Hi all.
Have been seeing someone for the last couple of months. We get on really well, sex is amazing and when we are together he talks about how much he likes me, lots of very private things about his business, hopes for the future etc.
However he owns his own business an literally works 24/7. I've never met anyone who works so hard - he has been diagnosed with high blood pressure and knows he needs to calms things down. I've been v understanding about his schedule, it doesn't really bother me when plans get changed last minute etc but it's the frequency of contact between meetings that I struggle with. He never texts me first, phone calls are snatched in the car as he drives between meetings, basically it's all on his terms. I don't want that long term - I want someone who has the spare time to put effort into me as well.
So I was going to send him this - I want to be honest. Is it ok do you think?
Hi - hope you're ok. Think this might be a bit long but didn't want to catch you driving & if I see you face to face I'll struggle to say anything as you're lovely. But I honestly think you just don't have the time or energy to be in any sort of relationship at the mo. Even in these early stages, this time I want to be with someone who makes me feel special - but it's usually me making the effort, texting you first, suggesting we meet up etc. I know your life is crazy busy but even at (a club we went to) you didn't touch me once the whole night which was a bit strange. And that's fine - but just not what I need. I'm definately not a needy or demanding person but there has to be a balance there. So I'm sorry - honestly the last thing I want to do is cause you any more stress but it's better to be honest. You know I'm a bit of a softie and if I carry on this way, especially sleeping with you which is a big-ish thing for me (& ridiculously amazing with you,) I'm going to end up hurt. I'm not asking for much but I still think it's prob more than you can give at the moment. Sorry x