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it's a new dawn, it's a new day ..........it dating thread 36!

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lulubellaboozle · 11/01/2013 12:30

Post away daters x

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watchoutforthatsnail · 18/01/2013 15:43

hmmm. well, at unexpected turn of events.

Chatting turned to a bit of banter, which led to flirting, which led to massive flirting, which led to teasing, which led to absolute filth.

And thats where its stayed.

Sunday is still on. it might be interesting.

Im still going to go, i do fancy the hell out of him. I know you cant tell really until you meet, but you can be fairly sure. Im fairly sure.

I supose its better to go on a date wanting to rip their clothes off with your teeth, than going with full knowledge that you dont fancy them at all.

I shall just have to get some of ikes iron knickers.

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lulubellaboozle · 18/01/2013 15:54

mutual absolute filth is good, unwanted or unsolicited filth isn't - all sounds good watch fingers crossed for you.

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watchoutforthatsnail · 18/01/2013 16:15

i just really fancy him.

alot.

all his pics, even the ones that hes just snapped and sent to me, are really hot.
but the chatting is really good too, and we have been chatting for a few days before the pics...

he seems awesome.

hes going to have a stupidly high voice or something, isnt he. or there will be no spark in rl.

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lulubellaboozle · 18/01/2013 16:30

have you not spoken on the phone? I always have to had to hear their voice and find out if the chat flows or if I think there is the potential for that and if the banter translates from written to spoken. I've changed my mind about meeting people in the past if the phone conversation wasn't doing it for me.

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watchoutforthatsnail · 18/01/2013 16:33

no, we havent.
i always find it a bit awkward and prefer to wait

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lulubellaboozle · 18/01/2013 16:41

we all do it differently but it's what you feel comfortable with and what's right for you, isn't it? roll on sunday eh?

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watchoutforthatsnail · 18/01/2013 17:03

yeah :)

but it will probably snow too much, or he will be a knob or something. in the meantime i shall just enjoy the flirting :)

48howdidthathappen · 18/01/2013 17:18

I have only spoken to one on the phone before meeting. Thought he was about to book a church. I ran a mile Grin

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lulubellaboozle · 18/01/2013 17:25

in the 10 days before we met in person for the first time, Mr ExArmy and I worked out that we had spoken for nearly 17 hours on the telephone, that was excluding the texts and emails too. It was full on, our first phone conversation was 1 hour and 17 minutes and the second 3 hours and 20 minutes.

The funny this is, he was really nervous before the first conversation as he said he wasn't very chatty and didn't like using the phone. although come to think of it, the text he sent me the next morning after the first phonecall said "it was lovely listening to you, I mean chatting to you last night!" Confused

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JulietteMontague · 18/01/2013 17:25

It went well, he was lovely. Coffee turned to lunch to cake and bubbles. Funny thing given my doubts about Vague, we split the bill but I had no problem with it at all as I had asked him if he'd like a drink and he took it as an invite which is fine. He didn't piss me off once, this has never happened before. I can imagine getting naked with him. He said he'd like to see me again so yes.

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lulubellaboozle · 18/01/2013 17:27

Juliette fantastic, what a lovely way to spend a snowy friday!

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watchoutforthatsnail · 18/01/2013 17:36

juliette, that is great!!! horray for good dates :)

i only started chatting to chilli boy last sunday evening... we swapped numbers monday evening and have text/whats app since then. its enough to go on.

Snapespeare · 18/01/2013 17:36

juliette that's lovely. :-)

I've gone off of pre-meet filth. It's never ended well, I'm particularly mindful of catweazle-what-did-a-runner. He was hideous and I'd gone down the filth route... Couldn't be more embarrassed.

OhWesternWind · 18/01/2013 17:38

Oh excellent stuff Juliette! What a great start.

48howdidthathappen · 18/01/2013 17:45

Result Juliette Smile

I never text filth before meeting either. Kinda think I am on a promise.

Horses for courses.

scoobydooagain · 18/01/2013 17:53

Hi, still have 2 dates on for tomorrow, but change of men! The evening one texted "hello sexy" this morning and it just put me off, i've never met him, very little contact and was feeling a bit meh about him anyway, and then next Saturday's date texted to say wondering if could move our date closer, so cancelled meh man and seeing other in his place!!

watchoutforthatsnail · 18/01/2013 17:58

i dont usually, in fact id take that as a no, and not meet them.

But it just kind of happened, it wasnt him, and it wasnt me... it was sort of both of us.

Until now the conversation hasnt been anything more than mildly flirty, and normal day to day stuff and general chit chat. We just went from saying we looked rough today, to swapping pics ( no make up!!) to him saying we were well matched.. and then next thing you know :)

He said he wasnt expecting that, i said i wasnt either.

Ive said hes not on a promise, and he agreed but says we seems to get on great and hes really looking forward to seeing me.

Im just taking it as it comes.

JulietteMontague · 18/01/2013 17:59

Another one here who doesn't do any kind of text filth, never mind pre meet. Just doesn't do it for me Blush

48howdidthathappen · 18/01/2013 18:09

Oh Juliette I do it in a jokey sort of way, but only if already DTD. I rarely text until a meeting. Like to keep my number private.

Scooby That would of put me off too, over familiar.
Good luck tomorrow Smile

lubeybooby · 18/01/2013 18:12

I need to have met someone and preferably had a few dates, know them and shagged them already before any text filth or general filth discussions... I need to know what it is exactly I'm going on about... very much like snape said I think... too hideously awkward if it then turns out awful/no spark/etc

Date sounds good Juliette, hooray for not pissing you off once :o

watchoutforthatsnail · 18/01/2013 18:15

yeah, possibly my hormones got the better of me....
that and the fact i really fancy him. did i mention that ??? :)

48howdidthathappen · 18/01/2013 18:18

Watch Grin

VelvetSpoon · 18/01/2013 18:43

I've been known to entertain some text filth in the past, however as I find men ALWAYS assume from how I look and dress that I am 'up for it' , any sort of sexting, even just mild flirting, leaves them with the expectation they are on a promise Hmm so I have to basically do either aloof unavailable icequeen or shy and retiring by text to avoid them getting the wrong idea...

MirandaWest · 18/01/2013 18:53

I occasionally do some text filth but not that much. Depends what mood I'm in

JulietteMontague · 18/01/2013 18:57

Lubey yes, no irritation either, it's a miracle! He has texted to say again he would like to see me, yay!

48 I have no problem with talking about sex before DTD and often do as I want a man with the good attitude and I'm not getting naked unless I think we're going to have a good time. I can't stand men who insist I have a 'pussy', just yuk, too porn star slap it why don't you, for me. Cunt yes, any made up name yes but never, ever Pussy . If a man doesn't get why, we're unlikely to get on. I know I'm unusual in this but my feminist roots just won't allow it Grin

Watch do you think you might be a little attracted to him?

Scooby yep, Sexy Lady man can go sit in the corner with the Pussy Slappers.