The all new, sparkly,2013 Dating Thread - 35!

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Voice I just read your post...so sorry ...I had a close work colleagu die of an aneurysm actually in work ...she was in her early 30s ...so sad and awful for her family.

Oh voice that's awful, something similar happened to a close relative of mine a year ago and it is devastating.

My heart goes out to his family.

Voice that's awful, no words could possibly be enough.

Juliette be more brazen next time - if you're going to assume don't try and pretend you weren't - commit to it

Seriously though I do think he was out of order. His suggestion, knew you weren't all that bothered, and can easily tell he earns eleventy times what you did... it's a bit tight of him really.

I always offer to pay my own way, buy rounds and if I'd been the one doing the inviting, expect to pay for the meal, and if not the one doing the inviting, at least offer to pay my share, I hate things that I consider to be 'unfair' in any way.

Bill, I'm sorry, that is a truly awful.

Voice I am so sorry I missed your post there - what a dreadful thing :(

Actually, that's Voice, not Bill.

Oh and boys....just so you know up front like....I expect you to pay AND 'put out' so there...

On the subject of who pays (on a first date).
My first date(s) with ironman were quirky.
The was my suggestion, in part because he was my first date in many, many years and I knew I would barely hold it together for nerves.

If I had gone on other dates I would also have suggested something a bit more unusual, I have a strong sense of the absurd so the usual gastropub thing would probably make me laugh with the weirdness of it all.

Some of my favourite memories in life have been cheap and simple, good conversation, a coffee and M&S sandwich on a park bench would be my idea of dating heaven! And I wouldn't mind paying!

Ike

Actually, a good chippy would do me.

Juliette I agree with feeling patronised by men who make assumptions about money/materialism. I get the distinct impression that you get more of that as a single mother. People assume you're struggling emotionally as well as financially. The guy I mentioned, who wouldn't tell women until the second meeting at least that he was well off, he told me over dinner (our first and last!) and I think he thought that was a way to nail a relationship down. He gave me a lift across town afterwards and I noticed he'd brought an overnight bag with him. I went home alone - had never intended otherwise - and he seemed surprised I didn't want to continue seeing him, I think he assumed I'd see him as a good catch simply by the fact I'm a single mother with a part time, non-professional job.

The other side of the coin is the nicest guy I've ever met through OD - a genuinely good person - found that women dropped him once they found out he was 'just' a student (having gone to uni in his 30s) and had to budget tightly wrt dating costs. Which is sad, because he was a good catch.

Have you seen the bloody price of chippies these days Arse??? There was a thread the other day on it something like £22 for a 'double' portion of fish n chips...you can forget about the bloody snog in the bus stop if I am paying...

Lubey I'm not sure there will be a next time. I've tried but I just can't fancy him and because he keeps pouncing it's putting me off even more. I keep wondering if I really fancied him if I would like him walking up and putting his hands around my waist under my coat but no. It's not a natural move unless you are already up close. I wasn't disturbed by it like the mouth pounce, it was just

When my best friend (female) and I go out, we tend to split a bill. Occasionally I insist on paying both and sometimes she does.

Looking back into the distant past, I always paid for a first date - I asked, so I paid. And in both the online dating instances it involved a meal (very nice 'better class' pub, not posh restaurant). The first woman made no attempt to offer to pay anything but I didn't think anything of it. The second woman made an attempt to pay half, I declined, but she insisted on paying for date 2.

No actually Grinchie agree ...nothing better than a Sunday stroll in a farmers marker tasting food....or a good cooked breakfast (eggs benedict please!) a decent family run italian (bring your own wine)....or chips on the seafront...

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Juliette I meant if in the same kind of situation with anyone not just him...

22 quid for fish and chips ? That'll be in some poncey London chippy, not on the front at Morecambe, in the drizzle.

Juliette I save my red flags for serious trouble but the not-paying-when-he'd-suggested thing is somewhat mean and bad mannered, I would suggest you don't see him again because in a long term relationship that sort of mindset would drive me mad.

Voice ...I just realised its not just 3Bs any more ...can you change your name to Boice of unreason please???

Yeah it was bloody London....poncy...

£22 for a 'double' portion of fish n chips.

Where was this ike ? Darn sarf in Laahndan ?

You can get a great fish supper here for £6.50, and I mean 'tail-hanging-off-the-end-of-the-feckin'-plate'.

Yeah ...one of the best fish n chips I ever had was from a van in Tobermory. Mind you my fave chippy is pushing £8....I would expect a side portion of annilingus if I was paying for a double portion

A chippy that did a side portion of cunnilingus ? You'd have to fight me to get to the front of the queue, Ike