Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

[lubeybooby]

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

I have a date with Dumbledore. The day after he comes back to London 'personally sooner would be nicer' natural history museum, geocaching.

I get that nice 'zing' when I get a message from him.

Met downstairs neighbour on stairs, exchanged happy New Years and then impressed him with my boundless knowledge of doctor who, including showing him my tattoo and a discussion of the merits of David tennants Hamlet.

In other news, first day back at work after no-sleep as DS1 being an absolute FUCKING MONSTER last night. Fed up with him, taking DD & DS2 to his session at CAHMS on the 15th as I really can't go on like this. Am at end of tether and this makes me reluctant to contemplate dating anyone as no-one would want me us me.

Watching 'atonement' (James McAvoy!) eating left overs. Drinking a rum. Healthy starts when all the good stuff is gone, I refuse to throw out nice stuff.

Good luck with DS1 Snape, having bother with mine smoking too much pot and taking the piss with his grandparents.

Also good luck with your date at the NHM. Urban geocaching is so much more fun than its rural mate. Though it does make you look a bit shifty, which is not desirable in Central London! :o

Snape how lovely re date with Dumbledore! Something nice to look forward to.

I'm sorry about DS1 though. Must be so hard for all of you, him included. Is it a reaction to his dad's visit do you think or the fact schools going back soon, or a bit of both? Really hope CAMHS can offer some solutions.

Juilette Hope you are right and it is the sex. Just want a simple life with a little Rock & Roll

A lot of it is related to his dad, velvet but he's finding out who he is, so he's pushing boundaries with me, wont do what he's told, won't ever get off the family laptop and punched his brother when he managed to wrestle it away from him. I actually sat outside the house in the car for ten minutes tonight to delay going in.

A joint would be a great idea nicholas I might mellow out a bit.

Oooh Snape, a date!

Well this is new, on PoF

begging messages... 'please PLEASE talk to me please!'

Ah man the weirdos are out already!! Listen to this for a line

Him: Hey there sexy posh woman
Me: I'm not posh
Him: I wanted to ask you something but I forgot
Me: shame
Him: oh I remembered. Will you come out for a drink with me

He is fugly, proper fugly. I'm not posh. His mails were littered with spelling mistakes. And I cut another comment out that was racist!

Jeez!!!!! I just want a normal, nice man to go out for a few drinks with. How can it be so bloody difficult!

What with penguin picker uppers and racist fuglys I'm reaching the end of my od tether!!!!!

How old is he, Snape ? My 17 year old ds delights in winding up his 15 year old brother and couple of weeks ago I had to physically separate them and they're much bigger than me.
It must be so draining, especially when you have all the other complications with your job etc to deal with.

kirsty stop it so jealous right now, 6-8 times per night, has he got a brother that I could have

lubey I'm back on Pof today too why are you back on

I've just rejoined, but I'm disappointed that I have only had a few messages last time I joined up I had about 100 messages in the first hour

Snape it's shit, I know.

Wanting DS to feel secure was a lot to do with me not dating for years well not in this country anyway. I didn't want anyone staying over which would have disturbed him. He was very sensitive to it because his stepD suddenly withdrew from him about a year after we split up when he finally got a gf. DS would say 'I'm not getting attached they will leave anyway' . So I decided to put him first and as I was in a couple of long distance relationships I would ask a friend to stay and would fly over and have a lovely time for a few days. It also gave me a break from the 24/7.

Nevertheless, it's heartbreaking and scary when you see your DC so unhappy and you can't stop it.

ms arse DS1 is 14, almost 15. DS2 is 13. There's only 16 months between them. It absolutely breaks my heart. Ds2 & DD adore each other, always have, DS1 is just outside of their relationship. They don't purposefully exclude him and they do occasionally do nice things for each other (DD fell downstairs, DS1 was the first on the scene, made he tea, looked after her) but it's wearing me out.

Yes, DCs at WAR! Work being scummy, no money, voldemort, XP being pisseed all Xmas. I need a holiday. Fat chance of that (enters all 'weekend away' competitions and seduces Dumbledore. )

Stooge number 2 joining in!

I think some men do mix up the two, as do some women. Not sure it's a gender thing, although traditionally men are supposed to find it easier to separate sex and love.

I'm extremely cautious about throwing the L word around. Won't say it unless I mean it, and can't mean it until I know someone properly.

Moving Mr Cheeky has 5 brothers !!!

Thanks Bill I am just going to have to be careful. I don't want Mr R&R to get hurt. He is a good guy. Mad as a hatter but a good guy none the less.

Movingforward I've joined for one night only... seeing as it's apparently prime traffic time.

If anything happens that might be interesting, if not I'll be happily legging it back to my comfy sofa

Having a really funny conversation with someone who claims to have an interest in an area I specialise in, dare I say I'm actually famous in, but he doesn't know who I am. When he cottons on it's going to be interesting. Hahaa

Snape, we have lots of fighting here too, probably would be worse if my DS1 and 2 were a year rather than 3 years apart in age.

I am not sure about Spaceman. Could be wetfish time again. He has text me today on and off, not lots but some. He has made me laugh. It's nice.

He has also sent me an invite via FB to something (he's invited over 100 people, most of them girls so not that big a deal but it is in a couple of months time...)

I feel uneasy though because there are a couple of other girls on his FB who he has recently friended, who are liking all his photos and leaving little twittery misspelled and lacking in grammar comments here and there. And I feel like I'm competing, and I don't like it. And I know that sounds silly and we've had one date. He doesn't seem the type to play everyone off against each other but....

shall I just wetfish myself and step away from FB? Because every time I see something it annoys me (I havent commented on or liked anything of his, maybe thats where I'm going wrong).

lubey worth it for that alone! We are half an hour away from prime time, threadsters!

Snape, you have my absolute sympathy - ds1 is 17, ds2 is 15, dd is 13. ds2 and dd are very close, ds1 antagonises and provokes the other two, as though it's some kind of sport. Where it gets particularly painful is that in the whole interplay of the fighting, jibes, provocation, not one of them gives the slightest consideration to me or my feelings, no matter what I say or how upset I am.
I don't have any answers whatsoever but you sound like an extremely loving, hugely intelligent and fun mother, who has made huge sacrifices for your children, one day, when they're older, they will turn around and see all that.

In the meantime, fingers crossed Dumbledore is a shagmonster.

Velvet, FB is the work of the Devil - ignore the silly girlies wittering on at him, they won't be a patch on you.

Velvet, I'm usually first in line with the big fish ready to dole out the slap, but I do really hate it when a bloke has an fb page full of women. It lacks class and consideration and screams player. I would be put off too.

Just saying hello to the new thread, you people move fast

msA it bloody is. Looking at all their mindless comments made me feel ill. They aren't a patch on me in brains or looks though (sorry that's a bit bitchy)

I am so bloody competitive though. I may have to change my FB picture to the one he's said he likes best (which is ridiculously flattering) and start commenting myself.

lubey apart from these 2 most of the other women seem actually to be his friends (and married/in relationships). I know what you mean though.

Hmm not so bad if he is actually friends with them, but is it his real fb page, does he have a good number of male mates and family etc on there too and interact normally with them? otherwise I'd be running for the hills away from all the red flags

lubey how do you know there will be a lot of traffic tonight?