Men who don't watch porn

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I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

Oh seeker, now who's avoiding the question??

I know what exists in the porn world,I have a different view of where the beginning of degradation of women in porn begins.

Offred, why do you think being f**ked or giving blowjobs is degrading?

Which bit of "I don't know" don't you understqnd?

Tell me how I can be 100% sure that nobody's being exploited, then I'll watch some and let you know.

The only porn I have ever watched has been sleazy and unpleasant and not particularly sexy, so I wsn't distracted enough to stop wondering about the circumstances of it's making. If I c

Because of the context.

Offred - what's the context that you're referring to?

Seeker - that's all I needed to know, thank you.

I'd strongly advise posters to stop engaging with someone whose posts are this patronising and whose intent is obviously to infer that anyone who objects to porn dislikes sex. I agree that this thread has become more about the porn losers trying to convince themselves whereas the people who stuck to the point of this thread have never needed to do that. It became a pointless thread as soon as it went off topic and got hijacked by the porn losers.

If you like giving blowjobs or being fucked senseless then I don't think it's degrading. After all, there are lots of people who like to be submissive who enjoy it a lot.

If that's what your partner wants and not you, but you go along with it anyways under duress then I do think it's degrading and humiliating.

I've watched Sexcetera, Eurotrash, Louis Theroux etc loads of times. I still think that while there is some who might enjoy what they do, there is a whole other world of people who are doing it as they are pushed into it, don't want to but need the money etc.

There is just too many health problems that come from hardcore porn that it doesn't make it logical that most of them in it would want to do it and I am not even including STDs.

Anal prolapse anyone? Conjunctavitis, vaginal prolapse, cystocele, torn muscles in throat etc.

badinage, (I assume you're referring to me as a "porn loser"), I would like to know why you think a discussion between people who oppose porn and people who don't is pointless. There have been many interesting contributions and I fear that there are a lot of people who would contribute but don't because they will bullied and insulted by people like you.

Schro, similarly I think there are some men who might not watch it

Of course they are linked. Its people making a living out of having sex. You can deny it all you like but its true, and many people support prostitution, using the same arguments as you.

And how are they equal? The actors might be in the same position, but its not their fantasies they act out, they don't decide what to do.

I'm reasonably confident that my husband doesn't watch porn a) he says he doesn't b) it would take time away from watching Sky sport.

My DH dislikes it intensely and does not watch it. Neither does he like soft porn photographs or magazines.

He finds the whole business sleazy, disrespectful and resents the inference that it is somehow 'normal' for males to like it.

And he really, really likes sex. Just not pornography!

The context of being paid for sexual services to be provided to men andula.

Blame - they are equal because they do it for the same reason. And a lot of people don't do it for money at all, I doubt there are many people who would shag a lonely old bloke in the back of a car for kicks.

what if they are being paid for services to women?

Andula I thnk there are lots of men who don't watch it. I don't believe there are lots who have never seen it but I can believe there are plenty who don't like it or just don't bother with it.

Similarly, I think there are probably many who would like to watch it but don't out of respect for their partners.

"Seeker - that's all I needed to know, thank you."

Ok. Now tell us how we can tell that the women in a porn movie are not vulnerable, exploited or trafficked. You say you are confident that the women in the porn you watch aren't. So tell us how we can be equally confident.

They aren't. You cannot argue with the fact that porn is being produced almost exclusively for men and by men.

You don't understand equality if you think that is all there is to it.

Seeker - she thinks that because the ones in her porn are legitimately employed that means they aren't. She discounts the fact that prostitution could be called a legitimate occupation too.

What strikes me is that there is an awful lot of stuff you have to deliberately ignore if you want to enjoy porn.

Well regarding 'never seen it' then you'd have to count out any man who has ever walked into a newsagents and happened to catch sight of the soft-top-shelves then!

As for my DH, he has always disliked it, says it has never intrigued/interested him and doesn't feel that he needs it. I have heard a couple of colleagues of his take the piss out of him in good jest because of his refusal to watch some crap on their phone. And they freely admit he has never shown an interest and berates them for it.

And I would concur with that. As once famously said "He rarely colours between the lines!"

It is a complete myth that without exposure to porn, one is somehow sexually limited or in need of improvement. Not true, not true, not true. A happy, single life provided me with enough evidence on that score before DH confirmed it above and beyond