Hello, tis me, Mouse 
Welcome to the Brave Babes Battle Bus, it's a place of solace, support and sanctuary, but also it's also a Bus full of chatterboxes, waffling on about all sorts!
Our aim this year is to kick the WineWitch or WW into touch and get sober!
Some of the Babes on board are doing Dry January, some drink in moderation, some just drink. Some of us are sober, some of us are trying so very, very hard to be.
Some of us have been dry for days, weeks, months and some of us years...... some of us are just starting out and are scared of what stopping drinking means. It's not forever, it's just for today if that's what you want.
We have a saying on the Bus One Day At A Time. Or ODAAT
Take each moment, each day and each blip as it comes.
Although some Babes have been here a while and kind of 'know' each other, we all have different lives, different roles to play, different places to sit on the Bus, but we ALL have or have had abusive relationships with alcohol and we're here because we want that to change; for the better.
EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE so don't be afraid to just jump right in and say hello. Post as much or as little as you like! It's all up to you.
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And the first ever thread, with links to the others over the last almost 3 years! FIRST THREAD
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Mouseface · 08/01/2013 11:59
No white wine in the house, but was thinking I could go buy red & have a couple of glasses and maybe I'll be ok on red? I know this is wrong 
I wrote down all the negative effects (white) wine has on me so think I need to read over & watch YouTube video again x
Aw thank you help I think the help & support on this bus is inspiring, definitely want to stay on & hope not to fall off again! The way I felt on Sunday was beyond awful, then Monday, Tuesday I felt in deep depression, my mood lifted slightly yesterday & what really scares me is by last night I was thinking a chilled, glass of white wine would be nice!
Morning all brave babes finally starting to feel a bit better since huge binge on wine on Saturday. I think it's shocking that it's took 4 full days to recover, just makes you think of how damaging all the toxins are that it takes your body days to recover. I work 3 days a week & have phoned in sick for all 3 days this week feel bad but have been here to settle my little boy into nursery so going to try & not feel too guilty (& hope I do t get sacked!)
purple hugs (( )) chocolates, flowers & all round brilliant well done. Sounds like yesterday was so hard but you managed & didn't resort to the cow that is the ww. It's such a hard addiction to beat, she can be so alluring. I have an almost 14 year old dd and can so emphasise with the attitude. Sometimes in my mind I actually think I hate her, then just as quick I am overcome with protectiveness and love for her, it's not easy bringing these girls up!
mouse so sorry you are in so much pain, you have so much to give others & wish there was a pain relief you could find that worked & gave you some let up, hopefully once this cold snap thaws things will improve (((( )))))
curry babyj alais emin ma mia green & all other brave babes hugs ((( ))) love, peace & strength & thank you all for your support xx
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Well done em on 23 days!!
Green that video is beautiful and inspiring.
Oops sorry Mouse I marked place on new thread when I read your first posted link. I won't go again until this is full. [chastened] Sorry to hear you're in so much pain.
Purple I would have been fucking apoplectic with rage if my DD (or anyone) had done that with a treasured present. I think you were incredibly restrained! Are you going to give her a consequence for what she did? Well done on not drinking and I agree about being more able to know that your feelings are valid and genuine when you aren't drinking.
Curry I know what you mean about being drinking buddies with your DP and that leaving a gap. A love of wine (and food) has been a huge thing in common ever since we got together, and I have doubts that our relationship would survive complete abstinence. Hopefully once you're feeling better, you can find different ways of bonding? My DP is a very quiet, self contained person too, and often only opens up a bit when he's had a drink. I know and accept that about him though, as I'm sure your DP does or can about you. Have you told him how awful you're feeling at the moment?
Please go and see your GP and tell them how you're feeling x
Evening all. Another day over. I have nothing to add except my awe and admiration for everyone. You're all so inspiring, I'm just kind of taggin along, hoping I can also listen and maybe offer advice and support. I hope that's ok. Going through some stuff at the moment, but don't want to talk about it yet. I hope everyone is having a great and peaceful evening. DAY 23 
Great last post Help - about confidence. I'm really going now xx
And as this is the last page HERE'S THE NEW THREAD which I'd like you ALL ( Joey that means you! 
) to not post on just for now please until this one is full otherwise we might miss a cry for help if it gets busy and ends up in active convos!
I've put it up because I'm not here in the morning and don't want to have no thread for those in need......
Help - your face is still giving you grief? big hugs to you. I'm glad you've got an understanding boss though and hope you're back to 100% soon. YAY for the new job too! 
congratulations xx
Purple - DD is almost 14 (if she makes it) and boy do I know that attitude of which you speak. I swear to Jeff, I could easily launch her into next door's garden at points with the eye rolls, sighs, tuts etc........
BUT - she asked if she could go somewhere this wknd. I said well, let me know where/when/who with etc, I'll clear it with so and so's mum and come back to you to tell you who's driving you.
She back tracked so fast I thought she was going to leave scorch marks on the floor. In short, I'd seen right through her and called her bluff by involving the mother of another child. She then said that she was sorry. I asked why, and she said because she'd lied and knew I'd seen right through her.
Thing is, I get why she did it. She didn't want me to say NO. Which is cool, I get that but I explained that if she lies, and fucks me around, she will be on lock down for the foreseeable, and I WILL follow through with the threat! 
What's more Purple, you coped without turning to the WW!!! Well the feck done!
It's not easy. And funnily enough, DD has my lovely cupcake canvass bag that she borrowed as her new PE kit bag. Come rain or shine, it's no longer mine. BUT, if it makes her not get picked on for having a Aldi food bag to put her kit in, then I'll let her use it. She does look after it. And that's the deal.
Anyway.............
Oooo, I don't think I ever got a gold star before Joey! "Thank you sooo much for this amazing Gold Star!" "I really didn't expect this, I love you all!""I'd just like to thank.........." Cheers Dears! xx
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