Residual Parenting Commitments, The Last Turkey In The Shop, Boiled Bunnies, Men With Fish and Stolen Condoms. Dating Thread XXXI.

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Get on with it, daters.............

OWW YAY!

Off to meet Mr Cheeky for coffee .. part work chat and part .. not!

Not great on 2 week referral for breast scan
Dickhead has said that he is prepared to see me as a friend not a lover or partner ,his words.
He doesnt know about breast lump.Really upset about him and everything.
Going out with girls from work for a meal tonight but cant stop crying at moment.

jaffa ((((hugs))))

Briefly de-lurking to say, Jaffa, I know this is easier said than done but try not to imagine the worst, the nhs has a standard 2 week wait policy for certain categories of investigations. Is it an ultrasound that the GP has referred you for ?

Jaffa I just wrote a really long message, posted it and now it's disappeared!! The general gist was, he's an idiot, there is someone much better out there for you and he has done you a favour as you are now free to find someone much more deserving of you.

Have a great night out tonight and try to let it take your mind off it all. Just remember, this is the worst you will feel about him. In not very long you won't be upset about him at all - promise.

Try not to worry about the scan, they are being cautious which is great but it's most likely nothing to worry about.

Lets hope this one posts!!

Aw Jaffa that is totally understandable that you should be upset.x

Jaffa - I think it's standard to refer everyone with a lump for an investigation so it really doesn't mean it's anything sinister. I think 95% of all referrals turn out to be non-malignant. There was a thread on this earlier in the week on Chat which is really reassuring, maybe worth a look.

As for the Dickhead, he's exactly that. Don't waste time on him. He's "prepared to"???? Well, fuck that. Throw him out of your head, delete his number and concentrate on yourself and your life for a while. Don't pressurise yourself to get back on that ole dating horse (unless that works for you), just take it easy and all will be well. (((Hugs)))

Jaffa, try not to worry - I know that's easy to say, I used to have a yearly mammo (strong family history) & got a call back a few years ago. Shit scared! Turned out to be a rouge blocked milk duct. The support thread on MN is lovely, do reccomend it. :)

Now. Think positively about all the fab stuff you do have, get ready, go out and have a lovely time. :) x!

Oh and OWW great news. Happy Friday!

Jaffa I wrote you a long post before you went to GP saying there was a standard 2 week appointment for ultrasound or mammogram for all breast lumps and for you not to assume anything by this as it is standard for everyone. I didn't post as I thought if for some reason you had a different suggestion from the GP you would worry more. It is the standard, and means no more than them doing the thing they are measured on. I have to go out now but didn't want to leave you worrying. You know its usually all ok, it won't help that twunt has revealed himself. Take care, PM me if you want to.

Thanks everyone. Life has been worse than this so know I will get through but when things happen together it all feels overwhelming.
So,dress up tonight ,lippy on,delete dickheads number,and move on.

I know, Jaffa ( and I speak as someone who's just been crying because the vacuum cleaner is knackered again ) most lumps ANYWHERE are found to be completely normal/benign, it's just scary, especially when you have other stuff on your plate too. Feel free to PM if I can help at all, and have a fabulous night out.

Yes Jaffa have yerself lots of fun!!

jaffa all the best.

In my news, quick drink with the geeky girl is looking like tonight. We each have other things happening early on so it's a case of "if we each get away early we'll catch up". Low pressure, still bricking it! Hope it lasts long enough for a loo update...

jaffa Go out and get your mojo working

Bill Open mind. Have fun!

jaffa have fun tonight and I echo all of the above advice

Bill hope it goes well with Geeky Girl!

I postponed tonights date with the Artist as I'm suffering from man flu. She was actually very okay with it, and we'll spend Sunday in bed together instead of having to get up early tomorrow.

Good luck Bill. Geeky girls are enthusiastic :)
Jaffa - everythings going to be okay, as everyone says, try not to let it get on top of you. And the dickhead is, obviously, a dickhead.

Western - nice one. Celebrate with chocolate.

I am having chicken jalfrezi with rice and chutneys. I've run out of peshwari naan, I'm wondering whether a defrosted belgian waffle would work.

Interesting post on mens dating vs womens dating

Hmm. Set Mr Fuck a test on Wednesday night. Told him I was letting my guard down and that I wasn't using him for sex. Haven't heard a word since I left Thursday morning.

The silence speaks volumes. Thank god the Coffee was good

Bant Peshwari nans are a firm favourite in our house and I can say, with conviction, a Belgian waffle Will Not Do! Sorry but I thought you needed to hear the truth.

Yoga

messy but surprisingly yum

Heathen!

48 What's he usually like at getting in touch?

I think opening up to him was the right thing to do, and brave too. It's something I have a bit of trouble with too. Him not getting in touch could be for many reasons, and I won't even try to guess, which have nothing to do with what you said. Don't let this push you back behind your barriers. It's the natural reaction to retreat again and put up even higher defences, but not good for the future.

OWW He is always a bit distance after I have spent the night. Most odd.