Men who don't watch porn

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I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

what paper(s) and magazines do you read Blame? (Be honest)

Well, he might possibly have a point, if a rather glib and patronising one, if I were objecting to porn because it shocks or outrages me But as that is not why I object, it is completely irrelevant.

I don't read newspapers (apart from our local one) and I read various conde nast publications like easy living and glamour.

His point isn't just about the hyprocrisy of the mail it's about the fact that it's easy and lazy to lump all porn together and stand on a soap box protesting about it

So how do you tell which porn involves trafficked/exploited/vulnerable women and which doesn't?

You think that article is funny and astute?

He's right about the hypocrisy of Paul Dacre, but like some of the posts on this thread, he's just another porn user trying to poke fun at anyone who dares to object to his entitlement, implying that they are all stupid frothers who can't distinguish proper research from a tabloid newspaper. I thought that article was a patronising load of shite written by a man who thinks he's much funnier than he actually is.

All he was really doing was poking fun at (and pointing out the hypocrisy of) the daily mail, something that happens on MN every day

The vast majority of internet porn is bad for women and men, it shows sex being done to women, without joy, without respect, , without mutual enjoyment, at best it's cold and mechanical, at worst it's misogynistic and abusive.

It shows women as passive recipients - how is that a good thing again?

Andula, could you answer my question from further down, where dio you stand on the issue of prostitution?

I'm sorry but, Glamour magazine??

Of course, when you tell me what it has to do with this discussion

I read the article quickly.

His point about the daily mail was ok, but his arguments in favour of porn were, erm, well... Not really there where they? Im not sure "so I dont feel like a freak" is exactly a strong point. Or even one at all.

Andula- so how do you tell which porn involves trafficked/exploited/vulnerable women and which doesn't?

at least glamour magazine doesn't show pics of people having sex

Because its women being paid for sex. And being used by men for their pleasure.

and you can read with or without a labotomy, yay!
yeah, of course, you've just summed up all porn in that sentence

Its lobotomy, if you are going to attempt to insult my intelligence, at least spell it right

and I'm sure playboy and debbie does dallas are very educational and highbrow

Its people being paid for sex yes? Part of the sex industry.

ok, cards on the table, I reckon:-

1. a lot of women don't like porn because they don't find it arousing and don't want their partners looking at other women
2. most men watch porn and a lot of those men lie about it (see point 1)
3. watching porn can be part of a healthy relationship

Andula- so how do you tell which porn involves trafficked/exploited/vulnerable women and which doesn't?

Just been having a catch up, I think what a lot people seem to be doing is thinking that because someone watches porn they will obviously have a bad sex life, it?s not the case at all. People watch porn and have normal, healthy sex lives, I can?t stress this enough. Me having watched porn isn?t clouding my judgement about women, I don?t compare these women on screen to real life women and I?m sure it?s only a small minority of men who do, IMO. I think, and I may be totally wrong but it is more likely women will compare themselves to these porn stars more than a man will compare each woman. You only have to look at women?s magazines to see how mental it all is, fat celebs, skinny celebs, diets etc

I would say, IMO, that Andulas point are correct.

This is well worth a read:

How I Recovered from Porn-related Erectile Dysfunction

This is a growing problem. And also a shrinking one, of course.

But why do you think those things? My dh hasn't lied to me about porn usage. I even said that (because my health is v bad and our sex life is non-existent right now) I would understand if he used it occasionally, he doesn't want to. Doesn't like it. How on earth can you speak for most men/relationships based purely on your own experience as someone who likes porn?

And seeker has asked a good question, considering you don't want to answer mine.

Andula- so how do you tell which porn involves trafficked/exploited/vulnerable women and which doesn't?"

"This is a growing problem. And also a shrinking one, of course"

Shoes, you are totally wrong.

Shoesme, where did anyone say that? You are just assuming you know what people think. again.

Both you and andula have repeatedly suggested that men who don't like porn are either
A. Lying
B. have low sex drives.

You really can't believe that some people aren't into porn, can you?

My DH doesn't watch it, he is not interested because he has no idea who they are so it is not arousing for him. I on the other hand love watching it.