I've packed up his stuff! Last straw! Short!

[tzella]

The absolute last straw* is that, since being paid plus getting £600 bonus on 24/12, I have £75 left in my account! The cocklodging bastard is GONE TODAY. I'm going to meet him at station and hand over stuff then meet my best friend (who I am not allowed to see!) for £74.99 worth of booze and slagging him off.

What the actual fuck have I been doing?? 2013 starts here

• so so so many last staws including 'peeling potatoes is boring' on Xmas day!! I spent boxing day writing a variation on this post in my head. Plus, for full disclosure, I took him back after he whacked me Utter madness

There was really no point in saying anything, I don't think. Why should I be the reasonable one all the time? Fuck him.

I've made this sound very easy, perhaps too easy I'm 38. He loved me, in his way, very much and i put up with a lot in good humour and I'm gutted I'm back to square one but if you cost me money; god help you.

he was waiting in our FAVOURITE PUB

Not any more it ain't. Henceforth it's a pub, not materially different from any other hostelry except that it's one where you on occasions to numerous to mention paid the tab for a freeloader met up with total tosser.

And you're never back to square one in life. It's all part of the journey and other things have happened in the last few years apart from him ?

Well done OP! Wishing you a cocklodger free 2013.

Be prepared for him to contact you again though, try to worm his way back in and possibly cause a scene at a later date.

Oh Yes. You'll get the late night call - maybe even crying. Just a little.

Be strong.

Yay to freedom from cocklodgers! Took me 20 years and more, plus the power of mn, but 2012 was the year I got rid of mine, I was 59 at the time

Have a great evening OP

Yayyy! Have a great evening:-) Would love to have seen his shocked/angry face!

Well done you!

You have made my day OP. If DP ever becomes close to that cocklodging moneygrabbing selfish pig of a man I shall be looking back on this thread for inspiration

Well Done! Stay strong!

And it's his controlling behaviour that was his worst feature IMHO - not letting you see your best friend was bad It was only ever going to get worse.
Stay strong ! Be happy

My favourite thread of the year so far!

oooh well done!!

Good morning. Sincere thanks to you all for being so supportive and funny

Just to sate any curiosity; he didn't say anything at all! He was in the middle of taking a sip of ale and just in that moment there was a beat and I was able to dump the bag, turn on my heel and go straight out of the door. He's not called or texted and going on past form I doubt he will. It's always been me trying to entice him back, and he's been happy to come but not this time!

I had a good time with my friend! Sat in the freezing cold outside a pub by the river and I have a small hangover this morning. Had a tiny cry an hour ago when I saw stuff in the fridge (?!) but don't feel as bereft as I did the other 6 times we've broken up... yet, anyway.

The bed was cold.

Today I have to think very hard about getting a loan from the bank. I've never been in 'official' debt in my life and I really don't want to be but have to get back on track somehow. That fuckwit I'm a fuckwit!

Oh well. Onwards and upwards Thanks again

Cold bed? www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/4500496.htm

Hi tzella i'm so glad you have rid him from your life. You will be much better without him. Yes there will be days when you feel a bit lonely, but i would rather be a bit lonely than be taken for granted and treat like shit.

A hit water bottle is fairly inexpensive, and it keeps you warm without pissing you off

Its time to focus on you, put yourself first. This is what 2013 is for. That is my plan, and i have felt happier in the past 2 days than i have for a very long time. Nothing exciting has happened, but i have decided the i am worth it and i do deserve to be happy

Good luck with everything

Oh no! Maybe a super-retro hot bottle but not a blanket! This maybe

puds Thank you. You're 100% right and it's lovely to hear from someone else feeling free and themselves again

This year I need to give up smoking and do some personal development. All I do is eat, sleep, go to work and drink. Need to feed my brain a bit more.

Personal development is my focus this year too

I have decided that i cannot have a healthy relationship with a man until i have a healthy relationship with myself.

Yes! Exactly! And I look at myself and think "Golly, you're a bit fat and you smoke and you don't really do anything interesting anymore." I wouldn't want to go out with me

Luckily they are easily fixed, unlike your Ex who has a shite personality

Finally heard from him - a text asking to see me which I deleted and a voicemail saying he has nowhere to go laid it on thick about being homeless and sleeping in the street I know this sounds especially shocking but don't be fooled! My heart jumped into my throat because I was almost fooled too! But it's bull. It's the sort of thing he says because he doesn't understand that... He doesn't believe that... Basically, he thinks I'm stupid. Besides, his uncle lives in west London, his cousin in north London and besides all THAT he gets paid in a wodge of fifty pound notes.

Just had to post this here to keep me honest Plus, im at home tonight because i xant afford to go out so im bored. My heart/chest muscle literally twitched and now hurts a bit. A physical sensation of what, I don't know.

Keep strong OP, you know it's just his BS! Plus his accomodation / cocklodging problems are his now, not yours. You deserve better.

Thanks Lizzie. I would have felt v sorry for him a few weeks ago and given in but he spent those entire few weeks making me despise him. Stupid stupid man.

Hot water bottle on the way from amazon!