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Heartbroken and struggling to cope

781 replies

Chaoscarriesonagain · 29/12/2012 18:25

That's just it really. DP and I have gone our seperate ways. He was perfect in the beginning .. Grew into aggressive, ill tempered and sometimes emotional abuser. It progressed into pushing me, bruises to boot etc. Yet after all this I didn't have the courage to leave. After a horrendous Christmas with MIL and my parents I cracked and told parents extent. Last night they helped me remove everything from our home together. His reaction was empty, infact he ran away.

I haven't eaten, I can't sleep, all I can think of is the love I have for him. I wish it could go , I feel like am in mourning. It goes against everything I believe in.

I am so lucky; everyone rallying round; all I want us to see him, smell him and kiss him. But he wanted to end the relationship; he blames me for awful MIL reaction to Christmas. I can't fathom out what to do. I want this man who never treated me right, I crave and desire him, against the best wishes if all friends and family.

I am really, really struggling.

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OverlyYappyAlways · 02/01/2013 17:02

No picture to be cut in half?

Very therapeutic... even the nice ones, in the end.

SoleSource · 02/01/2013 17:02

Wants to text YOUR parents to say you .might be pregnant. What a cunt!!!

What do you feel their reaction would be, Chaos?

Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 17:03

Was thinking some cress seeds on the carpets myself lol!!

Seriously though, what should I Do? Give him the key back and say have it you spineless so and so, you'll be a lonely old red faced man

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Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 17:04

They'd be gutted. Because of who he is and the family he has

Just another example of what he is

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SoleSource · 02/01/2013 17:19

Chaos they love you and have shown that. Your child will be yours!!!

Do it, cress lol

OverlyYappyAlways · 02/01/2013 17:31

Why do I never think of good ideas like that?

I'm like a child sometimes, mine had an affair, he was texting her from the bathroom and asked me to make his bloody protein drink for the gym, I did, I weed in it.

I told him before we split!

Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 18:03

Yesssss! Right need to be less obvious lol!!!

Laxative in the kettle?!?..

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SoleSource · 02/01/2013 19:21

Get rabbit droppings mush then stick them in his coffee jar

OverlyYappyAlways · 02/01/2013 19:48

Advert in the paper for a male monkey for sale with his mobile number? or gumtree? or preloved....

SoleSource · 02/01/2013 19:49

Lll yappy

Wondering what chaos is eating for tea? ,Prawns per chance lol

JustFabulous · 02/01/2013 20:34

You dont have to let him go to the doctors with you. Get the test and get the doctor to write the result down. Or take another test yourself and send him a photo of the result.

SoleSource · 02/01/2013 21:38

Love can be so criel. What we go throigh. When w feel so connected with one man on one level but the rest is so wrong we cannot be with him even if he wants us and be content. The one thing we unknowingly crave is satisfied within our hearts. Maybe that stays in our hearts forver.

Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:25

Hello! Still not eaten am afraid. Will ring docs in the morning

Not going to bother telling him, if he cares he'll be in touch again.

What a selfish fuck

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Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:26

sole such true words, I think all we want is to love and to be loved in return. I even see this in the dog, more that can be said for him!

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SoleSource · 02/01/2013 23:30

Drink some milk Chaos..?
I really wanted to tell you not to tell him but no if you are expecting tell him THEN make no contact, ok? What you think?

I might make you suffer more of my crap emotional truths soon.Xmas Grin

Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:31

Yeah, but I am concerned about threat to text parents, surely not????

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Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:32

He can't have cared all along to carry out this shit. It takes a nasty bastard for this.

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SoleSource · 02/01/2013 23:35

He was a pretender, a manipulater. You are not. You are honest and truthful.

The question I want to ask may not be appropriate for the boards...

SoleSource · 02/01/2013 23:36

What you are you'll always have over him and will only serve you in ypur favour niw and forever :):):)

Haha you havehonesty abd truthfulness he does NOT!!

Sad bastard.

Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:37

do it am curious!!!

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Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:37

Am too honest and truthful must stop wearing heart on sleave

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Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:40

What's the question sole.....!!!!

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SoleSource · 02/01/2013 23:41

If tbere is doubt on your part aboht whether to continue oregnancy and you may want to abort and family not know theb yes his threat of texting isan issue. If not then why care??

Can you not speak to your Motber or another trusted member of family for support incase he dies text

That sneaky cunt just wants your family to decide for you, will they encourage you to abort?

Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:44

Abort is no option for me. With or without him.

I see your point though. He's so sick and twisted. I called him because I needed support, and he's in it as much as me. I don't need him at all.

Lets pray this faint line was a fluker. He really is a right piece of work.

The duplicitness of people never ceases to amaze me at times.

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Chaoscarriesonagain · 02/01/2013 23:45

And to think this man is in a position of power?

I truly believe his demise is round the corner.

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