Men who don't watch porn

[FBworry]

I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

Whats with all the random embolding?

SGB, usually I find your arguments really compelling and cohesive but you are really all over the place on this:

1. Some people who are anti-porn are misogynists.

Umm, well, that may be but it doesn't discredit the fact that most of the porn industry, as it stands, is almost entirely misogynistic. Sites like, Make Love not Porn are trying to counteract that, but they are not getting very far. To deny it is misogynistic is really odd.

1. The porn industry is not that rich.

er, it is massively wealthy - some of the people involved in it are worth billions - funnily enough, not the female performers.

1. There's misogyny everywhere why blame porn?

yup, agree with you it is all around and porn is one element of it. However, when my fourteen year old neices are on face time with boys and the boys are writing, I'm gonna come over your face, your tits, etc, etc, I think this is a direct reaction to porn, and sadly, I think my neices reaction, oh gosh, giggle, giggle, is the same too.

You know in the past few weeks or so I read or heard men on TV saying things along the lines of "Im going to go out and find me some slag tonight " or "its worth visiting Essex you'll always get some bitch up for it".

DH even said a group of (mostly married) men at work were talking about getting hotel rooms after the Christmas party incase they "found some bird to shag them". These are highly educated men too.

You may think how thats a fabulous reflection that men now realise women are as just as up for a quick shag as them, but it makes me realise that instead men have reduced women to nothing more than a hole. Hardly empowering.

Gosh, your coming across as rather deranged and nasty Yorkshire.

Do you mean to?

I don't think watching porn is that much of an everyday activity for most men. I don't think it interests my husband tbh though I am sure he has seen it before as I have too. It doesn't really interest me either, I would rather just get on with my own sex life without watching other people pretending to enjoy sex with someone else - yuk!!

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mrsWolowitz

Yorkpud, you're not married to yorkshirepuddin, are you?
If so, you have my sympathies!

My DP watched porn as a teenager and in his early twenties. He stopped when I told him that if he was going to watch it I would prefer to watch it with him. We did for a while and he realised it was out of sheer boredom than for enjoyment. He hasn't watched porn in years.

He simply doesn't find it necessary. He has a partner and an imagination and has since realised and told me that he thinks of those girls as someone our daughters could one day become and it turns him off.

If he wanted to watch porn it wouldn't bother me much.

That's nice dear, mwah x

Aww so cute when its angry! Must be all the hormones.

If it's really 25 it must have severely underdeveloped genitals to be so immature . Perhaps testosterone injections might help?

I think he's a bit scared of women , they probably laugh at him, a lot

I think he's got 'mother issues'.

I think he's had to go for a nap, trying to mix it with the big girls has made him all grumpy and tired, I can just picture his screwed up little face, all pink and angry.
Bless.

SolidGold is completely right when she says the media distorts the effects of the porn industry (along with other things) for the sake of selling papers. The fact is, the selling of porn or subsrciption to porn websites, is falling drastically due to the availability of free, amateur stuff online. Louis Theroux recently made a documentary about it, before I get accused of throwing in random facts.

I think that most of the women on here who are offended by it will always be an will always consider it a form of cheating or not be able to stay with a partner that uses it. But I would suggest that it's just a matter of taste and sex drive, which varies a lot from relationship to relationship. And no matter how hard you try argue, there are LOTS of men who lie about using it, precisely because of this mad reaction.

Don't think my OH is really interested. I've suggested watching it together in the past, but he's not really bothered. Also, he's not a fan of giant boobs and fake looking women, so that's probably part of it.

Andula, whilst some people have posted that they consider it cheating (as a sexual response provoked by another person), many others have stated they see it as an abusive industry where women are ill treated.

I wouldn't call either of those positions "offended by it"