it's a new dawn, it's a new day ..........it dating thread 36!

[lulubellaboozle]

Post away daters x

I know ....just testing him..haha

Hi all, may I join you? Just taken my first foray into OD, have joined Lovestruck and found the first few days a little overwhelming if I'm honest! Anyway got a possible coffee date tomorrow morning with Mr Tv producer, but he's single no kids and I'm separated with two young DC's so have pretty much already ruled him out... But he seems keen. Got another coffee date lined up for Tuesday morning with Mr slow to reply, but I am excited about that one as on paper he sounds great and his messages are thoughtful and intelligent IYKWIM.
Only been separated 3 months but feel ready to be treated nicely by a new man
Enjoying reading all your stories!

Hia Daydream ...oh sounds quite successful! Never tried Lovestruck will have to check it out!!

Ike, it seems like a good site, I haven't bothered with POF or Match as have heard there's lots of shit to trawl through... Did go on MSF a few years ago but found all that 'my mate is amazing' talk a bit cringey.

Well lubey how was your night??

Welcome daydream! I used to read your previous posts! You are amazing. Loving that you are up for OD!!
Hope it all goes well for you

Morning all :o

Not stopping, back off to bed in a sec to join that nice young man TT. Oooh my word he is just delicious. I fucking love my life :o

as you were

Talking about love struck, that's me, that is.

Wonderful evening with the children and LM last night. Think we are very similar in parenting style which is great. A couple of times I heard him having the same "behave yourself" type conversation almost word for word that I was having with one of mine. Both of us have similar tolerances for how much silly behaviour is okay and when the line is crossed. Children had an absolute ball. Even went back to his for an hour after the meal so they could carry on playing. He's great with all the children even dd who can be Miss Preteen Madam when she gets going. And his seem to like me.

I love doing this family stuff, hadn't realised how much I missed it. Or never really had it as ex would either opt out, sulk or go on his phone when we were supposed to be doing stuff together. In many ways I've been like a single parent since I've had children. Ex said he wanted children and had plenty of time to change his mind as it took ages for me to get pg the first time, but I don't think he did want them at all. Never showed interest in them or wanted to be with them.

Very frustrating though, didn't even get a kiss! But it will wait. He asked me what I needed to talk about, had v brief conversation but too many interruptions. But I'm getting there.

Lubey the quesadilla's hit the spot then?

western it sounds wonderful and nothing less than you deserve!

I'm making do with a 'morning darling' text and a few virtual hugs and kisses, roll on tomorrow evening!

Good morning everyone.

Hello Daydream, I think that believing you deserve to be treated well by a new man is a great attitude to have.

Lubey, jealous ? Moi ? Oh no no no. Have a fabulous time.

OWW, your post is so touching, I'm so pleased that things are going that well for you, you absolutely deserve your happiness.

Lulu, with any luck tomorrow night will arrive before you know it.

Morning.
oww sounds good to me.
lubey the lemsip obviously did the trick!
It sounds like it will be ok lulu
mrsA did you follow up the librarian or man with the scales?

I'm staying in a hotel Wednesday and had asked fireman whether he wanted to go to the cinema. He did. Last night I thought oh bugger it, it's a night without driving and said cinema is fine but I also thought maybe just going out and having a drink is better as there is opportunity. He's up for it. Apart from that short half snog there has been no physical contact so we will see what happens. He did text 'see u wed for some wild times!' Gawd.

OMG!!

Busted by my DD she turned up just as he was leaving. Thank christ she wasn't any earlier wasn't expecting her back til 2pm. Blummin teens!

It wasn't awkward though actually they just said a friendly hi to each other and I did a very quick intro, DD buggered off upstairs and I waved TT off.

Anyway

I have had a wonderful night/morning. Yum.

Lulu yes he was tres impressed with my quesadillas. We got a bit sozzled again too and I've had about three minutes sleep again :o

OWW I love your post, that's all so lovely :o

Arf, Lubey, teenage discomfort with their parents having a sex life makes me laugh so much, as far as mine are concerned I'm merely a cooking/washing/cash dispensing machine - god forbid I have a life outside the home.

Scatty, are you just nervous about the relationship moving further than the half-snog ? Perhaps it'll all fall into place and feel very natural once you have a conducive, relaxing atmosphere.

This morning I've replied to-
Lizard Man, he wants to meet up at the weekend

Olive Oyl, although he sent me a slightly suggestive message which made me go a bit ' How very dare you !'

New Celt, who I'd been messaging via email until he seemed to take umbrage at me not wanting to exchange phone numbers so early on. After taking this as a Knobber Alert, I didn't bother emailing again, he got back in touch yesterday, all ' I was hoping to have heard from you'. I've told him that as he appeared to be somewhat ambivalent, I took it as a signal to let him be. I'm interested to see the tone of his response.

