Men who don't watch porn

[FBworry]

I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

Wake up ladies. Your living in a fantasy world. Spread the love x

Yes, I also refuse to watch xfactor etal.

I refuse to shop in supermarkets, I seek high welfare produce, fair trade goods, I cycle not drive etc whatever. Although I do it it isn't relevant really, you aren't required to accept it all if you do accept one part of the bad things about modern society,

Hmm sort of signature sign off there yorkshire x

I'm a woman who occasionally watches porn. My DH, however, has no interest in it. He isnt lying or hiding anything. It doesnt turn him on. He finds it stilted and set up and weird and says he would rather use his imagination.

I know your question about reality TV was to Offred SGB, but I detest anything like X factor , BB, I'm a sleb etc. my DH hates it even more and gets into heated debate with anyone who watches it, like his sister.
I see it as the modern version of a Victorian freak show, meant to make the "plebs" feel better about their crappy little lives by inviting them to mock and humiliate others.

My DH doesn't watch porn because it's tacky, plastic and revolting. His words. He is not at all prudish or uptight. I am glad he doesn't because it is such an exploitive industry.

dh's answer:

"I don't watch porn for the same reason I wouldn't watch a really gory slasher film with people being hacked to pieces. Because it's horrid. I find it unpleasant."

Offred: people who appear in any kind of performance take money for it (or nearly always, or they hope to). Actors in non-porn films sometimes have to do things that are painful or dangerous - or upsetting. Athletes and dancers earn money from their work and sometimes harm their health in doing it or training for it.

And, while there are going to be some porn viewers who get off on a lack of consent (either real or performed) there are other porn viewers who enjoy believing that the performers are having a good time - one appealing factor of porn, to a percentage of male viewers, is the message that women seek out sex without commitment, and enjoy it. This is not a bad message at all. The cultural insistence that women, in particular, must engage in committed relationships before they should have or enjoy sex is harmful.

My point is, really, that porn is very often used as a kind of catch-all scapegoat for people's unease and misogyny - and that anti-porn crusades have repeatedly been a damaging dead end for feminism. Anti-porn feminists always find themselves standing next to people who may oppose porn but are no friend to women's freedom, either.

Ok, but I fail to see how any of that is relevant. Consent is specifically a legal issue related to things such as sex, medical procedures and some contracts.

I also disagree that the message that women enjoy sex without commitment in the context of consent not being required is a good thing. All people need to learn how to relate to and respect others as individuals reinforcing ideas such as consent and commitment are not required or undesirable generally is not a good thing. There isn't anything wrong with requiring commitment from a sexual partner just as there isn't anything wrong with not requiring it. Porn easily leads women into trying to imitate porn attitudes to commitment also can put pressure on women to submit to sexual acts they don't want to submit to. It can be used specifically by men for this purpose. I don't feel there is a balance in what is portrayed by porn and it's ease and unchallenging sexual experience means a real woman can end up falling very short of expectations.

None of the men I know who are anti-porn are misogynists. That just sounds like a slur on men who have the balls to admit to other men that they find it crass, tasteless and exploitative. This is in fact just the sort of mocking that posters have objected to about reality tv i.e oh look at the creepy men who object to porn, let's point our fingers and laugh at them

What double-standards and hypocrisy.

And I'm not a feminist. This is a predominantly female forum where I talk mostly about issues affecting women but that does not mean I have a special interest in women or women's issues.

I have to go to bed because I have a ridiculous headache (and have done all day) so I just can't think anymore. Will check again tomorrow eve probably as busy day tomorrow.

Badianage

Thats actually a really good point.

Just face it, unless you can f**k like a pornstar an do the things they do your 'DP' is getting off on watching other women! Obviosly hes not going to tell you cus he knows your opinion of it, so he tells you what you want to hear. Its disgusting! Then again it sounds like most of you are 60+ so it might have died down with your 'DP'

Hello, in answer to FBworry, I wouldn't have a problem if my wife watched porn on her own, however i would feel it was a problem if it affected our sex life. People do view porn and have a normal sex life, it's not just black and white, there's 50 shades inbetween. Just because a man will watch porn doesn't mean he will neglect his partner.

Are you an immature wanker all the time Yorkshire or are you making a special effort just for us frigid old prudes?
Who the hell wants to fuck like a porn star? fake tits, fake pleasure , fake sexual arousal and men who wouldn't know how to get a real woman off if they had a sat-nav configured to a woman's genitals.

Thought you had no internet at home Shoesme? Whats the matter, couldnt resist a look at your sock puppetry handiwork?

Im on my phone, i thought it would just be the desktop site but it's the mobile version so less faffing. They need to make an Android app version as i lost my Iphone with the app on :-(

Shoes, are you a regular then? If you had the app.

I'm not even going to respond to yorkshire. I'm sure he's used to it from women.

Oh ignore Yorkshire, I find him quite sweet as he is just trying so hard

Shoesme I do agree it is not black and white but there is evidence an increased number of divorces are down to porn ,when one partner slowly begins to completely neglect their partner over porn. Nobody will put up with that for too long, man or woman.

Not to mention rising ( or maybe not so "rising") problems of ED due to over exposure of porn.

Shoesme, is porn that great to you that you would wave goodbye to the real thing if they refused to accept it? If so, what makes it so great that it beats a non-fake, real blooded woman?

And what is wrong with using your imagination, rather than watching a whole 50 shades of fake act?

My dh hasn't watched porn since my mom cleaned our house while babysitting the kids and found his hiding spot. Let's just say she humiliated the need for it out of him.