Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

[lubeybooby]

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

it usually does lubey, it usually does!

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i absolutley will not be meeting him, it would be a total disaster for me, id forget it was all about the kink, fall for it all/ him, and be left upset.
A spark for sure, but one thats too dangerous to take further.

pah. need to delete the account.

Man, look what you people get up to when I'm busy for a few hours! Don't know how i'm going to keep up when I actually have a job to go to.

Velvet sorry about spacetwunt, I think snape summed it up best (she usually does) with "I think the spacetosser is a fucking idiot who undoubtedly had a tiny penis and wouldn't have gone down on you"

Had a wee tweak of my GSM profile but not really sure why I bothered as there are only a handful of new people on there.

bloody texts.
After I deleted his number fireman texted me a couple of times. Usual light hearted stuff. However I'm severely stressed at the moment. I'm waiting for a couple of health related test results. He texted to say he'd noticed that I wasn't my normal confident and funny self and said he was all ears. I didn't phone, I text to say that I had a couple of health issues that were waiting to be resolved so was a bit stressed and not such good fun at the moment. Anyway he said he didn't know what to say but would find something for when we are meant to be meeting on Tuesday.
Then today....nothing......so i text him something trivial and a picture and he phoned and left a message saying that he had been with his son all day so hadn't been in contact. He said he was now at work so if he didn't answer if I phoned its because he is at work. I text saying apologies, I hadn't realised he was with his son (I had no idea).
Id he thinks I'm being needy I don't care. To be honest I thought he hadn't text because I had told him a bit more about myself. He knows very little. Am I doing this wrong daters? Advice please.

Doesn't sound to me like any of that would come across as needy, scatty. He did offer to be all ears so I wouldn't worry - just slightly crossed wires with him being busy that's all.

Thanks. Thing is my final text said 'no text from you today...I like your flirty texts. Added to that I'd told him yesterday about my health problem. The other text was about toilets. I find it odd that he can't communicate at all when with his son. Nothing.

Yeah that is a little strange but I have known a few people a bit like that when with kids in the day. It definitely isn't you anyway!

Hmm. I think he's possibly not that into me. That's ok. I know now. I was thinking I'd like to meet someone whereby I didn't feel I needed to be guarded with, I could phone, who would phone me without fear or worrying whether I'm being needy or clingy.

well when I have my DC I feel a bit guilty texting someone from OD, even if I've been seeing them in real life for a bit. I'm only a year out of a marriage so it feels like I'm not paying them enough attention, or cheating on them a bit, no matter how ridiculous that might sound.

That might explain it, maybe. Or he may be married, or something else completely different.

I have returned from the pub.

I'm slightly tipsy, but still bloody miserable. and I know 100% (barring any evidence which there may or may not be on FB) that he has another date tonight. Because there is no way he would go a whole evening without texting me once, I've not heard from him since 3pm. So proof if proof were needed he is a twat.

It's odd though because unless he's a brilliant actor (and again I don't think he's clever enough) the bloke I was texting and then met last week, who was self deprecating by text (and on his FB, in December all his mostly male mates were ribbing him about stuff), a bit shy in person, and who then allowed all that to-ing and fro-ing post date without actually asking if I wanted to see him (and then was clearly surprised when I said I did!) has now got all these girls all over his FB, and is behaving (if I'm right in what I think) like a twat. My friends tonight reckon getting a second date with me has somehow turned him from slightly geeky and awkward to Hugh Hefner I've created a monster...

I still would though. Stupid bloody hormones. And at least part of the reason for putting photos on my FB tonight was in the hope he'd see them and at least have a pang of regret although I don't suppose he actually gives a shit AND he probably still thinks he'll get to see me again anyway. How sad am I that thinking that he might just regret it makes me feel better? :(

I think he is recently out of a marriage. I think. Like you say I don't know. He does phone at odd times, always when he is at work. His texting is sporadic. Rarely evening and never morning. I just don't know and I don't ask either. I have got hung up on my personal disclosure and the fact I text him the 'you haven't text, I like your flirty texts'. Normally I wouldn't say that but after unleashing my problem on him I did and now I feel like I've ruined the shred of titivation we had. He was light entertainment.

