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14yearold girl slept with 23yearild man

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RileyTheLittleMonster · 30/12/2012 21:21

This is not me!
I'm using different name, 14 year old girl-Jill
Man, jack

End if January I walked in and found jack ontop if Jill having sex, very disturbing.. these two people are well was really close to me. It's jills second time she lost her virginity at 13 but we found out a ciuple weeks after this happened.

Jills mum decided to ground her for two months and band her from seeing him for a couple if weeks until her 15th birthday.

Jill is my sister, my mum hasnt stopped her from seeing him he is around EVERY WEEKEND.

They lie on the sofa giving each other love bites, he sneakers upstairs at night until past 3am and he sets his alarm every morning at 6-7am to go upstairs .

I find it very weird but my mum is soft!! What shalld i di?

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izzyizin · 30/12/2012 22:37

All the police have evidence of is your dsis being found on her way to wherever, and that is not sufficient grounds to bring about a prosecution for sexual offences against an underage girl, honey.

However, that incident can serve to illustrate the bigger picture which is that your dsis would appear to be beyond your dm's control and there is no shame, nor will there be any blame, if your dm asks SS for help in getting your dsis back on the straight and narrow before she ends up pg at 14/15 or worse.

Your dm may feel fearful about involving SS but you can do much to reassure her that any fears she may have are groundless.

If your dm is completely against talking to SS, encourage her to have a word with your dsis's head teacher before she has cause to regret not taking action when there was opportunity to do so.

MrsSham · 30/12/2012 22:37

He's not staying at your mums on a regular basis then? This is becoming confusing, you need to call them again as the situation with a 23 year old far more of a concern than another 15 year old, they need to know that your dsis is out of your mums control.

Maryz · 30/12/2012 22:41

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Fairyegg · 30/12/2012 22:42

Totally agree with izzy.

MrsSham · 30/12/2012 22:42

Spots izzy

RileyTheLittleMonster · 30/12/2012 22:42

Izzy, what should i say to her? I'm going to talk to her on Tuesday when I see her.

Hes stays every weekend when im there. He isnt allowed to stay without me there.

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MrsSham · 30/12/2012 22:43

Spots ?? Xpost even

Fairylea · 30/12/2012 22:43

Why when you're there?

MrsSham · 30/12/2012 22:44

You need to tell your mum that he can't stay when you are there. Tell her that is because he is seeking around.

Tell ss what the situation is.

RileyTheLittleMonster · 30/12/2012 22:45

I stay with my boyfriend Sunday-Thursday because of college. Then I go home Thursday to Sunday to see my family.

He comes most weekends but not every.

Mrssham what do you mean my user name unsettles you?

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Fairylea · 30/12/2012 22:47

Is your mum mistakenly thinking he is staying because of you and your boyfriend? If so you need to tell her.

Your boyfriend should distance himself from him as well if he hasn't already.

MrsSham · 30/12/2012 22:47

I find it odd that your ds who has passed is used in same connotation as little monster. I find it a little unusual someone would do that.

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RileyTheLittleMonster · 30/12/2012 22:49

My num thinks him and my boyfriend are still close and i have known the man to say he is coming up to see lee but we dont know. My bf has distanced his self

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EleanorGiftbasket · 30/12/2012 22:50

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RileyTheLittleMonster · 30/12/2012 22:51

Mrs sham when I got a positive pregnancy test my boyfriend held my belly and said thats our little monster. From then his nickname was "outlittlemonster".

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DontYouJingleMyChristingle · 30/12/2012 22:52

I quite agree Eleanor.

Leithlurker · 30/12/2012 22:52

This is going downhill very quickly.

peanutMD · 30/12/2012 22:53

I kind of agree with MrsSham.

Your username is slightly unnerving given that your DS, Riley, died at 23 Weeks in utero it seems a bit odd to be calling him a little monster.

MrsSham · 30/12/2012 22:54

Hmm not sure I buy that, seems very unusual still. Anyway I'm crossing the lines of troll hunting so I should probably report and say no more.

RileyTheLittleMonster · 30/12/2012 22:54

Is it disturbing? It was his nickname before he past away! It's what my boyfriend first called him.

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BOFingSanta · 30/12/2012 22:54

I thought it was a character in some fanfic.

RileyTheLittleMonster · 30/12/2012 22:56

Look my user name is personal and wasnt put out to be disturbing. Every child has a nickname and we created that one whwn he was 8 weeks

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