Residual Parenting Commitments, The Last Turkey In The Shop, Boiled Bunnies, Men With Fish and Stolen Condoms. Dating Thread XXXI.

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Get on with it, daters.............

Dog yuck at Mr Burp. Did he excuse himself? I've found it difficult, tbh, to judge attractiveness/spark off photos and think all the men I met up with didn't really look like their photos, and in one case wasn't recognisable at all . . . In the end I checked the photos to make sure they weren't actually repulsive to me and if they were reasonable then I'd give it a go. LM did NOT have a good photo up on his profile btw.

Moving sorry to hear about Mr Workaholic. Was it the sex thing in the end? Hope your date goes well.

Babes sounds like things are okay for the moment but I'd want the whole butterfly thing going on too. Great news about the interviews.

Voice please don't go. There are so many people on here who are feeling low particularly at this time of year, me included. I sometimes feel like I have a bit too much of a moan on here but then again if the thread were only full of positive and upbeat stories it would feel very false and wearying for those of us that are having a harder time of it. That's my excuse anyway. Like Juliette says, I hope the quieter posters will stay and keep on posting, even if there's not much news on the dating front.

Lulu the counselling sounds like a really good idea. It's helped me a lot.

voice I am in rural Wiltshire. Your neck of the woods.

I am prepared for this to go all Pete Tong. It is tough even if you have Coffee.

are we all calling bant 'Babe' now?

well, i'm glad she was a bit less full on, god, I'd like butterflies but at the moment i'd settle for not wanting to physically vomit when i see someone.

Good luck for interviews! :)

Hi all, update from the world of 'older dating' (over 50s). They have this hideous thing called an 'icebreaker' where the same message is sent to all the [choose age band] members in a 75 mile radius! But they're not labelled as IBs in the message - the only way to tell is that there's no personal content (your name, reference to your profile etc). Now, I try to respond to messages out of courtesy, but I'm no longer doing it for messages that don't mention me by name. IB = lazy in my book!
I exchanged a few emails with a guy, he suggested a meet-up, I suggested some dates, & he's not responded - but he's viewed my profile again at least once. Sigh. I'm not messaging him again - pingpong is how it works for me.
I'm on my own on Xmas day (DCs with their dad) but I have some lovely friends who invite me to join them in these circs. Anyone here within striking distance of the middle of the souh coast, fancy a festive get-together?

whatdoes you're not in Nottingham are you? I had a boyfriend there who was dreadfully afflicted by mealtime burps when he was stressed...

I thought I'd try POF again. I even find up themselves twats on there, how? Everyone else gets cock pics.

Snape I'm with you on wanting to see someone who was vaguely attractive. That is why I asked recently whether anyone else hides the profiles of 'matches' and some who favourite me as I find it too depressing to think that these men think they could possible have me

I have to do something different, clearly this isn't working for me.

Juliette and Snape - it works the other way around, too. When I was OD, I used to get a few messages from women who really, really were punching way above their weight messaging me. And bearing in mind I'm only average looking, that's a REALLY scary thought

Juliette - yes I hide profiles of people who Match things are suitable for me but just.. aren't...

Also those who I've mailed who look nice but haven't responded to a second email. I'll generally try sending a second one after more than a week in case they missed my first one wading through all the dross and didn't spot the diamond :) but no more than two, that's just crossing the line from keen to stalkerish. And to make sure I don't send a third I'll hide them too.

western it was the lack of sex, lack of giving a shit in general really! But I'm glad I gave it a try but will have to end things at some point. I even introduced him to my dd as a friend after two years of us being on and off and now I've done that it makes me certain I don't want to be with him long term. Seeing men with with dd really helps me make up my mind. He was kind to her etc but I just don't see him fitting into my life atall!

But yes looking forward to my date that's if we can both make it

Oh and as others have said, I know this is meant to be a dating thread but half of us on here arnt dating and it's more like a singles/ possibly dating thread and if we want to just come here for a moan that's fine, that's why this is the best and busiest long going thread

Nope never has a cock shot, nearest I came was someone asking in second message if I was into role play! Given the nature of his profile I assumed he didn't mean dungeos and dragons. Never got a third message

Never had a cock shot either, mind I think my profile sends the message enter at your peril. Maybe they think I could eat a whole one. Literally

48 I was going to say after your messages with the lonesome cowboy that you must live near me . I haven't had any cock shots either, must be the cold breeze down here.

voice Don't give up unless you really want to, ask some people on here to look at your profile for you. Providing you still have the stomach for it you just never know, the next one could be the one.

nomore PM me if you like, I will write a 'big up' profile for you.

I am spreading the love today.

