Crotch grabbing, jelly nailing, double-quick portions and man parts floating in a pear tree...dating thread 33 survived Christmas so bring on NYE!

[OhLittleTownofWesternWind]

Here we are!

You! Grrrr.

48 I agree entirely re the smut, it's been my (regrettable) experience when OD that men often want to start all that before you've even met, which leaves me a bit cold. So far he seems one of the few that doesn't, which is good.

We're just meeting for a coffee. Will only be for an hour or so. Hopefully not long enough for me to make a bad impression!

You will make a great impression. Leave him wanting more

It would put me right off someone if he sent smutty texts before we met - in fact I wouldn't even want to meet him.

I think flirty/sexy texts once you know someone can be a big turn-on, but definitely not when you've never met them. It also suggests to me that they're probably only going to be after one thing.

Velvet, Spaceman sounds great. Hope your date goes really well.

48 - "leave him wanting more" - good advice, I think.

It can work the other way round too - earlier this year I met a man, had lunch in a pub with him as arranged - all fine. He was nice enough, but no spark. But he insisted on changing his route home (and going right out of his way) to spend as much time with me as possible, and tbh it was just annoying. I wanted to be on my own by then and think about the date and how it had gone, not be stuck with him for an extra hour. (Does that sound harsh?) Without that, I might have agreed to a second date with him, but that changed my mind.

I'm definitely not implying that time spent with Velvet would be annoying by the way, as I always think you sound amazing and I think Spaceman is a very lucky man!

libby I had a date last summer. I was having trouble with my ears so was almost completely deaf. Went to wrong pub, parked up, thought oh sod it I will walk. Got half way and it pissed down.
So arrived, deaf, late and wet. It wasn't going well for me, so told him I only have one drink on a first date. God did he make that half last! Insisted on walking me back to my car. Going on about 2nd date.
I was thinking 'Beam me up' Poor bloke.

Mr60 has posted a load of lovely photos of him and his DSs on FB. I know I should unfriend. Not even sure I would still really want to be with him if I could but at the the same time I miss him. bugger.

On the plus side it seems I have won a whole £2.70 on my Euromillions tic woo hoo

A bottle of Pear Cider. With change

Aw Yoga, it's really difficult, isn't it? One of the many reasons why I'm not on FB. Maybe it would be best to hide him so you can't see the stuff he posts? Are you going to have another go at OD?

48, I hate it when the other person's obviously trying to drag out the date and you want to leave! When are you seeing Mr R&R again? Did you say he's in Yorkshire at the moment or am I imagining that? (Mr Coffee's in Yorkshire at the moment so think I may have got confused, or perhaps it's just a strange coincidence).

It definitely will only be an hour, 2 at the absolute max, as he has to be back to collect his DC.

Thanks Libby (good to hear all well with you and MrC by the way) yes, Spaceman is very lucky to be spending time in my company . Lets hope he thinks so too.

Yoga well done on your win, don't blow it all in a frivolous spending spree will you?

It's very hard, isn't it, Yoga ? No idea what the answer is to it, maybe those of us who are resisting texting exes should have a count of days we've stayed away from temptation, like going to AA - ' My name is Arsebiscuit and I've not despair-texted Maris Piper, despite the birthday and festive opportunities, for 5 days, 6 hours and 43 minutes '

Ooh, thanks for reminding me - pear cider. Am off out soon (doing the cultural thing and going to a gallery) so will try to pick some up on the way back. Hope they have it in Sainsbury's.

libby Yes in Yorkshire until NY day. Weird! Did say he could come back early. I said 'No. You should keep plans already made'. Lots of texts, filthly and just plain nice, about missing me

libby yes in Sainsburys.

48 - am jealous, no texts from MrC (as I'm now going to call him - thanks, Velvet) yet today, and I can no longer tell myself that's because all the mobile networks in Yorkshire are down...

Great attitude re telling Mr R&R not to change his plans. I love it when a man I like wants to see me lots and spend time with me, but it would worry me if he was cancelling time with friends/family to do it. And it would worry me even more if he suggested I cancel time with family/friends to see him.

libby Mr R&R did say he was lucky to have reception. Lots of arm waving he said to get message sent.

Yes, that was a fairly major red flag with the Artist, suggesting I cancel time with my DC to spend the weekend with her. I could almost hear the sound of the nail in the coffin when I got that text.

libby delurking from my maudlin slumber on the sofa feeling very sorry for myself that there is no man in my life, but just can't face POF to reassure you that most of North Yorkshire is a mobile free zone.

I work all over NY and reception is incredibly sporadic. Really only available in cities, towns and occasional hot spots.

To be honest I think he just felt a bit bad about clearing off when we had only just met/engaged.

He didn't take much convincing

Gasp! He got back to me. I DO have a date on NYE daytime

Oh fucking hell what to wear x 100

I haven't done a first date for aaaaaaaaaaaages!

Yay Lubey just remember you are fabulous and wear something that you are comfortable in and makes you feel even more fabulous

Oh exciting lubey Any idea where you are going?

Well I have blown all my winnings! Bought another tik for NY Day. I may also have accidentally liked Mr60s photo but did not message him, a bit like only breaking your diet a little bit right?

Bant - I think the fact that she asked you to change your plans (and with DC no less) rather than offering to change her own is even worse. When are your dates?

Lubey - woo hoo, how exciting.

Hello all.

Delurking briefly to exclaim my joy at having survived C-day. Despite a half-hearted, last minute offer from STBex-MIL to join them for dinner, once ex had picked up DC, I had a lovely afternoon by myself with lots of champagne and rubbish TV. Not one tear was shed (I had been fiercely determined not to).

I also have a mini-date on Sunday - coffee in a local-ish pub. Met through Times Encounters via my free 3-day membership. I temporarily suspended my Match profile (not least because my awful, hideous Cambridge date kept asking why I was still on there if I was not ready for a relationship following the 'it's not you, it's me' conversation. Subtext 'it so fucking is you').

It was so truly dreadful that I was too ashamed to even post on here afterwards. I ignored all the pearls of wisdom about OD and think I need to copy down all the wise nuggets above onto a post-it note, to carry about on my person at all times.