Men who don't watch porn

[FBworry]

I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

Its always the same all snide jokes that are wheeled out implying people who don't use porn must be frustrated as they just need a good seeing too.

I find this ridiculous and ironic. We are not frustrated as we are having REAL sex with our partners that is 100% fulfilling without any need to look at strangers.

Infact, when I was younger and looked at porn (though rarely) it was because my sexual relationship was abysmal and I did need go elsewhere.

Bela, you are absolutely right.

Anyway, I've said my piece, off out now with my lovely, caring, considerate, sexy non-porn using husband. Have a good night all.

Fb, yes, I agree wholeheartedly. I have never voluntarily used porn. But have had, on the whole, a satisfying and passionate sex life.

It's really odd that the porn-likers/defenders actually seem to think a man who isn't into porn has a really low sex drive.

Its come up loads of times on this thread - in jibes and nasty jokes - despite the anecdotal evidence that suggest the men have perfectly high sex drives. (if not more so, if we listen to the testimony of the men who've given it up)

Pigeon has also suggested a man who is not into porn "would possibly have a much lower sex drive than me."

Can I ask, are you confusing watching porn with wanking? Do you think it's possible for a man to wank without porn or do you think it will be a terrible experience for him?

Yep, 30 years of porn free, great sex ( with the same man) here
Who'd have thought it? you can have a fantastic sex life, just by using your imagination.

Andula, if you don't answer the question, it obviously means that you know that women are exploited and trafficked to make porn and you don't care.

'that you'd see someone who wasn't voyeuristic as a person who had a low sex drive'

I didn't say that, I said I'd wonder if. I think you can have a base enjoyment of watching other people have sex and also think that today's porn isn't very good for people's sexuality because of how it's all represented and choose not to watch it for that reason. Perhaps some people don't get off on watching sex - we are all different.

That seems to be a radical, almost unthinkable, prospect too Thisis, a man, wanking without porn

But whether or not people use porn, I would say it would be a rare person who didn't fantasize about something during masturbation.

Try saying your husband doesn't wank, let alone use porn ( which is true) , people are virtually having fits!
The confusion and incredulity that follows is a sight to behold.

Perception, sorry, I called you pigeon. But you did say:

"One thing that has bothered me is the thought that if I was with someone who honestly didn't have some voyeuristic tendencies then they would possibly have a much lower sex drive than me."

Which suggests you would be concerned that a guy didn't use porn wasn't that into sex.

Otherwise you would have said something more like: "would possibly be into different kind of things than me."

It's incredible really, what a job the porn industry have done on all of us.

Bela, Andula would argue that it is a physical impossibility!

But why would you fantasize about other people having sex? What's wrong with thinking about your own sex life? Unless your own sex life isn't that fulfilling.

My dh rarely wanks as well, if ever. He was mortified when we had fertility tests. Sex is about us. Me and him. Its not soft-focus flowers and music like some posters think non-users lovelives are, its incredibly satisfying for both of us

I'm really going now

DH doesn't. He used to, and I think on the surface of it he'd probably like to, but we both feel that porn in harmful, so he doesn't.

Ok maybe that was poor phrasing but I am interested in why you'd see it as an indication they might have a low sex drive?

Well, andula has now accepted that women working in the porn industry are exploited and trafficked, qnd she doesn't care, so I don't think ahythig she says can be taken seriously.

blame, bless you for thinking people only fantasise about their partners, you are probably in a minority of about 0.01%

Only 0.01% eh?

Well, like blame Im happy to be a the minority. A rare diamond.

I have never been one for following the crowd so suits me just fine.

I thought she said what is wrong with fantasising about your sexual experiences not partner? And again with the dismissing...

Why do you keep deliberately manipulating what people say to put them down andula? It's almost like you don't actually have a point of your own that will stand up to scrutiny...

she said "But why would you fantasize about other people having sex? What's wrong with thinking about your own sex life? Unless your own sex life isn't that fulfilling."

firstly, how can you comment on porn users when you can't even imagine fantasising about anything other than your own partner?

secondly, she is accusing people who do of not having a fulfilling sex life

Why don?t you just tell us why you have this desperate need to justify you and your dps need to seek sexual gratification of strangers and imply you are some how superior for this?

It sounds misreable to me tbh.

FB, I've never said I'm superior, I think you've got that impression because people are attacking me and I'm just staying calm.