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Original poster

Ok, so my dh seems to be signed into msn at work but he is in Holland in a meeting. . . .

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Cadbury · 08/04/2006 15:33

so what is going on? I know I'm suspicious when it comes to him but he hasn't been at work since Thursday evening and I had been chatting to him then and saw him log offline. He left for Holland in the small hours of Friday morning and has been there since. Is he playing me for a fool or am I completely loosing perspectiver here?

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NomDePlume · 08/04/2006 15:35

Is there any chance that one of colleagues could be using his pc ? MSN logs on automatically if someone switches the computer on, unless yu change it in the settings part of messenger.

NomDePlume · 08/04/2006 15:35

you

Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 15:38

I guess its possible but I saw it was logged in yesterday and sent a message and had no response. It is permenantly set to away.

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Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 15:38

I am being completely silly here aren't I.

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Chandra · 08/04/2006 15:38

Sometimes I use DH's computer and immediatly receive messages from some of his co workers working late.

So, I'm with NomdePlume

NomDePlume · 08/04/2006 15:39

It happens all the time on our main pc. I'll go in and switch on, forgetting that it automatically logs DS2 into MSN, I'll be merrily surfing/working away and all these message windows pop up !

NomDePlume · 08/04/2006 15:41

It sound slike you are maybe over-reacting a teeny bit, but then I don't know your relationship history. I'm 90% sure it's just a pc error

MadameDeMars · 08/04/2006 15:42

Cadders.... relax. Don't look for problems honey. I know that you are still feeling rather shaky, but I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt.

Thinking of you Smile

Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 15:44

I know, I know. I am over reacting. The slightest little thing is getting my radars beeping. he's been away so much lately and I think the worst everytime he goes.

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Turquoise · 08/04/2006 15:46

I'm with Ndp - definitely someone else on the pc. You#'re not being silly, you're just on edge and seeing things a bit out of perspective maybe.
Love M x

Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 15:47
Blush
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Turquoise · 08/04/2006 15:48

Don't be Blush - anyone would be the same. You've been so strong and it's bloody hard.

NomDePlume · 08/04/2006 15:48
Smile
waterfalls · 08/04/2006 15:50

I was on the pc once, when I saw my dh log in, exect he was sat behind me watching tvShock turned out to be a computer hacker, they changed his password, logged into his ebay account and left abusive feedback to items he had'nt got round to doing.

MadameDeMars · 08/04/2006 15:50

sorry cadders, mini hijack..........

My name is Inigo Montoya, you kilt my fadder, prepare to die............. Hi Turquoise!!! Grin

Cadders: Smile all will be well!

Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 15:53
Grin
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Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 15:54

Shock waterfalls!

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Turquoise · 08/04/2006 15:55

GrinMarsy!
Cadders - the Marslady is very very wise.
((hugs to you)) [and I'm about as huggy as Cod, so FEEL the lurve.]

Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 15:56

I'm a feelin it. Smile thanks

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MadameDeMars · 08/04/2006 15:56
Grin
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Cadbury · 08/04/2006 17:43

so now he isn't responding to texts. He wasn't meant to be in a meeting this late. I can't get this niggle out of my head and him not responding isn't helping. I know I am being very ott but my rational side keeps napping and all hell breaks loose in my head.

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Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 18:07

ok, NOW the MSN has gone offline. that means someone must be there.

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giraffeski · 08/04/2006 18:42

Or, it might mean the PC has been turned off?

Original poster
Cadbury · 08/04/2006 18:43

but by who - the office is empty at the weekend

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MadameDeMars · 08/04/2006 18:48

Cadders... hold fire honey. At the moment we don't know who it is. Deep breaths. Maybe he hasn't heard his phone or turned it on.