Residual Parenting Commitments, The Last Turkey In The Shop, Boiled Bunnies, Men With Fish and Stolen Condoms. Dating Thread XXXI.

[FlorentinePogen]

Get on with it, daters.............

Brian! Hello! :)

Ooh, that would be useful. I have no idea what I'd charge is the only thing...

Been thinking about things more during the day. Nothing from him. To be honest, I am grateful. Am I cowardly not actually telling him he's a creep and thanks but no thanks? I think you're right, he thought because he's well off and has some 'famous' musician friends he could impress me. Maybe another more vulnerable woman, but NOT ME.

Its made me think about half Italian stallion too whose home telephone didn't work, who, once we had slept together effectively dumped me and said he didn't want / couldn't cope with a relationship. Maybe reading too much into it.

Anyway, there's a slightly boring engineer in touch too, and the possibility of a date there. He sounds nice, if maybe a little quiet. A pleasant change from Merc Man

What a tart!

Snape, there is a piece of advice you gave on a previous thread which went along the lines of:-

Chin up, tits out and plaster on a big smile

And yes, Voldie is a massive idiot. And your Matt Smith tatto looks ace.

Oh I know. I'm just feeling a bit humbuggy. It's this relentless festivity. Everywhere I look it's tinsel and happiness. I'm still a bit under the weather with a cold, still got the work/rent thing trundling on (latest, I put in my appeal on Monday, work has 10 working days to arrange a meeting with me, the appeals decision maker is off until the 17th, and then I had leave planned which I now have to interrupt to go to the sodding meeting, where I will have to talk about depression,DV etc) they will give a final decision by Xmas eve (you have to be kidding me!) have CAHMS on Monday, job interview/presentation on Tuesday... I'm just worn out and a bit fed up with people.

My Matt smith tattoo is glorious thank you! :)

WOW! poppy You have bounced back. Way to go

No not first date but first grown up date !!! Rest were just transition. Bit excited but trying to keep it real !!

Cheers 48 not sure what's got into me. I am sure the confidence will come and go. The insecurity starts if / when I am actually attracted to the guy.

poppy you are kicking ass

whatdoes I found the same with all of mine

Can I just say this on behalf of all of us who are not feeling the 'wonderful time of the year'

FUCK CHRISTMAS

and especially fuck every single moron who calls up the radio for us to hear them wish their lovely DH/DW Happy Christmas, especially when they are in the same car

That is the last time I shall use the C word

In mitigation, I did apologise in advance sometime last week

Perhaps all stay on the sofa and become 'we hate the c word' gang.

I have become addicted to MN. Saving me loads on ebay

Tell me it wears off!

It doesn't wear off. There are sooo many places you won't have even seen yet...

I've just had a message from someone who looked old enough to be one of my friends' dads. Given that I'm over fifty, that ten years they knock off is looking rather conservative

Goes looking.....

So happy I have no recollection of most who have messaged me. The ones that put me in their 'favourites' though are unforgetable. The cheek!

Well my kids & I are celebrating the first night of Chanukah with some yummy food and um...well, Home Alone.

Snape - you could be Scroogespeare for the hols?
It's shitty. It won't last forever.

Happy Chanuka Yoga, Menorahs all over around here

Thanks Juliette, we lit ours and celebrated with the traditional Chanukah foods of latkes, onion bhajis & pakora!

Looking forward to Winter Solstice

Fighting to keep positive.

As someone who has had:

Serious ongoing health issues
Partner walk out after 20 years
Have him mess me around with money
Now have a daughter with depression anxiety triggered by her dad's desertion

This is indeed a seriously crappy time of the year. But I have put up the tree, made plans, invited a friend who is home alone for Christmas Day. We will all be OK. All that food sounds gorgeous.

Onwards and upwards. But I am really not sure if I ever want to date again. I just can't seem to start - like a dead battery on a car - the interest and the trust is not there. At all.

This morning my little girl woke up and started crying. "I feel sad all the time,' she said and I truly felt my heart crack in two. For a moment too, I hated my ex OH. He is doing a very glam job, working with film stars and having no responsibility. I am in a falling down house, trying to keep body and soul together. He had to be told three times when she had whooping cough and was very ill. He has to be begged for money - which I hate.

(Kicks Santa in the goolies)

But you lot are wonderful....such lovely people and anyone would be lucky to have you in their lives.....

Punk so sorry to hear things are difficult and especially about your dd. it just breaks your heart, doesn't it? Why don't these selfish, worthless men see or care what they have done to their children? This time last year my eldest was suicidal, self harming because of what her twat of a father had done to her. This year thank goodness she's much better, not right but a lot better. Time heals many things.

At the moment, you've got priorities other than dating. For a long, long time I thought I'd never go near a man again. I couldn't imagine even wanting to start a relationship. Then almost overnight my feelings changed and I felt ready to move on. This took me eighteen months though so not a quick process at all. It all comes in its own time, no point trying to rush things along.

On a practical note, get the CSA involved pronto and they'll sort out his payments.

oh dear Santa and OWW I suppose I should be thankful that mine are still very young and that their father is still very actively involved with them they have been surprisingly adaptable about the whole divorce. If it wasnt for my miserable mug the split would not concern them in the least. I feel for you and your little ones, that is very shitty behaviour from your ex's

Santa,thinking of you and your daughter hope she will start feeling better about life. She has you as a loving mummy who will get her through this but maybe at a cost to you.
My ex H left when me DDs were little and went to USa with his Phd student.They married and I had to send my kids on planes each year to see their happy family whilst I felt like shit. However my girls are now grown up and appreciate what I did.They have formed their own distant sort of relatioship with him.
I joined POF 2 months ago after not being with a man for 13yrs. It has been so much fun and has boosted my confidence.But the rejections hurt and bring back all those feelings from years ago. So be careful you need to be thick skinned and have a sense of humour. The responses I got to my icebreaker "Santa needed" were hysterical !!! Take care

santa someone would be very lucky to have you

I am on the sofa.