Men who don't watch porn

[FBworry]

I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

Im a long time lurker.

It's not that great it's such a huge deal to me, im more trying (badly) to make the point that in relationships people need to accept that no one is perfect and your partner will more than likely do things you don't approve of, as long as it's all good and healthy (as watching porn can be) then i don't think it should be a big issue.

FBworry, yes i can see how it can lead to relationship problems, especially with how easily available it is these days and, ironically, socially acceptable by people like me.

Do you think there's a special sirn that sounds in their world whenever a woman types the word "porn"?

Seeker, it's like a bat signal that only men can see.

Shoes, so you are a single man in your 20's who lurks on a predominately female parenting website where we discuss breastfeeding and periods? I don't understand why.

I've always found men who use aggressive language online are actually scared of women. Poor lambs.

But then it is down to that person to decide if they can live with it, or not. Then down to the one with the habit or what not to decide if they are willing to change, or not. Just because someone objects, it doesn't give a man/woman the right to tell "white lies" as you called them, and deceive their partner. That shows a lack of respect. They either be honest with their partner, and deal with the consequences, or change. Lying just takes the choice away from the wronged, and is a cuntish thing to do. And cowardly.

But, at least they will have their porn and their hand to keep them warm at night when they are old and lonely...

Blame, i'm a single dad in my 20's so this website is relevant to my interests. Although I don't think I've used aggressive language, although i appreciate that's subjective. I think i just got a bit giddy earlier.

Watching porn is not healthy or good though imo.

Yes nobody is perfect, but porn is something that should be a no brainer between choosing it or someone you love.

A really hope that when the day comes and you meet someone you could build your life, if she asks you to stop you can. If you cant you must be addicted tbh . I don't think you will thank yourself that you missed out on love for a couple of wanks.

Selfdoubt, oh yeah that's fine. If someone doesn't like that i may watch porn than that's fair enough, find a man who doesn't. Some women just don't care that a man will watch porn.

My previous major relationships the women have watched porn too so it's never really been an issue, although i appreciate in the future that may not be the case.

I disagree with you, but you haven't used particularly aggressive language. I was referring to another poster.

And that is fair enough, if they don't mind. But as you were saying earlier with regards to all men lying, that is not fair enough, especially on their partners.

To be honest, you aren't painting your circle of friends very well at all. they sound at the very least like selfish cowards.

Of course some people who oppose porn are well-meaning and not particularly creepy. But some anti porn men are really creepy. I know this through having met a few. And it wasn't the wellbeing of the performers that bothered them, it was the fact that the performers were 'skanky sluts' who 'rip men off' and are 'too stupid to get a proper job.'

"Of course some people who oppose porn are well-meaning and not particularly creepy"

Wow. Just wow.

I know have known some men (and women) with that attitude too, sgb, and equally don't tolerate that mindset when I see/hear it

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Have just asked DP to tell me the actual reason he doesn't watch it, he said he thinks it's boring.

I don't have too much of a problem with it and he knows I wouldn't bother if he told me he did but he doesn't, he's just never really liked it, refused to watch it with me a few years ago when I would ask him (not interested in watching it now though).

We both read erotica though, him less than I.

Also, his computer isn't password protected, neither is his phone and we both share laptops.

Don't doubt for a minute that he has the occasional wank, just doesn't need or want porn to do it.

does he wank "aggressively" or even "dangerously" though

it's a speshul kind of wanking, I believe

How do you wank dangerously? Is that like the people who do it with a noose around the neck?

An aggressive wank? That sounds a bit painful, he's a wimp. :o

Ahh just seen the post you mean.

Must say, have just been reminded of hedgehog cam.

heh

A danger wank is where there's a good chance of getting caught, wife pops out for 2 mins etc lol

Ahh okay, doesn't seem so intriguing now. :(

Just my 2 cents, I've known for a while now that the porn industry has been trying really hard to make it's self mainstream. Not for any altruistic purpose but just to make money. They don't care about any consequences that it may or may not have on people.

Sure, since the camera was invented there have been dirty pictures that men have looked at but it's nothing compared to whats happened in the last 15 years. Hardcore porn use to illegal, but the law got changed when the internet came along, with out asking anybody, because they knew they couldn't control it.

Yeah it's not like there might be a chance of death, although that might be the case judging by peoples opinions on here ha.

shoesme, a personal question for you

you don't have to answer if you don't want, and fgs, don't accuse me of flirting with you

you do know that wanking can be a mutually pleasurable pastime, don't you ?

it doesn't always have to be a nasty little secret, like you make it out to be