see me and even if he does I have no time to see him. Right? And even if it is just a friendly chat, how cool should I be? Should I be, "Well it's nice to hear from you but my life is totally awesome" cool? Or..oh fuck I don't even know. Overthinkging. Sorry.

yoga don't be sorry.
Looking at your second paragraph friendly chat? Fine.
If he asks to see you - well, do you want to see him? If so can you handle that at the moment?
Be as cool as you like - what do you want?

Yoga Mr 60 was before my time on here but if he wanted to talk to you why doesn't he just ask if he can call you? You know you have to delete if it's going to cause you grief...

Sorry Yoga I mean I don't know the back story.

do not do it.

YWK STILL texts, 4 years on. I havent replied to the last 10 or so sent since the beginning of the year. It only prolongs any pain for yourself and the situation with him will not change.

Save your sanity and leave it.

Any ideas for what to do for the food part of Lunch? Need something quick, foolproof, veggie (me) and low fat (him). Tempted to get a load of deli stuff and do a tapas/mezze type thing. Or soup? Don't want tone wasting a lot of time cooking ...