Cliches, arse ennui, new year hangovers and glancing at the sweet trolley. Dating thread 34!

[lubeybooby]

New thread time! Great timing with it being new years day...

Most of you know what to do... off you go!

Just in case you don't... just chit chat all your dating related stuff here. If you are new, just jump right in to the blethering. More the merrier!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! :o

If a man is the kind of wanker who is genuinely playing you, trying to get one over on you, then it demonstrates the paucity of his personality, there is no reflection on you, how could there possibly be ?

(You will be able to gather that this is the argument I use with myself. )

As Banta says, get looking at other options, get some foxy bloke to put ambiguously saucy likes on your FB page, give Spaceknobber something to think about .

Velvet if you're always looking at things through those particular lenses, you're almost inevitably going to find things that in other contexts would seem quite normal and reasonable. For example, when I first meet someone, I tend to gloss over what happened with twatty ex which if you look at it one way is being misleading, another way is just holding fire until the right time to be open. There are lots and lots of things like this and it doesn't mean someone's a player.

Until you've had that conversation, you need to assume that you'll both be messaging/dating other people. Maybe you could talk to him about this when you see him and find out how the land lies? And leave FB alone. It's the work of the devil and is not going to make you feel better.

It sounds like things are going fine with Spaceman. Stay calm, stay cool and all will be well.

One of my male friends did comment on something of mine yesterday and put 3 kisses (god knows why). So he will have seen that.

And he did text me literally first thing. Which is a good sign I think.

And I've just seen 2 magpies. So that means something good will happen today anyway, whether it relates to him or not :)

nomore re the mobile number, it's the sort of thing I'd do at that stage, well, perhaps a touch later but I'm happy to move chatting away from the OD sites onto something else, be it text or email. I'm just not overly protective of my number (perhaps I should be). I wouldn't read anything odd into it, but likewise if you're not happy to give yours out then don't, and don't feel guilty!

Velvet I suspected Mr FU was a wannabe player from the start, he had no idea who he was attempting to play. Of course easier for me as not looking for a serious relationship, still not being fucked over by anyone. I could never have continued with Mr FU as I hate game playing but felt I was getting dragged into it. Hard fucking work.

My advice. Do not make yourself too available. You have a great life, make sure he knows this.

If you have a landline, turn your mobile off, you do not have to be contactable 24/7.

Stay away from FB. You have more important/fun stuff to do.

Keep your cool.

I am not saying spaceman is a player, but you hardly know him, suss out how the land lies.

nomore You can accept a phone number. Upto you wether you use it or not

Velvet I said to Mr FU once 'you are either a cunt in life or your not. I sleep easy'. It is only my behaviour that matters to me.

Morning all

Velvet, a gentle guppy slap for you! Not long til date two for you now... hang on in there and just see what that is like.

Mr iPhone has finally replied and he is available Saturday. he's asking me what I want to do. I want to go for dinner but I want him to do the suggesting of that bit! Chase me godammit. Take some intiative... channel Zaphod Beeblebrox, call me baby and slap my arse...

However, he clearly isn't going to so how do I reply to that without sounding demanding and deflated that he hasn't suggested it himself. In fact, how do I actually stop being demanding and deflated that he hasn't suggested it. As a modern and independent woman why oh why do I prefer the bloke to do a bit more of the running still?

PoF experiment still ongoing, have nailed 6 possibles down to three. However I have woken up to about 12 more notifications of messages so gulp... I really need to figure out how to give the ok ones contact details so I can delete my profile, can't give email or msn/yahoo addy and obviously can't give my mobile out. Can't go and get a dating phone especially for this lot when I don't intend on doing this again. Argh.

I would suggest sky diving. Hope he then comes up with dinner.

48, that is actually a great plan :o

I have just text him and suggested lunch. Then maybe if all goes well it could run into the evening. Or perhaps I might arrange something else for the evening from my recent PoF foray.

Nomore The phone number thing in itself is fine, the fact that he's offered it before he's offered his name is a little weird. Does he know your name? I might reply jokingly that I usually like to exchange names before exchanging phone numbers.

I've had a 'I'm too good for this shit' moment.

Honestly if he'd rather date either of those two stupid girls than me, he's welcome to them. Because I really am so much better than them. And he should see that, he really should.

I'm leaving fb alone. Will mention when I next text him (its currently his 'turn' ) about saturday. If he cancels (whoich I have a sneaking feeling he might) then I don't intend giving him another chance. It will be very much his loss.

I'd just like to say that in future relationships, I may have to channel the wisdom of 48 ...

Lubey, I'd forgotten that Zaphod said that, if only it was possible to put it on my profile without it acting as a perv siren ( or indeed leading men to call me 'baby' )

High fives Velvet, you go, girlfriend !

'I'm too good for this shit' Hold that thought Velvet

from someones profile

"I describe myself with a biased perspective of course. One holds two images of oneself, the one in the mirror, and the one in the head. The one in the mirror affects the one in the head. If the image in the head is good the image in the mirror is good, but if the image in the mirror is good the one in head might not be so"

eh? wtf?

Had a mesage from a guy on OKC this morning. Thank god he is too far away as sounds right up my street.

Mr R&R you your cock is still my NO 1

Good grief. PoF never changes does it

'hi do u like doggie style'

Ok, I'm bored so I'll bite. Suitable comeback please?

Depends on the dog

Hahaaa...

I went with the MN classic 'did you mean to be so rude?' and he replied 'no I didn't, anyway how are you?'

Blocked.. bored of twat baiting already

Not too keen on the tartan coats but I do like a nice diamanté collar ...

Like it OWW I have sex on the brain at the moment. No idea why

Haa! He has just re-registered with a new name just to get past my block. ffs. Go away silly man.

Does he mean he wants to lick your face?

On the subject of dogs. How is yogadog