14yearold girl slept with 23yearild man

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

This is not me!
I'm using different name, 14 year old girl-Jill
Man, jack

End if January I walked in and found jack ontop if Jill having sex, very disturbing.. these two people are well was really close to me. It's jills second time she lost her virginity at 13 but we found out a ciuple weeks after this happened.

Jills mum decided to ground her for two months and band her from seeing him for a couple if weeks until her 15th birthday.

Jill is my sister, my mum hasnt stopped her from seeing him he is around EVERY WEEKEND.

They lie on the sofa giving each other love bites, he sneakers upstairs at night until past 3am and he sets his alarm every morning at 6-7am to go upstairs .

I find it very weird but my mum is soft!! What shalld i di?

[Fairyegg]

I fail to see what the op nickname has to do with anything. It's clearly a nickname that she used before he passed which she has chosen to keep. Whetever you find it odd or not really doesn't matter, different strokes for difference folks and all that.

[Fairylea]

Why haven't you told your mum he's not coming to see you and your boyfriend? Why haven't you stuck up for your sister and told him to fuck the fuck off?

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

I'm not some sick woman. He was a perfect babu, defiantly an angel so I'm sorry if anyone took it offensivley its inly his nickname my partner made up for him. when we found out :(.

[Fairyegg]

I'm clearly missing something. Why would everyone be reporting op? Yes the whole family situation seems very messed up, but sadly what the op poster describes isn't that uncommon.

[MrsSham]

I like to see how these things develop first maryz as they can get quite interesting before they go puff.

[Leithlurker]

Can people just let the name thing go, it is of no importance, some people do speak like that some do not. I think we have a young person here who needs a lot of guidance and pulling her name apart is not helping.

That said I think op you need real life support right now, phone childlike, pr nspcc, get talking to someone in real life not on here as this is going off track and you sound like you need someone who is clear and not emotional to talk to.

[Needingsomeadvice]

IMO that is nothing to be unnerved about MrsSham. I have a similar sort of affectionate nickname for my DS1 who also was stillborn at just before 24 weeks. I can't say it as it would out myself, but would hate to think that people would think it inappropriate for me to call my own son his 'bump name' just because he died . It sounds plausible enough to me.

OP, you do need to do something. Otherwise you are complicit in this abusive 'relationship'. Think about it - what good, decent 23-year old man wants to have sex with a 14-year old girl? And if your mum only lets it happen when you are there, then you are enabling it both by not objecting and by not spelling it out to your mother that he is sneaking upstairs. Don't kid yourself - this is a predatory relationship - he is doing very adult things to someone who is a young teen...a child actually .

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

Thankyou fairy it was a nickname before he past. He was a beautiful baby looked like his dad with a little button nose.

Ive spoke to my sister she thinks. Trying to ruin her life and relationship :(

[izzyizin]

Talk to your dm like you've talked to us. Tell her everything that's been going on with your dsis and with this 23yo man she's become invoved with.

Tell your dm you were wrong to imply that she may lose her dc if she asks SS for help to encourage your dsis to comply with rules that are appropriate for her age, and urge her to take action before it's too late.

I also suggest you put your dislike of your dsis to one side and talk to her as her 'big sis' who is concerned for her welfare and doesn't want to see her getting pg and missing out on her education and all that life has to offer those who delay having dc until they've seen something of the world, and are set up financially to give their dc the best possible start in life.

Put your money where your mouth is and set an example to your siblings by not getting pg until you're established in a career you love and are happily settled in a long term relationship.

[Greensleeves]

trollhunters really should fuck off. Just report if you are sceptical, no need to post it and risk upsetting someone.

Crap form.

[Needingsomeadvice]

PS. OP I am so sorry to hear about your little boy, who I am sure was perfect, and your other little ones too.

[peanutMD]

Why does your boyfriends best friend live at your mothers house?

Has anyone confronted him about this issue?

Has your sister spoke to anyone about their relationship?

Have you sought counselling after your miscarriages?

Does your mother recieve any help from family/friends/social services for your disabled brother?

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

Needing- sorry to hear about your loss. Im going to talk to my mum.

Izzy thankyou i will talk to her. I've tryed speaking to my sister. I'm concentrating on college and Uni.

[Onezerozero]

I have seen this poster around for moths with this or a very similar user name.

Riley - Sometimes when you are in a situation it is almost impossible to see it properly. Have you or your sisters had any counselling about the abuse you suffered?
Your boyfriend's friend has spotted a vulnerable child, your sister, and is abusing her again. Please please speak to someone in authority about this. The police, social services, someone.

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

He doesnt live, stays some weekends.

I've tryed speaking to the man he tells my sister and she yells at me

I've tryed speaking to my sister and mum doesn't get any help so she works 3jobs trying to afford everything.

[Leithlurker]

What the fricken hell has the disabled child and the op's MC's got to do with this or you Peanut. Stick to the problem then the op can have nice clear information which if she does not take will point to it being a troll. Trolls embellish stick to the facts and if it is a troll then they will get bored.

I have no idea if this is a troll but I always treat as I find.

[izzyizin]

As I didn't realise you'd tried speaking to your dsis, please ignore that part of my last response that suggests you talk to her as you've everything you can in that respect and it's now down to your mum to rein her in using every resource possible.

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

I am so sorry i was ment to put July not january! The ine time I dont check back sorry!

My sister is hides hee feelings and wont speak to anyone

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

I can honestly and truely promise this isnt a"laugh". This post is serious and i know its all messed up which is why im trying to sort it. Im just feeling very fed up with everything :(

[Leithlurker]

Riley just make yourself phone for help, this is too big for you and your mum to cope with on your own Your mum will be protected, so will you and your partner. Your sister though needs some very seriouse help. She has been targeted by someone who is doing her harm and he has her so confused that she cannot see it. You need other people, involved. Tell us you wil phone if not now then first thing in the morning.

[peanutMD]

Leith, I was asking about help with regards to her disabled brother as it sounds as though home life is very stressful for everyone! If OP's mum is on her own I was going to suggest contacting social services about some sort of support/respite network.

I don't see how that's an issue tbh

And for the record nothing anyone posts on this or any other website has anything to do with any of us until we are asked about it and given information so get a grip.

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

Lieth, im talking to my mum first on Tuesday then ill get her to do the rest