Voice When i read this thread over the weekend I felt everyone was getting coffee and Coffee yet here am I without even a sniff of a bean. But its not the case at all - we are all undulating through the dating malarky together. Everything in the world of dating is so fragile, that things change very rapidly. Dont go or lurk. Even those having huge amounts of caffeine now have experienced long dry spells, rejection and dating hostility.

bantambabe Its good that things are calmer. Did you use another 5 condoms?

Snape are your feelings around PM still as acute or are they ebbing at all?

moving I dont remember your guy - what was his history?

So, Ive been without any real interest for a period of time now and suddenly my friend asks if I want to be his FWB. I am half tempted but he lives about an hour and a half away and Im not sure if I can be bothered with the travelling in the winter! He is very funny though and he would be up for it. Im thinking.

Im meeting a fireman next week who lives miles away. He seems nice. No overt texting, no peni shots, no notions of naked pictures my way. We will see.

Scatty get him to do the travelling...if he wants it he can come and get it:o

Scatty - no, I didn't manage 5 times this time. Still quite pleased with myself though :)

Moving - as people have said, we've all had ups and downs, and any advice you give is appreciated. A few successful dates and Coffee doesn't mean any of us won't be back on here getting grumpy about the state of Fish pictures or lolspeak very soon.. If you do go, you'll be missed, but I understand why you might want to.

Moving - I told the Artist that I wouldn't be introducing her to my DC until I'd been seeing her 6 months, and she was very disappointed. I'm not sure how to take that.

WhatDoes - I had a terrible case of the burps when I had a date a couple of months ago. I'd had some lemsip beforehand as I had a bit of a cold, and I think it kept repeating on me when combined with the lager I drank. It was very embarrassing, I noticed my date had noticed it, then she suddenly got the hiccups and I felt better.

nature someone in my neck of the woods. Yay

mercury I like your thinking

An old Fb friend found me on okc a few weeks ago. I've always politely declined his offers of getting together as I assumed strong Coffee would be on order. Told him earlier that although a good seeing to was appealing, I would rather have tlc, right now. He wrote back to me saying tlc it is then. I'm tempted but he lives in a different city, otherwise I'd probably give him it a go. I think its because I want someone to take care of me for a change with the option of Coffee and its the run up to the C word. Not sure if I'd be up for fwb anyway.

scatty mr workaholic well I've been seeing him for two years on and off. Got involve with him straight after splitting up with my dds dad. He said he wanted a relationship with me, I kept fighting it, which meant that as I wouldnt agree to be with him we never went out or did couple type things as I wouldn't commit! So a very odd relationship.

Also he works 13 hours per day 6 days a week. Then falls asleep a lot when he is at my house, gives me very little sex, once or twice per night and morning of staying over when I would like a lot more! Is quite boring as doesn't like to go out a lot and would rather stay in cuddled up not having sex but snoring in my ear while pretentious to watch a film that he choose just to fall asleep.

Anyway since we got back together this time he seemed to make some effort etc, but I can see that slipping and he generally makes me feel like he's not that into me!!

So it's time to break up with him as an adult!!!

banta I'm not planning on leaving! No way this is my facilitate thread ever

Has the artist got children? If I was dating a guy that said he would only introduce me to his dc after 6months, I would really respect that. I havnt been on the thread for a while, can you update me on the artist? Also it's good that she seems interested to meet your dc!

Sorry Moving - that first message was meant to be to Voice

Artist has no children, she's 41 and I'm kind of nervous about the biological clock. Personally I'm open to the idea of having more than my current 2, but I really want to spend some time getting to know someone very well first, traveling a bit (DC permitting) all that stuff, so you have something to look back on together when the reality of parenthood kicks in.

I spoke to a woman on Match who, after the second message said 'look, I'm 39, I want to have children and I'd really rather have them sooner rather than later so there's no time for 'having fun' - are you interested?'

At which point, although she was really attractive and quite funny, I said no thanks as I like to think I'm more than a sperm donor - and that seemed to be what she was looking for. And I'm worried thats what the Artist is looking for given her disdain for condoms, but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.

I think this weekend when I see her again I'll talk to her about kids and see if she really really wants them. I don't want to have kids with her, she's a little bit too craaaazy for that.

Bantababy nothing to say. Just wanted to do that Bantababy thing

If she says she does want them, Bant, what will your reply be?

Still no word from Skyman, the manbitch! So I've got myself back on POF, hooked myself a couple of newbies. Ones really keen, pretty much doing my head in already- wants to arrange a second date before we've met at all, texting to ask why I haven't replied after 20 mins. Not my style at all, clinginess does nothing for me. Second is only looking for casual, not the best chatter, but really fancied him from his photos, so hoping to hook a new FWB there!