The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Are Going To Need A Bigger Bus!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babes Battle Bus, it's a place of solace, support and sanctuary, but also it's also a Bus full of chatterboxes, waffling on about all sorts!

Our aim this year is to kick the WineWitch or WW into touch and get sober!

Some of the Babes on board are doing Dry January, some drink in moderation, some just drink. Some of us are sober, some of us are trying so very, very hard to be.

Some of us have been dry for days, weeks, months and some of us years...... some of us are just starting out and are scared of what stopping drinking means. It's not forever, it's just for today if that's what you want.

We have a saying on the Bus One Day At A Time. Or ODAAT

Take each moment, each day and each blip as it comes.

Although some Babes have been here a while and kind of 'know' each other, we all have different lives, different roles to play, different places to sit on the Bus, but we ALL have or have had abusive relationships with alcohol and we're here because we want that to change; for the better.

EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE so don't be afraid to just jump right in and say hello. Post as much or as little as you like! It's all up to you.

For those who want to catch up - here is the PREVIOUS THREAD

And the first ever thread, with links to the others over the last almost 3 years! FIRST THREAD

purple thank you, I was just feeling a bit down, got a bit of a migraine and wishing I could have a drink, so that was a nice reminder of how far I've come!

the good news is the pest control guys have agreed to take the nest, and they're coming on Monday

the other good news is we're going to the in-laws tomorrow and I have stopped drinking when visiting them. although part of me thinks that is bad news because I want something after all the trauma this week...

ma guggs soma stay strong everybody, the Wine Witch is a bitch tonight. should we all link arms?

Links arms with others. Yes she is skulking round here tonight, whispering enticements. Oh this is wearisome......

It's Forge on Through Friday, Guggs

Power on straight through the weekend, just like any other day, one day at a time.

Well, as long as we've all got our arms linked, we might as well do the Can Can

Can we do the Hokey Cokey next, please, please, pretty please

High kicks along the bus, showing her knickers

How about the Conga!? x

Showing her smug knickers

Love it Faire, much better than Fuck IT Friday which it could so easily be here! Tonight was fine until I went on facebook and people have thrown in the towel with dry January - my immediate thought was oh good i can too as I won't lose face if I'm not the first -not exactly the right mindset! I think what's changed is the wanting bit - memory fade has happened so I have lost the desperately wanting NOT to drink, self loathing and have the WANTING to drink - actually I don't even really want to drink I just want to rebel, I just feel I am not allowed to do something and therefore I must do it because I can and I will - inner toddler, teenager? Anyway I'm not going to think about the rest of the month as I just see days to be endured stretching ahead.

One day at a time, I will not drink tonight, tomorrow I'll think about then. Sorry not to namecheck, have been reading and haven't had time to post, just needed to get that down. Love to all xx

green I could have posted that myself.I totally understand that post. It was relatively easy for a while but its getting harder and morentedious

Our minds work in such a weird and self defeating way - I am this close to opening a bottle of wine because I have friends coming tomorrow and I'm sure I'll drink and therefore "FUCK IT" drink now - even though by rights it's 9 O'clock now and I wouldn't normally start drinking at this time. So that logic is have a drink now because I might have one tomorrow

That's why we don't think about tomorrow.

That's the WW logic speaking, whispering in your ear Green! Give her a smack in the mouth and tell her to come back tomorrow! xx

Oh green don't do it. You have done brilliantly and I am pissed off with myself for my one glass lapse yesterday. Can you go to bed early, can you go now? Can you promise yourself a treat tomorrow if you don't drink tonight? Tell the wine witch to FUCK OFF! I will be going to bed the minute ds gets his arse off the sofa and goes

Have had two bottles of wine and two cans of cider. I don't even appear drunk. my sister just said 'well it's fri night, shall we have a drink?' she thinks it's just time to have a small can of lager between us (??) I feel so crap, don't know what DH and DS are saying about me.

Just to say keep on keeping on, to all you strong minded WW-fucker-offers. give her a kick uo the arse for me.

I'm thinking about tapering off during the rest of my radoitherapy - two weeks - no wine and reducing cans of cider/lager. I know it's an excuse but i also know cold turkey can be dangerous. If I did go CT though, surely you would have some warning before a seizure or something serious. It wouldn't just happen with no warning?

