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Well purse my fanjo, giraffes in wheelchairs and submariners going dowwwnnnn - the dating thread hits 30!

999 replies

JulietteMontague · 24/11/2012 14:24

Off we go...

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questions2008 · 02/12/2012 18:56

KW that sounds fab, sleepover won't involve a lot of sleeping then!

bant enjoy your date Coffee

Grin
lulubellaboozle · 02/12/2012 19:08

Kirsty !!!! all sounding good, that's great x

Snapespeare · 02/12/2012 19:15

kirsty high fucking five! I'm so pleased! You are a Goddess!!!

yoga yes, sensitive and effortlessly cool and sexy. so much so, I've decided he's a construct. fit, tattooed, punky, Eco warrior type who has built medical centres in Botswana or some such, has the good grace to have several shirtless photographs and who thinks I'm 'soooo cute & funny' and a 'cool chick' (I'll let the 'chick' reference slide, my staunch feminist principles do not allow the comparison of wommin wombyn women and animals.). Anyway, bar a little bit of mutual post-liking on fb, not heard from him okay, so I imagine it's drunken bravado and won't actually happen. That's ok, the flirting is nice enough. :)

Suspect if he had an Internet dating profile, I'd hate it.

Yogagirl17 · 02/12/2012 19:31

snape Ha, yes I see - being that effortlessly cool takes quite a bit of effort. But flirting is fun indeed. Enjoy Smile

and i am not the least bit jealous of all the Coffee

fayster · 02/12/2012 20:59

So much Coffee going on! Result with the Auditor, Kirsty. He obviously listened, I'm warming to him after a slow start with that questionnaire.

Imagine the look on my face when I arrived at my date's house before our walk, to be offered a cuppa but he had no Coffee! I know he meant coffee, but I couldn't help sniggering out loud. That took some getting out of, I can tell you!

So, lovely walk, cottage pie (cooked by him), a game of scrabble and a very nice kiss goodbye. All in all, a good date, I think (I know it sounds dull to you young people, but I'm 42, Bill, that's what you've got to look forward too). We've agreed I'll cook dinner next Sunday, which is the next time we're both free.

Libby, Bant, how've your dates been?

OhWesternWind · 02/12/2012 21:05

Fay that sounds like a great date. So glad it went well.

And Kirsty. Whoooo!! Excellent stuff.

Snapespeare · 02/12/2012 21:21

fay that sounds lovely. :)

ike1 · 02/12/2012 21:22

Fay ...sounds bloody ideal for us middle yoofsters!

ike1 · 02/12/2012 21:23

Kirsty...hopin the rubbers were not bright red.....

lulubellaboozle · 02/12/2012 21:34

fayster doesn't sound boring at all but I am a middle aged lady, glad it went well even if he was all out of Coffee!

AndLibbyMakesThree · 02/12/2012 21:57

Just back from fab date. Lovely walk, but he still didn't hold my hand until finally, after 2 very frustrating hours, I dropped a very heavy hint. And from then on, it was great - delicious pub lunch, back to his for lots of kissing, then he drove me back to mine for more kissing. I'd worried that after anticipating it so much, it could be a disappointment, but it most certainly wasn't! He's a great kisser. And after an 18-month drought without even a snog, it feels brilliant.

BillMasen · 02/12/2012 22:10

OK well, I've done it. Set up an online dating profile for the first time in my life. I know I've kept it too brief really but it's a start and as I live in a fair sized city there seems to be a few people on there that might be worth finding out more about.

wish me luck.....

KirstyWirsty · 02/12/2012 22:10

libby that sounds like a really lovely date

lulubellaboozle · 02/12/2012 22:11

Libby yippee bet there'll be no stopping him now! ah the restorative power of the snog! bet you go to sleep with a smile on your face tonight!

bant must be having a very long drawn out Coffee?!

fayster · 02/12/2012 22:12

Yay, Libby! Glad you got back into the swing of kissing.

AndLibbyMakesThree · 02/12/2012 22:24

Kirsty, that sounds amazing! Bet you can't wait till Tuesday...

Fayster, sounds like you had a lovely date too.

Bill good luck. OD can be very tough, but just occasionally it's worth it.

And now to sleep ... and yes, definitely with a smile on my face...

domesticgodless · 02/12/2012 23:20

sob I am gagging for coffee and it's 11pm at night. Er....

Bumped into the lovely snape on OKC, she should be surrounded by a dance troupe of gorgeous men like Madonna in the Material Girl vid, or there is no justice.