I've not replied to Librarian yet, I don't enjoy the feeling that I may be being manipulated.

I've made Talent Show wait for a reply to his email. I do like him very much but I strongly suspect he's another in the long line of ' sensitive men wot fink too much and end up wallowing in angst and self-flagellation' that I seem to be attracted to.

Lubey ha you were soooo busted!! It's like when you were a teenager and your parents came home early except the other way round.

Lulu not long to wait. Hope you have a great time tomorrow. He really sounds lovely and it's obvious he really cares about you.

Scatty well he's got the bit between his teeth now hasn't he? There'll be no stopping him.

Arse thank you! Is it a limb type of extremity that's afflicted or ahem the penile type? Urgh scaly willies, put me off my dinner that will.

Ike how are those octos doing?

48 I think you've struck gold with Mr R&R. Hope your mum's doing okay.

Planning the Lego day out with LM as I finally got my courage up to ask and he thinks it's a great plan. Will be easier next time.

I am nervous about going beyond the half snog. I'm really nervous about being naked as I've had a breast reconstruction and its quite obvious it's not 'real' on one side if I stood there naked. In underwear it actually looks very realistic and you wouldn't know but naked its a mound. I've not been with anyone new since I had it done. He knows nothing and I don't want to shock him either.
What do I do? I'm half thinking I should go back to the cinema idea but also I don't want to make a big deal out of this either.

OWW yay for legoland! :o that's great to hear. well done!

And yes it was just like being a teen and parents turn up early.

The good thing about DD being 16 and having her own bf now means at least any hint of me having a life isn't met with disapproval, because she finally is interested in boys, she understands why I am too!

We had an awful stage when she was about 11 to 13 and she just hated any hint of my having a boyfriend and was jealous and just didn't understand why anyone would want one. She doesn't give a toss now.

We have a privacy agreement not to question each other or give tmi either. She knows she can come to me with any problems or questions with things like contraception but strictly no gory details! (my mum had me when she was 15 and made the mistake of being friend rather than mum - complete with tmi, often... urgh)

She did give me a wink when he left and said 'he's tall' which is code for 'I know you fancy him' :o I just grinned!

Scatty if he likes you and is a nice chap I'm sure it's really not going to matter to him. We are often so needlessly paranoid about things

Thanks lubey I know and he seems nice. It's how to casually drop it into conversation so that the message goes across without it being too medical or dramatic. I actually really like my body since I had it done, it's more the issue of his potential reaction.

Walked home by an octo last night! Sigh.....

Scatty the one thing I can promise you is it will be absolutely fine. I know this because I also have a breast reconstruction. I have had lovely relationships since then, not one reaction that wasn't either tender or a simple 'ok'. You don't have to have the conversation in a big way or any way at all, you'll be surprised how its a non issue.

I have had times where its happened very quickly and they didn't notice (yes, I know but I don't think that's the priority in the heat of the moment), times when I have said something because it's come up naturally, times when they have felt the difference (my lovely younger man just said "Operation?" and carried on) times when I have announced it. From reading was you've said about the the fireman, I suspect he will either say, 'ok show me' or just 'ok' which is about as much a reaction I've every had. Just do what you feel like doing. Feel free to pm me if you want to.

Ah ok, Scatty, that's completely understandable, does he know that you've had any health issues ? This is the chap who's a fireman, isn't it ? ( if it isn't, please excuse me, I'm rubbish at remembering things ) - if he is, and I base this on knowing a lot of firemen, really very well, they tend to be very matter of fact about health/physical matters so hopefully he would be easy to talk to.
I was terribly worried about my caesarean scars when I first had sex with Maris, made sure that I mentioned it to him several times beforehand, fretted endlessly about it, turned out he was so happy to shag me that he didn't care. I think men are often like this - of course the 3 Bs may wish to contradict me.

carried on), and times...

and Scatty the 'show me' is either tender interest or more of a 'is it ok to touch' etc

Hello all, so nice to read about things going well.
Thank you for all your sensible advice. I told myself it's only one evening, it can't hurt. Hmm. Well it didn't hurt as my expectations were so low but it was soulless and pointless. I like the sex even though he is selfish but need to just stop seeing him, as you all say. Wandering around taking this kind of ambivalence and lack of kindness is really affecting my view of myself - it has to stop. Everyone deserves better than this, I am hard enough on myself. I'm sat here crying, I suppose because I just want someone to think I'm lovely, but I've lost belief that I have anything to offer at all.