Is this a normal way to speak for some men/ people ?

[Domesticsloven]

Ds asked for a drink from dh tonight he is 10 . He does get his own drinks too. Dh said " get your own you little git " (shock) he was " joking" and meant he could get his own, apparently
WTF .

This is a professional man , why would he use a word like that to a child? It has really shocked me.

However I am quite genteel so AIBU ? (but to you nice reasonable relationships peeps)

Your ds is 10 and he has used this rather uncouth terminology for the first time ?

The DH referred to his child as a little git.

I don't think that is normal.

Oh ok, in my mind its almost tantamount to child abuse but I am very as I say gentle worded

Hmmm. Well, it's not nice obviously, but I think my feelings about it would depend on his tone of voice.

No it isn't 'normal' for civilised people. It IS probably normal though for people who were spoken to like that when they were children - just carrying on his parents shite role-modelling. Perhaps.

It isn't a joke and, for me, talking to children like that would be a real 'deal-breaker'.

It just doesn't seem normal to me either.

Not normal I'd never say it nor would dp. And is this the first time in all these years? Or isn't he dp's child?

sorry your dh.

Well he wouldn't say it at work to his colleagues would he ? Bizarre.
He meant it to mean he was lazy but may have meant to say lazy get But it came out wrong ?

Hmm. I don't like it, but how much I'd make of it would entirely depend on context/tone of voice/what else is going on.
If it was ment as in 'you can get a drink yourself, you little monkey', I'd let it slide.
If it was said with malice or aggression, warning bells are going.

As to 'is it normal' - not to everybody, but sadly to some.
How is your DH with words normally?

Is dh child
He called him a little fool a couple of months ago in an argument over passing over the tv remote.

Are you going to answer the question about whether this is the first time he has done this ?

Unless he has developed sudden vocal tic for some reason, you don't suddenly start referring to your dc's as "gits"

ah

"git" today

"fool" a couple of months ago

that's it ?

still. Evidence of his upbringing and stuff like this being acceptable. World has moved on and all that jazz.

What profession is he in?

It may have been meant like that Pacific but it came out more serious than intended I don't really know.
I corrected him and he said "little get " instead (hmm)
I said it was not a nice way to speak to a child and he said " shut up " to me and " go to bed then "

Out of context it's impossible to tell. Git is used affectionately in my family. We're not genteel though ...

What else has he said ?

Undertaker ...

No ( grin )
actually a Doctor

This has signs of being a long thread, unfortunately.

Me and DS have 'pet names'

He's little fucker and I'm mother fucker - meant affectionately tho unless he's really gettin on me tits

A F I don't get it ?

Doctor of..? A GP?

You and me both, Domesticsloven

Pan , how can you tell ?