2 disappointing dates in last week. 29 year old Greek psychiatrist coming up who doesn't seem fazed by the fact I'm 10 years older. He called me, fab sexy voice but I wanted to talk more and the phone went down rather abruptly. But there could be many reasons for that.

I'm working until Thursday and he wants to meet that afternoon. Perhaps I should not have mentioned that I need to get back for childcare by 6 (unsexy) but heck I've got kids and I don't actually want to be with anyone who would prefer me to pretend they don't exist. Which probably reduces my pool of available men to 2 in the UK :/

KirstyWirsty · 03/12/2012 05:53

bant well....??????

48howdidthathappen · 03/12/2012 06:21

Up early, didn't sleep well.
Had a very odd exchange of texts last night with Mr Fuck.
Reading between the lines, think he is feeling vunerable. We had a sip of Coffee on the 2nd date, whole pot on 3rd and 4th date. I think my super coolness about the whole thing is tough for him Confused
God. Doesn't he get that I have to protect myself.
Minefield!

Yogagirl17 · 03/12/2012 07:58

Yay for so much Coffee & Kissing! Smile

So I've just come across this thing on Facebook called meetup.com - shows you various groups in your area (social, food & wine, meditation...) that have meetups (duh). Has anyone ever tried any of these - looks interesting but not sure I'm brave enough.

KirstyWirsty · 03/12/2012 08:08

yoga there's a girl who works beside me who swears by meetup .. Why not give it a go?

48 I find I am a lot cooler than I would have been in the past and if things don't suit me then I won't be doing it .. Yes it's self protection but also the fact that I've been through much worse than just splitting up from someone I have only known for a short time

OhWesternWind · 03/12/2012 10:18

Lovely that there's a bit of positive woo on this thread for once. Let's hope that this will filter through to all of us before too long . . . lurve woo and job woo and family woo and any other sort that's required.

Well, things are looking a little more positive for me after the weekend. I've done quite a bit of thinking about things and what I want is for things to go well with LM as I do, genuinely, think he's lovely (and the best sex I have ever had). But, equally as strongly, I have come to the conclusion that I'm not going to be messed around by him. I also don't think he is messing me around because that's part of his game-plan or because of how he feels about me, rather that he has got so much going on in his life and he has got swept away with it all and is focussing on that rather than me. Not great, but I think it's worth giving it a few weeks to see how things settle down now that the operation is out of the way, divorce is underway and other things are falling into place. I am trying to prepare myself for a lot of divorce fall-out as it seems like it could get very nasty.

LM has been very apologetic about things and for letting me down, and has said he's going to make things up to me, not sure how. I suggested a weekend in Paris Grin I told him I knew he was in a bad place at the moment, I wasn't happy with everything but he was worth sticking around for but he had to realise that I was worth more than being his fall-back option. He's said of course I'm not, he really likes me etc etc. And he is arranging a surprise for me over the Christmas hols . . . So, he's saying the right things but I do need to talk to him about this face-to-face and that's where I have a bit of a problem - he's not suggested meeting up (apart from over Christmas). Not sure what to do about this apart from wait.

Any thoughts? Does this sound sensible or am I leaving myself wide open to being mucked around?

lulubellaboozle · 03/12/2012 11:17

Western good news that things are looking more positive. I think your conclusions are spot on, he's a lovely man and he has been through a lot physically and mentally in the last couple of weeks, which you can make allowances for, but, also you don't want to be an after thought and you want and deserve to be made to feel special. The early days/months of dating should be special and exciting and full of great sex

I think as he is saying all the right things, and he obviously realises that he has let you down and is thinking of ways to make it up to you that there shouldn't be a problem in suggesting that you make a date to meet up before Christmas and have a chance to get things off your chest but also to have a lovely date and put all the rubbish of the last couple of weeks behind you.

could you phone or text him and say that you are really looking forward to your Christmas surprise but it would be nice to see him before then rather than wait another couple of weeks, nothing heavy but maybe a meal out where you could have a chance to bring things up at the appropriate time. Maybe stress that its important to you to see him and that rather than a grand gesture the way to make things up to you is to make time for you but the grand gesture would be good too Grin

bantamrooster · 03/12/2012 11:31

There was lots and lots and lots of Coffee. I'm feeling quite proud of myself to be honest.. Didn't think I had it in me

KirstyWirsty · 03/12/2012 11:32

OWW - What Lulu said :)

Glad things are looking a better between you and LM

Still not word from Bant ????