The all new, sparkly,2013 Dating Thread - 35!

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off you go.

Bant my 'hunch' (fwiw) is that she bottled out..prob just nerves and her own insecurities rather than because she saw you and didnt like you

48 Honestly its a rich source....take the virtual backrub scenario honestly...hilarious! (well it appeals to my warped sense of humour). The cock shots..anatomical descriptions...

.....and the to top it off turning to our mates online for support...its beyond existential....fuck I have just blown my own mind (Velv..not down playing your situation ...but I like to amuse myself ..it helps therapeutically)

Voice I am interesting

Apart from that, I sail Catamarans. Sometimes Lasers but you can see why I don't do it in the UK. Strictly the Med, and after May.

So are we talking a shortie or are you a longer length man?

Juliette - longer length, always Actually, been considering selling the boat and giving up. I sail on a river, great for racing and improving tacking skills, but last two years the weather has either been no wind or far too windy and weeks and weeks of flooding so couldn't even get to the club. Added to which, at 38 I am almost the youngest there and while there are some nice people in their 40s, they are all families and really only mix with the other families.

Wow ...now a virtual date scene on the online support thread (ike gets notebook out)

Ike The gift that just keeps giving

ike - i think thats because most of us dont know any single people in rl, so no one who is doing online dating....
and its so weird, they just wouldnt get it at all.

and velvet, all he has done is make you doubt yourself and feel like you dont make the grade. that is not any way any one should make you feel. Hes waving about 1000 red flags in your face.

I really would take control back, send him a text to close the door firmly in his face :)

Watch the date was a bit awkward. I'll say this now (I wouldn't have admitted it before) but he somehow wasn't as attractive in RL as in his photos. I don't quite know why, they are him, and they are really recent. He is still very goodlooking, but in real life although I did feel an attraction it was more like 'he's nice' whereas in photos he literally gives me butterflies.

I've never had that happen before. Another odd thing.

Slam the door

I know sometimes I just place myself outside of my body and look on in amazement at all the strange stuff going on and my mind just flips over... someone get me fork I need to stab my hand...

i confess, i blocked the sex man and left okc open ( there isnt many on it in my area)
im currently chatting to a bank manager!!!! hahahahahahahahahaahaha. hysterically funny, given my dire financial circumstances ;)

again velvet... see!!!
:)

Please send a text shutting the door, letting him know you wont be played and are better than that.

Nothing mean, it doesnt need to be, but just something.

Even if its ' Im sorry, ive done some thinking over the weekend and i dont think we have anything in common because you a a twat, i dont want to see nor chat to you again.

:)

he wont be expecting it at all.

Velvet I know it's tempting to keep the door open even just to torture himbut the sooner you get rid the sooner you will move forward.

Voice I would keep the boat and move to the coast. Or the Med, they are slightly younger there

velvet Remember your own thought 'I am too good for this shit'
You were on the money then!

Photo thing is weird. When I first got a message from him I was like this . Honestly, his photos do give me butterflies. But in RL he wasn't quite the same.

Whereas Cuthbert looked pretty ordinary in his (1) photo, but in RL is actually more attractive than ST. Go figure.

Ok, I'm coming round to the closing the door idea. Not quite ready to do it yet, but I will :)

i agree juliette, otherwise you are just continuing the self torture.

its quite empowering to take control back, it doesnt feel nice to have to... but when you start standing up for yourself/ what you believe in, its a good thing......its good for self esteem and self worth.

Too many women are taught to be people pleasers, to go along with what everyone says, to not rock the boat, to not put their needs first or even second. When you finally start doing it, its a bit of a revelation ( even if it does mean it doesnt always go down well)

Juliette - I considered moving to the coast that but most coastal places tend to be either small and mostly retirees or cities with lots of students rather than lots of people in their 30s (other than families).

Velvet - agree with the others, a textual LTB is in order. You're too good.

you really should velvet.
:)

Its not so much what the text says, but what it does, for YOU>

Its YOU taking back the control
Its YOU saying you are too good for his shit
and its YOU putting and end to it

it makes all the difference, promise you. Try it.

Other wise the idiot will think hes pulling your strings, you will continue to feel like you arent up to scrach, and its almost like pulling off a plaster, very very slowly.

Just rip it off and be done with it ;)

It was like when Mr FU tried to play me.

I know it was childish but I punched the air. Laughing I win Arsehole!

48 I have a very beautiful tb bay gelding, if you are feeling left out of the site-based sporting romance scene.

A TB you say

;)

it is good to take control back, huh. always makes me laugh too, im like' ha, fuck you'

I think once you have done it once, it doesnt take so much effort to do it again, and it comes a lot easier the next time.

of course, id rather not have to do it at all, but id far rather my self esteem was protected, that let some crap man ( like he has shown himself to be) make me feel shit about myself.

Antonym and I ride off into the sunset

Oh I have got so behind with you all - one night out with LM and here you are on a new thread. Everything is moving on so quickly at the moment with lots of people.

Out of interest, does anyone have any experience of being in a relationship where one person has a lot more money than the other, much nicer house etc and did this lead to problems at all? Don't want to say which one is me as I want unbiassed opinions. It's not an issue with us at all, nothing has ever been said and nobody has been made to feel awkward because of it, but something I've always been a bit aware of. Neither of us is skint btw so it's not something that has any immediate impact, just interested as I've not been in this situation before.