Thanks everyone. DH can't find stuff to put DS1 to bed. WTF it's only a book.

got to go . XX

The thing is, at the time the 'craving' for want of a better word, seems so strong and all encompassing. But when it's gone, we wonder what all the fuss was about.

We know we can get past it but the only way is to not give it any attention whatsoever. Don't mull it over, don't consider the pro's and cons, don't make bargains, or listen to that inner voice. Just do something else until it passes.

I know it's hard but it will go away. Now, where were we - oh yes, put your left leg in, your left leg out, in, out, in, out, shake it all about . . .

smells please speak to your gp about this. They will help you detox safely and we will hold your hand x

smells That is a tricky one - is there such a place as addaction or a stop drinking service near you - you wouldn;t have to go through your doctor then and could get some good advice about cutting down/stopping. Sounds like a difficult place to be living :(

I've managed tonight - done 11 days now. Blimey. In bed with MonsterCat numbing my legs and CBB (I know I know, am taping the big family prog!) Everyone - hope you're doing ok, x

Thank you babes :) Your right faire, intense but gone now - I have to say if the wine had been in the fridge and not the back of the garage I WOULD be drinking it now. Babes you have to remove it from the house!

Well done Green, girl done good! x

Smells I agree with Faire you need some support right now, for all that it going on for you. We will all be here for you.

East Well done on Day 11

Big, stupid row with cow bag DD just now but doing OK here at Purple Towers.

green and everyone else who's managed to kick off the WW tonight, well done!

:and shake it all about:

purple thanks for your concern... But... I am still in the side car at mo... I know how well I did the last 9 or so days... But...I am on my last 3days of work... And am really struggeling... I wish I hadnt but I have drunk a bottle of Port and half bottle red wine today
I will be back on the bus as soon as possible... I know i have to.... What a fucking mess

Well done green. That's why I had to physically chuck a bottle of stuff down the sink last night.if it was still here, I would have drunk it tonight.
east well done you.
purple teen dds are bitches of the highest order. They are pushing every boundary going and constantly spoiling for a fight. Try not to engage in one unless really vital. Ignore the small stuff, nod and say brightly " that's fine/nice dear" or "well, if you say so I'm sure it must be true" ( they hate that one) or shrug and say "whatever". Don't do all the picking up after her. When she doesn't have clothes washed or ironed she will figure out how to do it herself, or wear them unironed.stuff left lying about gets scooped up, put in a bin bag, and dumped in her room. She can rummage in it to find her stuff.rudeness is unacceptable, attempts at communication are rewarded and praised. Mobile phones/iPads etc can be confiscated and earned back. Be consistent, make sure she knows you love her and will always be there for her, but you have expectations and as someone living in your house, she has to meet them

"Well, if you say so I'm sure it must be true" priceless Ma - thanks for the potted guide to co-existing with those lovely teens. Hope peace still reigns Purple.

MrD that's the great thing about the bus, you can hop on and fall off and hop right on back again.

Thanks Ma I do pretty well most times and keep a lot of swear words to myself! Tonight I had told her I wanted her in bed by nine, lights out by half past, gave her quite a few reminders, went in at 9 to find she had half the contents of her bedroom on her bed! I told her I was expecting her to be in bed by now and was met with a huffy/rude "I'M CLEARING THE STUFF OFF MY BED!". I told her, that as she obviously was not capable of time management, I'd have to insist on an earlier bedtime. Eventually, half an hour late, she came to say good night but then got a strop on when I said "Right, off to bed then" (in a reasonably light manner) and she decided to take that as I wasn't going to give her a goodnight kiss. "WELL, GOODNIGHT TO YOU TOO!!" Stomp, stomp. Me, quietly, "well you've made a mistake tonight" and she came back in for round two. I wouldn't rise to it and told her to just go to bed (calmly). But, inside, it makes you soooo mad! Sorry, rant over, and breeeeathe!

MrD This time last year, I had had a dry spell before Christmas then failed when the festivities arrived - and didn't even try to call a halt to the madness until the middle of last October. 11 months of feeling hopless and helpless. This year, I am already on my second attempt and I see that as an improvement, I have more hope. You've addressed the problem, got 9 days under your belt and know how good it can feel when you have days without alcohol. Most (or all) of us on here didn't manage to give up the first time, but we keep trying. That's the important thing. Keep on keeping on. x

Hi to Koti sorry you are still struggling. Hope tomorrow is better and you are less dozy for you. x