Bf has lied about his age

[ElvisIsKing]

Odd one this and don't know what to make of it. Well I guess I do, it's not great, but would appreciate some opinions

Been seeing a guy for about three months. Everything is fine really lovely in fact. He's very respectful of me and my children we see each other when we can, he's very thoughtful everything is lovely.

So today he's on the phone sorting out his mobile phone contract and gives the telephonist his date of birth. I'm on the train home doing the sums and thinking if the date of birth he's given is correct then he's actually one year younger than he said he was

I messaged him to ask how old he was he maintains the he's xx (the age he originally told me) and finally admits he's yy (the year younger age). I question him he says he tells everybody he's yy

I just can't get my head around it. Why lie? Why lie again when I question him (this is the biggest problem for me)

I'm really not bothered about the age, why would I be, it's one year! But it's really bothering me that he continued to lie when questioned...

We've arranged to meet on Monday and I really want to gather my thoughts before then. What do I make of this? My instinct is that this is awful he really shouldn't be lying so early on in the relationship
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We have Turkish children at school who say they are a year older than we would as birthdays can be counted differently; so a child in my class who has just turned 7 (by UK reasoning) has been telling the whole class he is 8 now. It's taken us ages in the past to get to the bottom of which year group children should be in, especially when it's been hard to track down birth certificates etc.

I think queen has it spot on! I used to get so confused in Greece when everyone insisted that I was a year older than I am
They count from conception so at 29 they would consider you 30 as you are in your 30th year of life. I would imagine that this is the case here. Case solved

That might be it then - it must be very confusing if you're used to saying you're one age, but the country you're in insists you're another!

I tell everyone I'm 24. I stopped getting any older when I hit this point. It's become a bit of joke now seeing as my daughter is now 19.

hi all sorry I haven't been back for a bit; fell asleep friday (after much chuckling thankfully) and it was the kids' school christmas fair yesterday.

sorry if my op was ambiguous AF, but I did just mean he is respectful of the fact that I have children. He has visited my house when they are in bed and has seen photos of them but it's going to take a while before it goes any further than that. Don't know how people normally deal with introducing children (when and how etc) but that's for another time and thread I guess.

Anyway thanks for all the posts and opinions, sorry to hear about those that have been lied to :( again just wanted to say I'm not bothered about the age, just the lie

So, after sending a rather shitty text yesterday morning saying that I needed some time and space to think about our relationship, I caught up with this thread. Thought about it and it did make sense with what those were saying towards the end of the thread, that he is counting his age from conception as he was adamant he was 30 and even when he said he was 29 it was almost as if he was saying it because i wanted him to? (his answer was 'OK I am 29')

I text him last night asking him to call me and we had a chat, I asked him again to explain why he says he is 30 and it turns out that those that posted towards the end of the thread were right in some parts of turkey this is how they count their age so he truly believes his age is 30 now. On his next birthday he will say he is 31 . I asked why he didn't just say this before! But to be fair I think he did in a roundabout way but his english is still fairly broken and I was just convinced he was lying to me so didn't really listen as much as I should have I suppose. Feel a bit mean to be honest as really I came down on him like a ton of bricks but at least he knows I won't stand for any dishonesty.

mystery solved!

I've certainly learnt a bit though; that we may have some cultural differences that need to be worked out and that if we have any problems its probably best to speak about them face to face!

thanks again for all your posts :)