Hey, it's the Dating thread... number 37

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Of we got - all dating chit chat here!

There we go. We got to a solution. :-) how many times has he cancelled on you? (apologies for any misinterpretation of the above)

no, fridays date is with someone else......

and sunday was a firm date. cinema and too many sweets. he checked on fri ( after the filth) that i was ok... he knew i was getting a sitter. We had said 7ish but that we would confirm nearer the time. 3 hours before the film starts and to not have hear anything is pretty much near to the time....

The filth has definitely blurred the edges and confused things

Maybe he started out with good intentions but honestly, the filth turned it into something else

now you've explained more, I would say kick him to the kerb. Mainly because, you are now very angry with him and I don't think anything he does now will repair the damage

You're not in wrong and I'm not sure he is either, it's just gone wrong from miscommunication

watch - I would have taken 7ish at cinema as a firm date tbh

He should have confirmed when you text him earlier in the day. But if he is single, with no other worries, he may live his life without being a time checker

As single parents, we can't live like that

I have sent the manners text many, many times and prob would have done in this situation too. But anything up to an hour before the date to sort exact time would have been ok with me

i am angry, because hes cancelled on me twice, not picked up when ive rang, twice.
i invited him over and he said no...
but then he wants to come today when he thinks hes getting laid. and then offers me an end od the night booty call date.

i do think hes wrong here, i really do.

if he was being nice and had asked when i was free and re arranged, heck, id be there. but he hasnt.
which i think is telling that he didnt intend to meet me at all.

also bearing in mind there was a fuck ton of snow.

which i think means you need a bit more notice....

I also have a temper, I'm shouty and sarky and picky have standards. But, because I know that I will usually hold back if I can, watch and wait.

Chilly man started his nonsense on the Friday, before the filth. He had already left Watch waiting about, not replied to a text to confirm a loose arrangement that he suggested and THAT is what enabled him to think he can just mess about on the Sunday.

If he incidentally thought he was on a promise due to text filth, that is entirely his problem as he judged it wrongly.

If he doesn't understand about the babysitting thing, that is his problem because he selfish/stupid whatever

If he doesn't like being called on being slack, that is his problembecause if he had been decent he would have made an effort after Friday. He was in the wrong. Yes Watch was snippy with him this time but his response that he was just about to text her but for her being rude says it all.

Crossed posts, is MN down generally or just for me?

Watch, I don't get it. An hour or two ago you were down as hell due to this guy messing you around and we all agreed he was a wanker etc etc. Earlier today you said "I get lots of dates. Too many. I knock the majority back. Could have a date a day if i wanted too." Despite being left really flat by this guy, you've already got a date lined up for Friday.

Why on earth would you even consider giving the arsehole who messed you around yet another shot bearing all this in mind?

Fantastic news about your Mum, 48. Onwards and upwards, Ms 48 senior!

I'm having trouble, too, Juliette.

its not with him!!!!!

and im not giving him another chance, im just explaining because some people think i should.

in case people think im picky, or grumpy or unreasonable.

juliette, its being a pain for me too. and yes, he did start messing about friday, before the filth. Werid really. he asked me out, said he would be in conatct... i waited and waited... and tbh, when i had to chase i knew all was lost really. becuse, had he actually wanted to see me, he would have firmed it up..... but he didnt.

voice, im not, not at all. just explaining why im not giving him another chance, not that hes asked anyway!!! but i think people think im being overly picky or something...

if he had said sorry and rearranged a date, then yes, i would go. but he didnt. and my last text asking him how his manflu was, 8 hours ago now, has been read but not replied too....

48 great news about your mum!!

watch Next!!!

Juliette, no MN v v slow for me, has been last couple of days.

Watch I think you're doing the right thing :) His response saying he was going to text/say yes etc but for Watch being rude...it just reminds me of my shitty ex who used to always say to me he would have done xyz if I'd only behaved myself/not answered back/been rude to him etc .

A little sanity check/advice needed please. Mr Groomed texted yesterday afternoon and asked if I'd like to meet up this week. General light chat, he suggested something (impressive) I said great idea then nothing from him. Now I think the suggestion might have been a joke as that would fit the context but it was ambiguous.

So, do I a) text this evening asking if we got our wires crossed or b) do I do nothing and see if he texts tomorrow. He is not the easiest man to read. Even if I did misunderstand, I'm not keen on the now you hear me now you don't as it was a very abrupt end.

Juliette,id ask.

Velvet. Yeah. Thats what i think. However hes vanished anyway.....

Hurray for 48 senior ! Excellent news, I'm really pleased for you and your family.

Watch, Chilli is a pillock, avoid like the plague.

Hello to everyone, Mr Software is still being keen and very open - weird. He has also shown me his nudes. Chip Boy Sculptor is consistently amusing. I may also be about to be wooed by a photographer - it's all bloody artists, I want a man who does electron levels and Schrödinger's Cat. Pah.

So I'm about to text Mr Goomed, anyone have any other views?

Juliette, I think if he text yesterday afternoon, it's perfectly acceptable to text now, given the time lapse - and esp as there may have a miscommunication.

Have you sent it?

Blimey, look at me being all helpful advice!

MsA, I am so easily impressed I'd be quite happy with artists. Or indeed anyone whose topics of convo were not limited to West Ham, crude jokes and building site banter

I have now

biscuit the problem with dating Mr Schrodinger is that you can either arrange a time to meet, or a location, but never both.. :)

Hi all. Yes I'm in hungaria, actually tonight in Germany. Things have been a little busy so I haven't been able to keep up, but...

Voice - you go, girl. Stick up for us. Sometimes this thread can get a bit anti-men, or it can seem that way. I blame the bloody women. :)

48 - great news on your mum.

Watch. Yes deservedly dumped. I think sexting can give someone a sense of deservedness they don't deserve. He's not going to turn out to be lovely. It should be butterflies and grins, not booty calls and resentment.

Hello to new people. Sorry I can't read everything and catch up on everything. I still exist but Internet is flaky when traveling. No dating news from me obviously.

If I don't hear from Mr Groomed tomorrow I shall write him off as another odd one. I don't want to say what he does for a job as that might out him but that, in itself does not bode well (academia, out there branch).

Hi all, loads to read back on but wanted to reply quickly first about watch and chilli boy and and another chance... nooo! Nooooooooo!

He displayed some MASSIVE red flags. Huge.

Bugger him trying to get to go round for a shag so soon, I mean that's bad yeah... and the stuff I said earlier about it being an indicator of a presumptive, slimy, loser, yadda yadda BUT what worries me the most is his reaction and attempt to turn the fault of the date not happening on to watch. That's aggressive and manipulative. Then he turned apologetic and blamed being grumpy and tired, and something in one of his responses made me think he was now trying to get watch to feel grateful he was still 'interested' - again manipulative.

Can you imagine what he would be like as a partner when grumpy and tired and something doesn't go his way? If he is like this when he's meant to be trying to impress watch, having not even met her? Exactly.

He's an arsehole and not someone I'd want to be within 500ft of let alone date.