Bf has lied about his age

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Odd one this and don't know what to make of it. Well I guess I do, it's not great, but would appreciate some opinions

Been seeing a guy for about three months. Everything is fine really lovely in fact. He's very respectful of me and my children we see each other when we can, he's very thoughtful everything is lovely.

So today he's on the phone sorting out his mobile phone contract and gives the telephonist his date of birth. I'm on the train home doing the sums and thinking if the date of birth he's given is correct then he's actually one year younger than he said he was

I messaged him to ask how old he was he maintains the he's xx (the age he originally told me) and finally admits he's yy (the year younger age). I question him he says he tells everybody he's yy

I just can't get my head around it. Why lie? Why lie again when I question him (this is the biggest problem for me)

I'm really not bothered about the age, why would I be, it's one year! But it's really bothering me that he continued to lie when questioned...

We've arranged to meet on Monday and I really want to gather my thoughts before then. What do I make of this? My instinct is that this is awful he really shouldn't be lying so early on in the relationship
:(

Do you often catch him talking into his watch?

Is he from east Asia? I ask because I recently started working with two Koreans and discovered that they count their age from conception and so are nearly a year older than we consider them to be...
Both of them have told me two different ages but it was more forgetfulness than anything else.

Yep he rounded up but yes why did he continue to lie (well I guess because he would look like a bit of a prat, but did he think I would never find out?)

Think I will just give us a bit of space until Monday an then spell it put to him that no type of lie is acceptable

My gut feeling is he is genuine but you never know do you

No cats (as far as I know!)

you have introduced this economical-with-the-truth stranger to your children already ?

No wommer turkey but that would have been a BRILLIANT explanation. Shame

Rhubarb stop now

No when did I say that anyfucker?

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it was just this in your OP...

Been seeing a guy for about three months. Everything is fine really lovely in fact. He's very respectful of me and my children we see each other when we can, he's very thoughtful everything is lovely.

AF I read that he is respectful of her and of her having children.

Meaning he understands why she can not see him all the time etc.

I may be wrong

I used to tell people that I worked for an undertakers.
Then I would tell others that I had a breast reduction but I was considering another because I thought my bazookas were just too big and were breaking my back (they are tiny). Watching their emotions spread across their faces was quite amusing.

I only did it when in company with drinks though, just for a laugh. Never with a boyfriend.

He probably thought, since you said you were older than you appeared, that you might be put off him if he was still in his 20s so he figured 30 sounded better and he was nearly 30 so what the hell. Once the lie is out there it's very hard to retract it without coming across as a right tit.

At least, that is what he would lead you to believe whilst he bugs your phone and installs tiny camers in your home. You work in law you say? Well that finalises it, he's a spy and is using your law knowledge to spy on the UK.

What out for bowler hats and tipped walking sticks....

Respectful as in when I first met him and told him I had children he didn't bat an eyelid (this is my first relationship post ex, haven't dated before as a lone parent) He asks how they are. He understands that i can't see him as much as we'd like because of childcare

Yes exactly that Brady - x post

Oh Wommer, why did you have to mention Koreans, now I have got Gagnam Style going round agin in my head! I've had a few cheeky vinos, and feel the urge to succumb to a little gallop around my kitchen with the song blaring out. I thought I had weaned myself of the habit!

I do honestly think that is the explanation rhubarb but you never know I guess. Just have to keep my wits about me I think

Still slightly confused but am grateful for the laughs tonight :)

ok, fair enough

I read it that he was respectful of your children as in when he is around them

I would have written "respectful of the fact I have children" which is less ambiguous

but I'll take your word for it

See and again hairy

This happened to me - it was worse though. I was 27 and the man I was with told me he was 25 and also got those around him to keep up this story. Eventually I found out he was only 20. When people are prepared to lie because they think it will more easily get them what they want, it's a bad sign imo.

Heeeeeeeeeey sexxxxyyyy laaaaaaadyyyyy!

Op op op opop it's gangnam style!!

Catchiest song EVER (ok not ever but it's riiiiight up there!)

Yah, yah, yah yaaah, it's Eton style.

Watch out for men in black suits following you OP. And don't go skiing, that never ends well.

Honestly it doesn't matter. How can it possibly matter? I wouldn't be worried in the slightest. I have always been economical about the truth as far as my age is concerned (knock 5 years off.). Mind you I am ancient so need to. I don't lie about anything else.

Don't go to the casino either. All sorts off shit kicks off.

Is it a lie?

If he was trying to fool you, why would he give his date of birth while you were in earshot?

He might just share my Dad's (infuriating) +1 disease.

This manifests itself as an insistence that people are a year older than they are.

My Granny will turn 95 next month. My Dad (and gradually everyone else) gas been saying she's 95 for at least a year.

By New Year she'll be 96.

I don't know why he does it. I just presume everyone is a year younger than he says.

I think he said 30 because he is almost and with you being older he possibly thought you'd tell him to do one if you knew he was in his 20s, BUT I agree, the time to look a prat and come clean was when you saw his passport OR at the very latest the first time you asked him tonight. If he was UK born it wouldn't bother me at all though, I'd just tell him to stop being a prat, but with all the visa stuff etc, it would make me a bit wary, sadly. I would, at the very very least, keep him and the children separate for a while yet. Not because he's any threat to them (LOL) just so they don't get attached to someone who might not be around a long time.

I think Wommer could be right. Greeks say they are a year older ie if they are 30 next birthday, they'll say they are 30 rather than 29 iyswim. Greek and Turkish cultures can be quite similar so maybe this is something they share?