O velvet I'd give you hug if I was there. Kudos to you. Your instincts were spot on. You knew something was wrong....and it was. Thing is we don't know what these people are like, we can only judge by our standards and many don't come up to our standards.

Aww don't be miserable, velvet. He's a knob and not worth it - and you looked SMOKIN' HOT tonight, he will def regret it, the fool!

Scatty you haven't ruined anything hon - if he is the sort of bloke to be put off by what is essentially a compliment then he's a proper knobber. It's not like you texted a hundred times vying for attention. You did nothing wrong.

Thanks Scatty, it's appreciated :)

Turns out I had got a message from him about 2 hours ago....shortly after which he put something on FB along the lines of how lonely he was

Un-fucking-believeable!

FWIW I don't think you've said anything wrong to Fireman. But I know the feeling, I played my cards as close to my chest as possible with STwunt, not that it made any difference really.

Lubey thank you too :) I bloody hope he does regret it. Serves him right.

Hello all,

I mainly lurk and feel like I know you all..!

This online dating seems to bring out the inner 13 year old in me. It's ridiculous. I'm virtually stalking someone I've been out with several times over the last month or so with, agonising over whether to send texts, and compulsively checking his last log in on POF. So not me! Or rather, it so wasn't me.

For those of you who remember, I live on a small island which complicates online dating as everyone has a connection somehow. Mr Speedy drinks in the same pub as my ex and lives about 30 seconds walk away from his house. Mr Speedy also worked with a relative of mine. So, I guess we'll both have had the lowdown on each other almost immediately. I deleted my POF account after the second date. I mistakenly thought he had deleted his account and it seemed only polite. But he hadn't, he's still on there every night.

It just seems that online dating is a recipe for insecurity and paranoia. It's also (mostly) good fun in its own way! I would be lost without being able to follow all the chatter here, it helps so much to get perspective and to hear that other people have the same worries and always the excitement of maybe finding something really special.

Thank you all!

You're welcome velvet, s'true!

Wolfandi good to see you again. Oooh @ Mr Speedy! :o ahh I remember the excessive checking stuff from my full on OD days. Several times in a month sounds good though?

this may have been mentioned but cant see it skimming through.. so sorry for butting in.. who posted the last pic on options? of the tree fella.. he has a ring on his finger.. or is it my eyes.. sorry I know not who your names are on here and rl!

I'll disappear off again.... it may just be a fashionable ring..

ooooh I love to toy with young men...(evil cackle)

Velvet - just saying, hope you are ok this morning.
Posting shit like that on fb is just attention seeking, i certainly wouldnt want to be with somone that posts such stuff.

Scatty - just text when you want, this game playing is a whole lot of poo.

So, the perv descended into sex talk, predictably. which would be disapointing if i didnt see it coming a mile off. And thus ends my short forray back into online dating!! 2013 is the year of real life getting out there :)

Sounds like a good plan watch! Glad the new job is going well. I start my new job on Tuesday.

velvet. How are you feeling this morning my love? I'm at a loss with spacetwunt. What utterly bizarre behaviour. Did his twittering harem post responses to how lonely he is?

Still chatting away to Dumbledore on OkC, he'd said he was a bit nervous about phoning me for a chat, but then texted to say 'what the hell, incoming call' & then he phoned and we chatted away for about an hour and it was really nice.

Thanks everyone, I'm a bit sad, a bit hungover, but ok.

Don't get what goes on in his head though...yes there were a couple of posts from the silly girlies, which he just sort of batted away. It's just so odd.

Part of me thinks was he telling the truth. The other part thinks either his other date was shit or she blew him out (both of which outcomes he thoroughly deserves).

He's text me this morning saying he feels really down and unhappy. I have the feeling I am being played like a bloody fiddle

Morning all :o Realised last night that Mr Clever is five years younger than me Oooh young man... ! Youngest I ever dated before was a month older than me so this is all new.